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HallanoleHallanole
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Hey everyone,

So my RSVP deadline was July 1st. I'm still waiting on now 9 people. Out of them a family of 7. They are FI's family. I logged on his facebook to see if he received any messages and I found a posting from 1 on her wall. She just had a baby mid June and the new momma is ill and still in the hospital from an undiagnosed illness. 

I cannot be rude and message her at this time to find out if the family is coming. I don't want to assume either. FI doesn't have phone numbers for this group. I can have him contact his other half sister to call the half sister mother of this clan, but again with what is going on, I am not clear on how it should be done.

I need to know my final numbers so I can contact the venue and get my end balance and pay off. My final appointment and payment is due July 12th. Also note, I need bank check for final balance due, so I need that total a day prior to ensure correct $ amount. 

If this didn't effect $ totals, I would just say scrub it. I am at 120 right now. My inclusive is based on 125. If they all showed, I bump to 130 and will have to tag on another $500 to my current balance. 

What would you do in this scenario? 
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  • pillsburyajpillsburyaj member
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    I wouldn't say anything right now. Maybe give it a few days and then have FI contact them. If you can't do that/don't want to/stuff is still going on, I'd go with your 125 expected estimate.
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  • littlemoments324littlemoments324 member
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    I would contact them as soon as possible.  If FI doesn't have the contact information, I would have FMIL give them a call or track down how to get a hold of them ASAP...by the sounds of it, it sounds like that set isn't coming because of the illness and the new baby...

    We had my mom and my dad on my aunt's side track down people who didn't RSVP by the deadline.
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  • michelle11988michelle11988 member
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    I would have FI reach out.  I understand you don't want to bother them in this busy time of their lives but you might have to.  What if you contact the rest and see if they will push you up and over the 125 mark, then try and reach out to them.

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  • KatieK501KatieK501 member
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    Has FI already messaged the family?

    If not, personally, I would send FB message expressing your concern about the illness and congratulations about the baby.  If someone replies to that, then I would ask about the wedding.  Maybe they'd bring it up in her reply anyway.
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