Registries--Do I Have Too Much?

[Deleted User] · January 2013

I have read over and over that if you prefer cash to have a small registry. However, no one is going to bring cash to the shower, since showers are FOR gifts, so I ended up creating three registries (two here where we live and one to a store near where I'm originally from).

There are 90 people on the shower list (I KNOW), and I have 117 items registered for.

I can cut it back. It's mostly just fiesta to finish out our collection and some odds and ends and two bigger ticket items we will buy after the wedding (a hutch and a vacuum).

Enough? Too much? Just right?

Maggie0829 · January 2013

I think it is enough because not everyone will be able to attend your shower thus not everyone will buy you a gift. You can always beef it up later for your wedding if you want but since you primarily want money I wouldn't. Also, make sure that you have a wide range of prices on your registry. As for the 90 person guest list, is that something you want or do you feel obligated to invite that many people? If they are all your nearest and dearest then go for it, but you should never feel obligated to include people on you shower invite list.

mlg78 · January 2013

90 people? Please tell me you're having multiple showers. I'm cringing at my shower of only 40!

90 people and 117 items is NOT enough. I don't know about yours but my registry has a boatload of items under $20, and many under $10 so most people will give more than one gift.

lauralaur · January 2013

Were it me I would add a little bit more. Are any of those items something like a serving spoon? Unless it's made of crystal it's unlikely anyone will show up with just the spoon, rather, they'll buy that plus some mixing bowls or whatnot, which would reduce your gift to guest ratio. But if you think the majority of the items could make a gift all on their own you're probably fine.

[Deleted User] · January 2013

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[QUOTE]I think it is enough because not everyone will be able to attend your shower thus not everyone will buy you a gift. You can always beef it up later for your wedding if you want but since you primarily want money I wouldn't. Also, make sure that you have a wide range of prices on your registry. <strong>As for the 90 person guest list, is that something you want or do you feel obligated to invite that many people?</strong> If they are all your nearest and dearest then go for it, but you should never feel obligated to include people on you shower invite list.
Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>The guest list was my mom's to come up with. I'm not happy with it, but it's already done. I'm very nervous about it, to be honest.

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[Deleted User] · January 2013

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[QUOTE]90 people? Please tell me you're having multiple showers. I'm cringing at my shower of only 40! 90 people and 117 items is NOT enough. I don't know about yours but my registry has a boatload of items under $20, and many under $10 so most people will give more than one gift.
Posted by mlg78[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Nope. Just the one.</div><div>
</div><div>I think 117 is ok, given many people won't give a present, because many people won't come (we're hoping for 50/60, but obviously all 90 CAN come, we can accomodate them, but I'm hoping for less, because I'm nervous about it)

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Maggie0829 · January 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Registries--Do I Have Too Much? : The guest list was my mom's to come up with. I'm not happy with it, but it's already done. I'm very nervous about it, to be honest.
Posted by Domino04[/QUOTE]

Lesson learned, your Mom should not have made the guest list. This is a party for you so you should have the people you want be invited, no more, no less. It was unfair of your Mom to subject you to such a huge shower if that wasn't what you wanted. Sorry that happened.

Just keep an eye on your registry as your shower gets closer. If you see it getting low the add some more items.

Good luck!

mlg78 · January 2013

I agree -- keep on eye on that registry. I happened to look at mine last night (we're still 7 months out!) and two items were purchased! WTF! We have no clue who already made a purchase. Let's just hope they're actually invited -- ha!

If more than 60 people rsvp I'd throw a few more items on the registry. Keep in mind, after the shower you could always delete things off the registry in an effort to encourage cash for the wedding.

hoffse · January 2013

Yeah I don't know if that's enough. My shower will have about 20, and we are inviting 315 to the wedding itself. We have registered for right around 300 itmes - lots are small/singular things that will be purchased in sets, but we are assuming that families will give a single gift. We should have enough for people to have choices, and we actually prefer to get those items than cash. We desperately need them, and it would be nice not to have to buy them ourselves. I'm not sure with 117 items and 90 people it's going to fly. I think it's nice for people to have options and not be backed into a corner regarding what is left on the registry.

mlg78 · January 2013

Also, some of those "no" RSVPs to the shower may still send a gift.

[Deleted User] · January 2013

Good points all around. I'll keep an eye on it after invitations go out (I'm not sure when they are going out, but probably mid to late February, because my shower is April 6th). Hmm. I wonder if I'll get an invitation? I wanna see (my MOH is a designer like me, so I'm always excited to see her work).

Jager1219 · January 2013

I'm in the same exact situation. The shower guest list is 90% my mom's friends/family. She invited relatives that I haven't even met (yes they are invited to the wedding - again her choice, not mine). I've had to add stuff to my registry because it's been getting bought up too quickly. Keep an eye on it, that's the best way to figure out what people are buying and what the average price-range gift is (which was more of my problem than the amount of gifts since 5 $20 items is $100 of gifts which for me seems to be the average).

Kate61487 · January 2013

I also think you should beef it up a little if you can. Many people still send a gift even if they can't attend a shower, and some people will probably surprise you with their generosity; I was shocked by the volume of the first few early gifts we received and had to go back and add more stuff. I have many times been the procrastinator who stops at BB&B on my way to the shower and it sucks when your only options are a $200 china platter and a $7 spatula.

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