Shameful secrets.

LDYGTR13 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]I can't quit Glee, even though it sucks so much right now.
Posted by maratea[/QUOTE]
Agreed - it can be cheesy and stupid, but I still love it. I youtube the songs all the time at work. I need a life.

SarahPLiz · February 2012

I only watch Jersey Shore because I have major love for Vinny. I cried when he left a couple weeks ago. He's cute AND he has feelings... swoon! Seriously, I'd watch him all day long. I think we could be friends.

I think Stephen Colbert is hot. Way hotter than Brad Pitt. Brains and humor are sexy.

I can't keep plants alive. I kill them all because I forget to water them. I'd love to have a garden one day, but I fear they will all die. Despite the old tale that you shold have a plant and a pet before you have a kid, I always feed my kid. He cries when he's hungry. Plants don't.

LP11509 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shameful secrets. : That's pretty standard, isn't it? You're never not anorexic, just in a better place, for lack of better wording? I feel like my friends who have struggled with it are never over it - because it's part of who they are? Like an alcoholic or addict?
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah, pretty much. It's more that I hide that I do this and tell people that I've over it because I'm too embarrassed to admit that I'm not. I'm just sick of doing it, and of hiding it too. </div>

Starmusica · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shameful secrets. : Sorry, it probably was a little too heavy I've just been holding it in for a long time, and I can't bring myself to admit it to anyone IRL. I just wanted to get it off my chest. I just can't seem to find a happy medium. I go to toward one extreme or the other. Need to work on that.
Posted by LP11509[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>LP- as someone who has had some issues related to weight, I can tell you you shouldn't apologize for talking about it. Being honest about it- even on here- is a GOOD THING. It means you recognize that a problem exists. Have you talked to H about this stuff? I know my H has been my biggest support. I spent most of high school and college in a very unhealthy state but now I have really gotten past all of it and I've learned how to diet in a healthy manner when I need to and I think the support of my H helped that. </div>

LesPaul · February 2012

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[QUOTE] I am a Jesus-lovin' Christian who also loves homosexuals and very vocally believes in gay marriage. I also think many Christians spend WAY too much time focused on homosexuality and abortion as a way to deflect attention away from other things ('sins' if you will) that are way more prevelant and more significant (such as greed). - I dream of being a SAHM.
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]

Ditto big-time both of these, numbers.

Also, I love hot dogs, Kraft boxed mac & cheese, and Jack in the Box tacos. I would eat all three every single day if I could.

J&K10910 · February 2012

Sarah, I love Vinny too. I said I would stop watching if he didn't come back.

mehgank · February 2012

- I'm with Nebb, I hate showering. It just takes so much effort, especially since I have really long, thick hair. When I shampoo/condition, I have to rinse my hair for at least three minutes (each time). Add into that shaving my legs, pits and plumbing, washing my face, and scrubb-a-dub-dubbing the rest of my body, and my showers feel like forever. Then when I get out, I have to dry off, wrap my hair in a towel, lotion up, clean out my ears, get dressed, brush out my wet, matted hair, etc. It's exhausting.

- I hate cats. Kittens are cute, but yeah, pretty much every cat I've met has been a huge asshole.

- I'm horrible at finances. Like, super bad. The only reason I manage our bills is because 1) H is even worse at finances than I am, and 2) H deploys so much that every responsibility falls to me anyway. I hate math. I hate money. Balancing my checkbook is so overwhelming that I procrastinate it like a mofo.

SarahPLiz · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Sarah, I love Vinny too. I said I would stop watching if he didn't come back.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]
I just want to snuggle him when he gets all teary eyed and introspective.

chelseamb11 · February 2012

I secretly wish my dad would do something super appalling so that I can cut him out of my life for good without the possiblity of being guilt tripped by him or his side of the family. I feel so bad for wishing that, but last time I tried to halfway do it/at least talk to him about him getting the help he needs, he turned it all around on me. If he wer to do something unarguably awful, he wouldn't have anything to turn around on me.

LP11509 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shameful secrets. : Have you/do you see a therapist? You don't have to answer that. But it might be something that is helpful for you.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

<div>I haven't. I really should. The biggest barrier for me is that since I'm deaf, I'd either have to deal with lipreading, or get an interpreter. The Deaf community is really small, and I'm trying to get a job in the mental health field working with Deaf people. So I don't really want anyone knowing about all of my issues, even though interpreters have their own COE. There are places that have therapists who sign, but those are the places I'm looking to apply to work. So I kind of feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I need to just suck it up and figure out a plan though. </div>

[Deleted User] · February 2012

LP, I understand where you're coming from. I deal with similiar thoughts/issues. Sometimes they win, sometimes I win. Have you talked to your H? I'd think he would be your biggest support system so you don't have to hold it all in or feel like you need to hide anything from him - which can often make it worse.

LP11509 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]I only watch Jersey Shore because I have major love for Vinny. I cried when he left a couple weeks ago. He's cute AND he has feelings... swoon! Seriously, I'd watch him all day long. I think we could be friends. I think Stephen Colbert is hot. Way hotter than Brad Pitt. Brains and humor are sexy. I can't keep plants alive. I kill them all because I forget to water them. I'd love to have a garden one day, but I fear they will all die. Despite the old tale that you shold have a plant and a pet before you have a kid, I always feed my kid. He cries when he's hungry. Plants don't.
Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]

<div>This reminds me - my parents are in FL and I'm suppossed to be watering their plants. Yeah, they've been gone a week. Guess who hasn't watered the plants once? Oops. </div>

Nebb · February 2012

I never went to any of my graduations. Education was a total afterthought for me.

baystateapple · February 2012

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[QUOTE]I secretly wish my dad would do something super appalling so that I can cut him out of my life for good without the possiblity of being guilt tripped by him or his side of the family. I feel so bad for wishing that, but last time I tried to halfway do it/at least talk to him about him getting the help he needs, he turned it all around on me. If he wer to do something unarguably awful, he wouldn't have anything to turn around on me.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

That's how I feel about FIL. He is an emotionally-abusive father and husband, but for some reason my ILs haven't kicked him out of their lives. A lot of H's issues stem back to the way his father treated him growing up, and the way he continues to treat the family. I wish he would just go away. Or that someone -- anyone -- would tell him to GTFO for good.

SarahPLiz · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shameful secrets. : This reminds me - my parents are in FL and I'm suppossed to be watering their plants. Yeah, they've been gone a week. Guess who hasn't watered the plants once? Oops.
Posted by LP11509[/QUOTE]
I used to have tomato plants on my balcony when I lived in Houston. One summer (100+ temps) I went on vacation for a week and my cousin forgot to water them. They didn't totally die but the tomatoes tasted like ketchup they were so concentrated!

J&K10910 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shameful secrets. : I haven't. I really should. The biggest barrier for me is that since I'm deaf, I'd either have to deal with lipreading, or get an interpreter. The Deaf community is really small, and I'm trying to get a job in the mental health field working with Deaf people. So I don't really want anyone knowing about all of my issues, even though interpreters have their own COE. There are places that have therapists who sign, but those are the places I'm looking to apply to work. So I kind of feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I need to just suck it up and figure out a plan though.
Posted by LP11509[/QUOTE]

I get that. I think it would be worth it if you could find an interpreter. At least looking into it maybe.

Eating disorders are hard, yo. You shouldn't have to deal with it alone.

Celles · February 2012

The background on my desktop at work is a romantic (sweet romantic, not sexy romantic) scene between my Sith inquisitor -- from the new Star Wars game -- and one of her NPC companions. It replaced a picture of me and H.

I'm crushing on a cartoon character for the first time since Gambit, circa X-Men #45 (and that was back in the 90's, so I was... 16?). I am a hopeless failure of an adult.

musicalsunlight · February 2012

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[QUOTE]I never went to any of my graduations. Education was a total afterthought for me.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

I didn't go to my HS graduation, because it was the same night as one of my last dance performances with my studio, and after spending 15 years there, I felt a lot more emotionally tied to the dancing than watching my 500+ classmates get their diplomas. I don't regret it at all. I only went to my college graduation because my parents really wanted me too. It was so boring. I'll probably go to my law school graduation though, because it will be one that I'm actually super excited about graduating from, haha. It will be like a HALLELUJAH moment.

heyjude23 · February 2012

Coming out of lurking for this one:

-I have a huge crush on Gordon Ramsay. Huge.

-I love watching all those crappy ABC Family shows: Pretty Little Liars, Switched at Birth, The Lying Game. The Lying Game is probably some of the worst acting you will ever see, but I can't stop watching.

-I'm so nervous about FI's job future. He's applying everywhere, and we could be living who-knows-where by the fall. I can't wait for him to be hired, but I'm so apprehensive about where we will have to move. It stresses me out way more than I care to admit.

LesPaul · February 2012

I'm with you on the finances, Mehg. I'm bad with money, and not where I should be overall. The shameful part? I'm a CPA and I know better. Kind of a 'do as I say, not what I do' situation - my own money is a mess, and I know I should try so much harder to get myself in order. I also don't know a lot about investing, and I don't care to learn.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · February 2012

I still love the Kardashians and I don't care who knows it.

I don't think that's a very big secret, though.

LP11509 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shameful secrets. : LP- as someone who has had some issues related to weight, I can tell you you shouldn't apologize for talking about it. Being honest about it- even on here- is a GOOD THING. It means you recognize that a problem exists. Have you talked to H about this stuff? I know my H has been my biggest support. I spent most of high school and college in a very unhealthy state but now I have really gotten past all of it and I've learned how to diet in a healthy manner when I need to and I think the support of my H helped that.
Posted by Starmusica[/QUOTE]

<div>Thanks Star. H knows that I have a history with anorexia, but sometimes he just doesn't...GET it. He doesn't understand the whole psychology behind it. Which is starting to cause problems, too. He's on board with eating healthy, but he doesn't get why it's a struggle for me to maintain that middle ground. He's not like...mean about it or anything like that, he just doesn't understand it.</div>

amys325 · February 2012

I might be weird, cause I'm not really ashamed of any of these things, but I've been told before that I should be...

In high school my friends and I used to go to ICP concerts and I would paint my face like a clown.

I sleep with a piece of denim because I like to rub it before I go to sleep.

Sometimes when I'm at home by myself, I eat peanut butter out of the jar with a hershey's chocolate bar as the utensil (ok, this one I'm ashamed of).

I also love Ramen...like the 3 for a $1 kind.

Celles · February 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm with you on the finances, Mehg. I'm bad with money, and not where I should be overall. The shameful part? I'm a CPA and I know better. Kind of a 'do as I say, not what I do' situation - my own money is a mess, and I know I should try so much harder to get myself in order. I also don't know a lot about investing, and I don't care to learn.
Posted by LesPaul[/QUOTE]

I'm not a CPA but I am a corporate credit manager, and I am always late on my bills. Always. It's never because I don't have the money to pay them; it's just that I'm disorganized and constantly forgetting due dates until they've already passed. I'm trying to transfer responsibility over our personal finances to H, who is in consumer banking (or will be, when he's employed again). But I'm starting to realize he's just as bad.

(I'm never late enough for it to report to the credit bureaus, but usually late enough to rack up fees. Sigh.)

number55 · February 2012

Oh, budgets are a good 'shameful secret'...I have a really hard time saying no - and for the next 6 months I have to get really good at it. But I am bad at it. We aren't in debt, this is saying no to save, I think that's what makes it harder for me. I need to start thinking of what we need in savings as a debt.

mehgank · February 2012

LP, it's good that you're able to talk about your eating disorder. Talking about it here has helped me immensely. I still have my trigger moments, for instance, if H and I are fighting/in a funk, I rarely am hungry. Food is usually the last thing on my mind when I'm stressed. I also feel guilty when I eat "bad" food, even though it's rare that I eat that stuff. I'll finish eating and immediately start thinking about how I can work it off the next day, and I'll start feeling like my clothes are too tight, even though my food hasn't even begun to digest yet.

LDYGTR13 · February 2012

I didn't attend my college graduation - dad had to go on a cruise for work with different employees of his and he said I could go on the cruise with him or go to graduation without him. I chose the cruise.

I don't regret the cruise, but I do regret the fact that I dont feel like I graduated from college and I feel like it has kept me from thinking I deserve more work wise.

SarahPLiz · February 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm with you on the finances, Mehg. I'm bad with money, and not where I should be overall. The shameful part? I'm a CPA and I know better. Kind of a 'do as I say, not what I do' situation - my own money is a mess, and I know I should try so much harder to get myself in order. I also don't know a lot about investing, and I don't care to learn.
Posted by LesPaul[/QUOTE]
I don't know jack about investing. People misunderstand CPAs all the time. We are not finance people. We just put money in categories based on established principles. We don't decide who gets to use the money and how much. That's management's issue.

LDYGTR13 · February 2012

OMG AMY WAS A JUGGALO! I find that hilarious. I dont know why. I know nothing about ICP or Juggalos other than what Workaholics told me

SarahPLiz · February 2012

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[QUOTE]I might be weird, cause I'm not really ashamed of any of these things, but I've been told before that I should be...<strong> In high school my friends and I used to go to ICP concerts and I would paint my face like a clown</strong>. I sleep with a piece of denim because I like to rub it before I go to sleep. Sometimes when I'm at home by myself, I eat peanut butter out of the jar with a hershey's chocolate bar as the utensil (ok, this one I'm ashamed of). I also love Ramen...like the 3 for a $1 kind.
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]

<div>That is shameful. I didnt know girls liked ICP too. Gross.</div><div>
</div><div>But the PB and hershey's- not shamefull at all.</div><div>
</div><div>And Duds, I PPH mac n cheese and hot dogs!</div>

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