So I think I have vented before about stuff like this. But I am mad at my FMIL. Basically, my fiance calls her all the time and she is always "too busy" to talk, and then I get on facebook and I guess shes' too busy playting Farmville to talk to her son--beacuse shes logged on doing crap on facebook. Thats vent number one.
Number 2 is that...
I asked her for a modified guest list. I know its early, but my parents are going to put down a 20% deposit at the caterer this weekend. I emailed FMIL and said "hey we need an updated count. because right now we are at 113-- and we are hoping to get the list to stay around 140. but my parents have more to invite, so i was just looking for an estimate of How many more people you will add to your preliminary list.... so we can give the caterer a good idea of the count" (We need to know a basic count, so the caterer can figure out the deposit!). I mean the deposit my parents put down is going to be a lot more, if say she has 50 more people she wants to add!
So they had 22 perople on the guest list. And I noticed, since we have been getting invited to my fi's cousins wedding on his dad's side- that NONE of those people were on there. Yes, she did not indclude Fiance's first cousins- on his dads side. People that invited US to their wedding. SO I emailed back and said "sorry, I noticed tjs cousins are missing--isn't that an additional 9 people and their spouses?"
and she wrote back "thats' not my side of the family. i don't really Talk to them, i dont know them well -i can't help you. The list I gave you is complete as far as im concerned"
OK THANKS. Thanks for your complete list of 22 people. So now, my fiance or I have to call his aunt and uncles on his dad's side and ask for their kids addresses and etc... because we don't even have it. Like THANKS for the help- Just add one more thing on my list.
You know, I understand that they can't contribute financially, but Don't you think it would be nice to take one thing off my fiance or my's plate? Since you aren't doing ANYTHING else to help- maybe you could offer to get their names. addresses and numbers of these people for us. Especially knowing you can't contribute to anything financially, and that you don't physically live here to go to vendor meetings-- maybe you would try to Help any other way you know how.
My friends parents live in CAli and they can't help them a lot, but didn't her FMIL send her some birdal magazines? And email her "how can I help?"
Thanks for the help
To be honest. I'm annoyed becuase I think its unfair to my parents to have to pay for people that don't even want to participate or appreciate that we are planning this big event. Its so nice of my parents to offer to help- but its almost like a slap in their face that future inlaws could care less. Like they just assume us and my parents will just handle it. and take care of everything. Like, don't worry about offering to do anything- let my parents take care of it all.. .don't worry.
It feels like we are getting taken advantage of.
Which- isn't the first time I've felt this way with my Future in laws.
One time they insisted on seeing us, so we flew half way to meet them- and because we only flew half way they expected us to pay for everything. They just sat there when the check came to dinner, etc. IT made me angry and they go "well we had to pay to fly here to meet you" well guess what SO DID WE!
im so mad.
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