No bride/father dance, but still groom/mother dance

ldcf11206 · February 2010

My dad isn't coming to my wedding. We don't have a relationship, so he's not invited. My brother is walking me down the aisle. My fiance & I are going to do our first dance, but I don't want to do a dance with my brother or my grandfather or any other man. My fiance is still going to do the dance with his mother.

My question is, is it wrong to have only the first dance and the mother/son dance...no dance for me and my brother/grandfather/whoever? Do I have to dance with someone to avoide the awkwardness of the situation?

danieliza1127 · February 2010

I don't think there would be any awkwardness. Your side of the family knows you don't have a relationship with your Dad I'm sure, so it's not like they're expecting anything. His side, they'll figure it out. I don't think it's awkward. Don't overthink it. Most guests don't care too much about all of those special dances anyway, it's just something we brides make them sit through.

luckyme502 · February 2010

I think it's fine. My father and I are doing a father/daughter dance, but since FI's mother is deceased there will be no mother/son dance. FI and talked about it before we made a decision about this.

homediva · February 2010

Not awkward! One thing you could do if you are worried about it is have the emcee say something like "Now FI and FMIL will kick off the dancing with a mother-son dance" and then half way through have him invite the rest of the families onto the dance floor.

splint00 · February 2010

I have a very similar problem and I'm still on the fence with regard to even inviting my father or not, whom I have not seen in 15 years. Even if he ends up coming, there is no way he will be walking me down the aisle (I want to go solo but I don't see anyone else doing that, hmm) and then will the awkwardness increase substantially if he's at the reception listening to the mother/son dance and no father/daughter dance? I mean, there's just no way it's happening. And what about photos? Oh my god, I'm sorry, I should have started another post for this one. But to answer your question, clearly I'm with you on this, if he's not even at the reception, then there's no way for it to be weird.

dragonfly_luvr65 · February 2010

My fiance's mother is passed and he will not be having a mother/son dance. I am still having my father/daughter dance with my childern as my father is passed as well. Their is nothing wrong if you do not want to dance to the father/daughter dance as this is YOUR wedding. It is not for guest to judge what you do. this is your and your new husbands day. Do what you feel is right in your heart. I see nothing wrong with not dancing.

BRITTANYBRIDGETTE · February 2010

i think what you want to do is totally fine. I have the same problem except my father is invited to the wedding... he's not waking me down the aisle and I don't want to dance with him... So I figured I would dance with my brother. I think it will make my mother happy and hey when else will I get a chance to dance with my brother. Through it all my brother was there.

No bride/father dance, but still groom/mother dance

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