Foot Stomp Not cool...(vent)

lmwilber · June 2011

So, the good news is that I am down 8lbs from where I started this spring. I have been eating much better for the most part, and I have averaged about 3 workouts a weeks. So far this week I have worked out everyday.

The bad news is that I WANT TO BE SKINNY NOW!!!!! I hate how slow this process is going to be. I hate that its going to take me months to look the way I want to look, and that even then, the body I have will still be curvy (and WTF why does it seem like all the weight I have lost is from my boobs!! Not cool).

I know that everything I am doing has actual heath benefits, and I am trying to focus on the long term. Its just so difficult. And to make matters worse, BF and I have his family vacation in 7 weeks. It was going to be hard enough to put on a bathing suit (his family is all super skinny), but now his sis BFF will be joining us and this girl is thin and ripped. A few years ago (and when I was 15lbs thinner) I walked in on her asking BF's sis how BF could date someone as fat as me (I was 118 lbs then!!). Oh, and fun side note, she's thrown herself at BF before, long story. So yay! She will be on vacation, in a two piece, thin and tan.

::head desk::

/end vent

IrishDreamer · June 2011

I'm not far from Ohio....want me to come kick her ass???

Don't let some hoochie get you down, you are doing AWESOME at becoming healthier and losing weight. You are a phenomenal women, and don't let ANYONE tell you otherwise. You are a beautiful, strong, kick-ass chick.

bethsmiles · June 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_foot-stomp-not-coolvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b57a8295-8c1b-4907-9560-b354aadeee08Post:5e2a56d1-325d-4f10-9116-2b474155a56a">*Foot Stomp* Not cool...(vent)</a>:
[QUOTE] BF and I have his family vacation in 7 weeks. It was going to be hard enough to put on a bathing suit (his family is all super skinny), but now his sis BFF will be joining us and this girl is thin and ripped. A few years ago (and when I was 15lbs thinner) <strong>I walked in on her asking BF's sis how BF could date someone as fat as me </strong> (I was 118 lbs then!!). Oh, and fun side note, she's thrown herself at BF before, long story. So yay! She will be on vacation, in a two piece, thin and tan. ::head desk:: /end vent
Posted by lmwilber[/QUOTE]

What a bitch! I know it's super hard to not compare yourself to others (I do it all the time) and it's super frustrating to be doing so much work and making so many changes in your life but not see fast results. I don't really have any advice :( but I know how it feels to want to be skinny right now.

jaycee7389 · June 2011

Wow I completely read that wrong and thought you said your BF's sister threw herself at him. Glad I re-read it lol.

I feel your pain! Losing weight can be a major PITA.

And I have to add that I wish I weighed in the 130s again.

IrishDreamer · June 2011

The b!tch that said you are fat....is a nasty twatwaffle and a few other things I could say that I'm sure if I used would offend quite a few people lol

Sparrow87 · June 2011

What a vain, conceited, B!tch! I'm sure you're going to look stunning in your bathing suit and BF won't be able to take his eyes off you!

lmwilber · June 2011

Thanks ladies, I know that I really should not compair myself to her...but she is like my self esteem kryptonite

Irish- twatwaffle

love it!

Peaseblossom55 · June 2011

I am sure you will look great in a bathing suit, anything worth doing is worth doing right. You are working out and eating right, it may be a bit slower than you hoped but it's that the best way to do it, it may time some time to be where you want to be, I bet you look great now.

peekaboo2011 · June 2011

Lol twatwaffle. It's been a while since I heard that one.

I don't even have words for how angry that stupid little sorryassbitchofanexcuseforawoman makes me. 118 pounds and you're JUDGING someone for it?!

You, my love, will look PHENOM in your bikini. Do it just to piss her the hell off. And make sure you have BF look at you with those super puppy dog eyes every time she's around. I try not to break out the c-word, but she makes me want to.

What a bitchy little twat. You should tell her to close her legs, it's not Red Lobster.

OceanTide365 · June 2011

ooooh, she sounds like a bunch of words-I-try-to-keep-out-of-my-vocabulary... stuff like that gets my blood boiling. I'm a little on the heavier side and I know what its like to want to be skinny- losing weight is NOT easy by any means,but 8 lbs is great! Just ignore the skinny bitch.

SenoritaCupcake · June 2011

So I've been gone forevs since med school called, but i popped back in to check on Marley, and I was gonna just pop back out, but this super needs to be commented on.

1) I *do* live in Northeast Ohio now, just moved, so if you want me to kick her ass i'd be more than happy to oblige.

2) She very obviously is majorly jealous of you cause your BF wants you and not her and she knows it. She says bitchy things like that cause she's trying to make herself feel better. When you're on the trip just remind yourself, *you* got the man.

3) Skinny is not sexy. Fit and curvy is. I promise that being called skinny and curveless hurts just as much as being called fat.

So like i said, ass kicking is always an option, i don't have a license to lose yet

lmwilber · June 2011

Aw, thanks Cupcake!! I've missed you. I didn't know that you were in my neck of the woods now! How is med school going? Where are you studying? I think we should try to have a NEO knotty meetup soon before Ember moves!

and yea, she is obviously jealous. This girl was the village bike at the old restaurant BF worked at, after BF turned her down she became BFF's with his sis, she worked there too, and now she is pretty *close* with BF's older bro. She talks to BF's mom a lot, and even came out to diner with us for BF's mom b-day (BF sis was not there). I think its that she just want to be part of a family, which makes me (almost) feel bad for her. The thing that kills me is that no one really gets why I don't like her. For awhile I thought it was because everyone liked her better, but maybe its just because they do feel bad for her.

But she's a twatwaffle so I'm gonna continue disliking her...

sparkles88 · June 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_foot-stomp-not-coolvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b57a8295-8c1b-4907-9560-b354aadeee08Post:5d0f750f-2a48-404d-ba3f-b4555995b122">Re: *Foot Stomp* Not cool...(vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]So I've been gone forevs since med school called, but i popped back in to check on Marley, and I was gonna just pop back out, but this super needs to be commented on. 1) I *do* live in Northeast Ohio now, just moved, so if you want me to kick her ass i'd be more than happy to oblige. 2) She very obviously is majorly jealous of you cause your BF wants you and not her and she knows it. She says bitchy things like that cause she's trying to make herself feel better. When you're on the trip just remind yourself, *you* got the man.<strong> 3) Skinny is not sexy. Fit and curvy is. I promise that being called skinny and curveless hurts just as much as being called fat. </strong>So like i said, ass kicking is always an option, i don't have a license to lose yet :)
Posted by SenoritaCupcake[/QUOTE]

True story to the bolded part. I've been on both ends of the spectrum, and it seems like there's never a nice middle ground for women. Just look at female celebrities. One day they're too fat; the next day they're anorexic.

Wilber, I would just like to remind you, that you have a law degree and are preparing to pass the bar exam. Being a lawyer is a lot more bad asss than weighing less than 118 lbs. It's a much bigger accomplishment. May I ask what said bitchy girl does for a living?

becunning2 · June 2011

Wow! She's definitely jealous and acting out. But try to focus on the positives: You've been getting healthy, and your boyfriend loves you. Rock it!

When I started working out, my mom suggested that I take measurements and record them. Sometimes you keep losing inches even if your weight stays the same. It's been encouraging for me to still see my size shrink away (however slowly) especially when my weight plateaus for awhile.

Keep up the good work, and don't let the twatwaffle get you down!

lmwilber · June 2011

Sparkles- She is a bartender/server, and has been working on his business degree for the past 3 years. So....yeah....

Liv- thanks! I think you look pretty rocking yourself

Becunning- thats a great idea! I think that I'll take some tonight. Thanks!

Hazel_B · June 2011

What an awful person! Don't believe anything she says!

As for getting healtheir, it took time to put on the weight that you are trying to lose, so you can't expect it to come off immediately. Remember you are off to a great start!

csousa1 · June 2011

I feel your pain Wilber!! I have been working out 5 times a week and eating healthy since FEBRUARY and I have lost a whopping 10 lbs - I'm friggin pissed. However, my mom and sister knocked some sense into me that I have gained quite a bit of muscle from my workouts, and that weighs more than fat, and I LOOK and feel better than just 10lbs worth, so that is what really matters. I'm sure this is the same case for you

Also, screw that b!tch. I feel you there as well. A BM in the wedding I am going to with BF Friday made out with BF like twice, and she kept throwing herself at him after that and threw a hissy fit when he brought his GF (not me, his ex) to a party. On top of that, she just had a baby, but she's still much thinner than me. I just keep reminding myself, as should you, that he is with me and not her for a reason.

marleylikeair · June 2011

I like that we are all ready to march over there and kick some skinny b!tch butt. NEY Army to the rescue.

She sucks. I second what Cupcake said: YOU got the man. She's just jealous and is acting kind of trashy in trying to hit on your BF.

Also, I love what Sun said.

SenoritaCupcake · June 2011

Aw thanks sweetie! I've missed you guys too. I just can't seem to do this thing halfway, and unfortunately no longer have the hours to spend on it that i want to with med school. A meetup sounds great, YGPM

And don't worry about what everyone else thinks about her. In fact it's in your best interest to just smile and be nice and not say anything negetive about her. Then you're shiny pretty personality is even more apparent to all involved.

loves2shop4shoes · June 2011

I think the only way I could get down to 130s now is if I cut off a leg.

You are not fat! That girl was just a biitch.

lmwilber · June 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_foot-stomp-not-coolvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b57a8295-8c1b-4907-9560-b354aadeee08Post:fd505259-30e4-470b-9fb7-5cf44e7e51b8">Re: *Foot Stomp* Not cool...(vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]I think the only way I could get down to 130s now is if I <strong>cut off a leg</strong>. You are not fat! That girl was just a biitch.
Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]
I though about going that route...Damn you law school and your lulling me into bad eat choices!!<div>
</div><div>Also, where have been? I haven't seen you post in like 2 days?</div>

MidniteRae · June 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_foot-stomp-not-coolvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b57a8295-8c1b-4907-9560-b354aadeee08Post:5e2a56d1-325d-4f10-9116-2b474155a56a">*Foot Stomp* Not cool...(vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]So, the good news is that I am down 8lbs from where I started this spring. I have been eating much better for the most part, and I have averaged about 3 workouts a weeks. So far this week I have worked out everyday. The bad news is that I WANT TO BE SKINNY NOW!!!!! I hate how slow this process is going to be. I hate that its going to take me months to look the way I want to look, and that even then, the body I have will still be curvy (and WTF why does it seem like all the weight I have lost is from my boobs!! Not cool). I know that everything I am doing has actual heath benefits, and I am trying to focus on the long term. Its just so difficult. And to make matters worse, BF and I have his family vacation in 7 weeks. It was going to be hard enough to put on a bathing suit (his family is all super skinny), but now his sis BFF will be joining us and this girl is thin and ripped. A few years ago (and when I was 15lbs thinner) <strong>I walked in on her asking BF's sis how BF could date someone as fat as me </strong>(I was 118 lbs then!!). Oh, and fun side note, she's thrown herself at BF before, long story. So yay! She will be on vacation, in a two piece, thin and tan. ::head desk:: /end vent
Posted by lmwilber[/QUOTE]
What a rude bitch. It doesn't matter how much you weigh, that is still an extremely rude thing to say. Your BF loves you the way you are and I'm assuming supportive of your weight loss. It shouldn't matter what his family thinks.

desertsun · June 2011

I'd rather be a good person than be skinny.

MidniteRae · June 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_foot-stomp-not-coolvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b57a8295-8c1b-4907-9560-b354aadeee08Post:5d0f750f-2a48-404d-ba3f-b4555995b122">Re: *Foot Stomp* Not cool...(vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]So I've been gone forevs since med school called, but i popped back in to check on Marley, and I was gonna just pop back out, but this super needs to be commented on. 1) I *do* live in Northeast Ohio now, just moved, so if you want me to kick her ass i'd be more than happy to oblige. 2) She very obviously is majorly jealous of you cause your BF wants you and not her and she knows it. She says bitchy things like that cause she's trying to make herself feel better. When you're on the trip just remind yourself, *you* got the man. 3) <strong>Skinny is not sexy</strong>. Fit and curvy is. I promise that being called skinny and curveless hurts just as much as being called fat. So like i said, ass kicking is always an option, i don't have a license to lose yet :)
Posted by SenoritaCupcake[/QUOTE]
Um, what? Even though I have wide hips and have big chest, I am still really skinny. I know you are trying to make her feel better, but seriously? That is kinda rude. I take it as I'm not sexy because I'm skinny. Near the end of last year, I was finally able to gain weight because I was on a shitton of antibiotics. I'm finally off antibiotics and am able to workout again and the weight is going away. Just because you are trying to make someone feel better, doesn't mean you can say rude things about other people in the process.

lmwilber · June 2011

Midnight- I think that Cupcake ment that women who are abnormally, unhealthily, walking skeleton, heroine sheik skinny are not as attractive. Not that a woman who works out, eats well, has a healthy relationship with her body and food and is skinny is unattractive. At least that how I took it.

loves2shop4shoes · June 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_foot-stomp-not-coolvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b57a8295-8c1b-4907-9560-b354aadeee08Post:459fe574-cb19-43f7-ba33-e406c648fbb8">Re: *Foot Stomp* Not cool...(vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Foot Stomp* Not cool...(vent) : Also, where have been? I haven't seen you post in like 2 days?
Posted by lmwilber[/QUOTE]

<div>I've been busy. I've been forcing myself to go to Corefusion classes for the last 2 days straight. I have an entirely too expensive membership...why not make use of it? I've also been working a ton. My last day of training is tonight. I have a waitress test either tomorrow or Friday...and then I'm a full blown waitress. Yay!</div><div>
</div><div>
</div><div>Don't worry though. I get my grades back on Friday. I have no doubt that I'll be on here, crying about them (either out of shock or sadness, lol).</div>

SenoritaCupcake · June 2011

midnite, wilbur (thanks for the back up) was correct, I was referring to the unhealthy look. And as someone who has a skinny waist and *not* great hips and boobs like you, I was definitely not insulting skinny people, quite the opposite actually. That's why I made the comment about how it hurts just as bad to be called skinny and curveless. BF has spent many a night comforting his crying girlfriend when my best friends made offhand comments like "what are you talking about, you have no hips" or "you can't be the distraction, you're so skinny, you don't have any boobs" or "can you believe this bathing suit top ever fit over these boobs? here do you want it? " My point is that the grass is not always greener on the other side, body image is a very fickle beast.

*sigh* this is kinda why i peaced from NEY in the first place.

marleylikeair · June 2011

Midnite, Cupcake, and Wilbur, this kind of reminds me of a blog post from a few years ago by Scott Adams (of Dilbert fame). The general gist of it was that on internet forums, it's so easy to take something someone has said in a way they didn't mean it, then get take issue with what you think they meant, and say so. Then the next person (or the OP) says something that argues with a point they think the person responding is trying to make, and it goes on and on.

Scott Adams said it much funnier than I can. I'll try to find this post...it's really old...

Anyway, I think what's important here is that if you're a good, happy, non-asinine person, you're a million times more attractive than someone who is none of those things, no matter their body proportions. I think we're pretty much all saying here that this girl is none of those things...

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