My gentleman and I are PROMISED, but not formally engaged yet. We just ended the months of long distance relationship with my move to PA to be with him (from Brooklyn, NY). We were very romantically promised on a carriage ride in Central Park--talking about a living history re-enactor's idea of romance!
I do not have a ring, but know he plans on giving me his late mother's engagement ring "when the time is right". I also know he does want to marry in the next 2-3 years. But I think he is holding back a little on the formal engagement because we only met in March of this year and wants to live together a little while to make absolutely certain a marriage together would last. Reasonable, but being a woman approaching 40, I'm a bit eager for him to be ready to give me that ring!
My question is this: when is the socially correct time to begin the planning of this thing? It's more than 90% certain to happen. I don't want to waste my energies on something that is not going to happen and have already done a lot of research (there are not one, but three google documents relating to different ideas, budgeting, etc).
Am I jumping the gun too much in working on this at all? What sorts of things is it more okay to work on than others?
I think my research is making him feel pressured to do this--which I really do not want to do!