Wedding Woes

to have or not to have...

So here's my issue. I'm currently engaged to the love of my life and my best friend. We're trying to plan the wedding but I suffer from severe anxiety and to be honest its a bit to much... Making any choices is hard for me and to decide colors, and place settings, and everything else I'm ready to rip out my hair!!! To plan anything right now is just to much. As of right now we have the wedding set for October of 2012. What I'm currently thinking is to just run away, me and him along with my family (his family is not in the picture unfortunatly) and get married. I'd still like to have the reception and do all that fun stuff but I think just being around all those people and having so many people judging everything about our special day is just to much for me to bare. Is this a normal feeling? Does anyone have any advice? Or am I just freaking out for no good reason? Help!!!!

Re: to have or not to have...

  • I think it can be a normal feeling, but when you put severe anxiety on top of it - that's a huge load to carry.

    I have anxiety issues myself and I can identify with what you are saying about all the choices and peoples opinions, etc.

    As a MOB here is the best I've got for you - plan what makes you feel peaceful and happy.  If that is going away with your family then do it!  You get one wedding day and you need to plan what will be comfortable for you and your FI.  No one (that means you too...) should pressure you into something that you know is not going to go well.

    Spend some time with FI and decide what your comfortable dream looks like - then go for it!  Best of luck to you. 

  • honey you need to hire a wedding planner. I know they can be expensive but shop around. She will interview you and help you make these decisions. It will be the best money you spend for your wedding.
  • thanks everyone for the advice. i think my best option is to sit down and talk to him about it. once we are on the same page talk to my family. thank you. if anyone has anymore advice please feel free to let me know.
  • I totally get wedding anxiety! I can only talk about the wedding for about 10 minutes and then need to take a break. I'm pumped for it but there is SO MUCH TO THINK ABOUT!

    I would definitely suggest hiring a wedding planner. Especially if you decide to elope with some family and have a reception. The reception is where most choices come into play.
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  • I agree that you need a wedding planner. I have a tendency to be neurotic and a bit of a control freak, so hiring a planner is the best thing I could have done.
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  • how much do wedding planners normally run? weve set the date to october of next year so i have lots of time.
  • I found one for $1,800, but they could be more. If you lived closer, I would totally reccommend him.

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