honeymoon registries

jnish · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registries-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:9fba8597-6dc2-4196-936e-f7fcdfa760d7Post:d5b29214-e16c-4a64-ae8f-bff8d7b2746e">Re: honeymoon registries</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: honeymoon registries : Dude I remember your picture, and that you were annoying.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

Pot calling the kettle black?? You're one of the most annoying posters here

AmoroAgain · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registries-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:9fba8597-6dc2-4196-936e-f7fcdfa760d7Post:091a05af-820b-441c-9057-a6e23edd4603">Re: honeymoon registries</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: honeymoon registries : Pot calling the kettle black?? You're one of the most annoying posters here
Posted by jnish[/QUOTE]

Aw thanks! ... random poster that I've never encountered before...?

At the end of the day, whether we all like or hate HM registries, the fact is, OP can't afford this mega trip they're planning WITHOUT the use of a HM registry. Which is just all around wrong to count on your guests beneficence to get you your dream HM.

So, instead of going around and around arguing about the tackiness of it all, let's just all agree that if you can't afford to get there in the first place, you probably shouldn't be counting on anyone else to get you there. Mmmkay?

veijes · February 2010

I do agree with you Amoro. We can all agree to disagree, we are all adults and she didn't even ask whether it was tacky or not. She is already set on doing one. I do think she should choose a place less expensive than Hawaii, perhaps Mexico! A HM registry isn't going to help you pay for your overall trip, like I stated above, it will just help you be able to do the fun excursions and go out to more elaborate dining places.

I do admit that I think it would be tacky to charge your HM then pay it off with the HM registry....BUT if you are going to use it like us and actually pick things on the registry that you know you want to do, than I don't think it's tacky!

emilyinchile · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registries-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:9fba8597-6dc2-4196-936e-f7fcdfa760d7Post:60cd5c14-d011-4426-9e64-21d74575f347">Re: honeymoon registries</a>:
[QUOTE]ALSO...you don't HAVE to do the things on the registry, they send you two different checks, one is sent to you 5 days before the honeymoon, so it's not really like you can rely on it for your honeymoon except for spending money, then the second is sent out 30 days after your wedding for people who either bought you a gift last minute or after the wedding.
Posted by veijes[/QUOTE]

This is a huge part of the reason people don't like them - it's not a good thing. I personally wouldn't mind contributing to someone's HM registry if I really thought they were going to use my gift of "dinner on the beach" as just that. To me there is a parallel between "oh honey, this picture's from the dinner that Emily and her FI got us" and "look, this is the serving platter Emily and FI got us."

But if you're just going to use it as money and not actually accept my gift of the chosen activity - and of course I have no way to know that - I think that's rude and would be annoyed that you made me go through the effort of reading your registry and picking out exactly the experience I wanted to give you instead of just giving you a check, which would have taken less of my time.

tinydancer842 · February 2010

The same can be still argued with regular registries, many people get duplicate items, items they decide later they'd rather just have the cash so they return, etc. So there is no sure fire way you can ever buy a gift & be sure the couple is absolutely going to use it & keep it.

Not disagreeing with your overall point, but the same is true of any registry or gift you buy someone.

veijes · February 2010

I agree with Tinydancer, especially Target, it's really bad at checking off items that people bought. My friend that got married last August had quite a few duplicate and even tripled gifts from Target and their return policy isn't the greatest. She said a lot of people didn't give gift receiopts either so now she is stuck with extra items. I've also experienced this. My SIL and FSIL just looked at my registry for Christmas rather than asking me what I wanted and they both got me the same thing cuz it didn't check off haha.

As for the couple using the money on the HM registry for what you bought it for...I guess when I have ever bought a couple a wedding gift, I didn't think too far into like "oh I wonder if they are going to use this waffle maker all the time" it will actually probably be used like twice and sit in a closet. Maybe I am naive to think that most people are going to spend the money on the things that they put on their registry. When we created ours, we took off things that we don't like to do and added things we like to do to make it more personal and I know that we are giong to use all of the money towards the honeymoon. Maybe with the money we get after the 30 days, we will use to print pics from it and stuff...

demarcosjd · February 2010

I think a HM registry will work depending on the attitude of your guests. We went back and forth with deciding if we were going to do one and decided to use honeyfund.com but only for extra activities. I agree that I don't think someone should take a trip they can't afford. I also agree that now a days honeymoons are viewed differently then just a "sex fest"

We went with honeyfund because from what we researched they are one of the only ones that do not have a fee. (they have a 3% paypal fee but we take on those charges not the guests) Just from word of mouth with my sister mentioning it to several guests we have gotten a great response and many guests wished they would have done something like this. Many have expressed they would rather contribute towards a memorable vacation as opposed to buying something that essentially can break or be replaced over time.

We also decided that any activity purchased off of our registry we will be taking a picture of us doing the activity and sending it in the thank you card to the guest who purchased it so they know that's exactly what their money towards. I think there are ways to make a HM registry not look tacky. If you think you will have a positive response from your guests I say go for it!

kittieruby · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registries-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:9fba8597-6dc2-4196-936e-f7fcdfa760d7Post:091a05af-820b-441c-9057-a6e23edd4603">Re: honeymoon registries</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: honeymoon registries : Pot calling the kettle black?? You're one of the most annoying posters here
Posted by jnish[/QUOTE]

Agreed.

Denise40 · February 2010

My husband and I are paying for my son's/fiance's honeymoon, would it be ok for them to have a HM registry for like their meals/shore excursions/spa items or is that not what it's for?

honeymoon registries

Re: honeymoon registries

Choose Another Board

Search Boards