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Saying Thank You

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Backstory: My FI parents are divorced. He does not have a good relationship with either of them. His mom gave us a good amount of money towards the wedding but wanted nothing to do with planning etc. His dad gave nothing - no interest in wedding either. My parents paid for 80% of the wedding and have gone above and beyond in supporting FI and I for years. At the wedding how do we thank the parents? I cant, on principal, thank his parents in the same way I would thank my own. FI feels the same way. At the same time I will not be rude. How should thank you's happen during our reception?
(Thanking them for raising the man I'm marrying is OUT. So is thanking them for welcoming me to their family.) Any suggestions?
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  • lauralaurlauralaur member
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    edited May 2010
    We just did a general "thank you to everyone for coming" at the reception. We gave gifts to all of the parents at the rehearsal dinner and I wrote each of them cards telling them how much we appreciate everything they've done for us. You could maybe express your thank yous to your parents that way? I fear that anything done at the reception will just hilight that your parents contributed more in a negative way.
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  • ecsmilesecsmiles
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    I would thank all of the parents at the rehearsal dinner and give them a thank you gift - even if its something small, or make a voucher of sorts to promise them an album of wedding photos.  Then afterward, I'd privately do something for your parents.  That way nobody is offended.
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  • danieliza1127danieliza1127 member
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    It's not really common for the bride and groom to do a big thank you at the reception, although some do.  Typically you would give the parents gifts at the rehearsal dinner as the thank you.  If you don't want to give your FI's parents gifts, you could give them to your parents privately.  You don't really need to make at a point at the reception to make it clear to the guests who paid...
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  • duckie1905duckie1905 member
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    edited May 2010
    I would thank all the parents as a group at the RD and then thank your parents and his mother (just because she didn't help you should thank her for the money she gave) privately.  Doing things otherwise would publicly announce feelings about his parents that are pretty unnecessary to get out right before the wedding in front of all your family and friends.
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