Alternative to money dance?

Nickymae · March 2010

I love the idea of a dollar dance especially because my fiance and I just can't afford a honeymoon. But my fiance can't dance because he just can't stay standing long enough (very bad knees). I don't want it to just be me out there though. Someone suggested a money tree but my cousin did that and it wasn't very successful. A friend of mine did a "Bride Ransom" that worked out really well but it was very recent and a lot of the same people will be at mine that were at his so I don't want to do the exact same thing. Any creative suggestion?

aerinpegadrak · March 2010

Don't ask your guests to open their wallets at your wedding. The only defense for the dollar dance is that it's a significant tradition in some cultures, and even then it's controversial. Anything you try will look like exactly what it is: a straight cash grab. It's appallingly rude.

If you can't afford a honeymoon, you don't get to take one. A lot of couples delay their honeymoon several months or even years because they can't afford one right after the wedding. I know we scaled ours down from two weeks in Europe to four days in Vegas.

aerinpegadrak · March 2010

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[QUOTE]I love the idea of a dollar dance especially because my fiance and I just can't afford a honeymoon. But my fiance can't dance because he just can't stay standing long enough (very bad knees). I don't want it to just be me out there though. Someone suggested a money tree but my cousin did that and it wasn't very successful. A friend of mine did a "Bride Ransom" that worked out really well but it was very recent and a lot of the same people will be at mine that were at his so I don't want to do the exact same thing. Any creative suggestion?
Posted by Nickymae[/QUOTE]

mmenillo · March 2010

Tacky! Tacky! Tacky! Just say "NO" to the money dance!

quotequeen · March 2010

Wow. I have seen a lot of defenses of the dollar dance, but I have never seen anybody straight up admit they were doing it for the money.

lisarose7 · March 2010

GAAAAAAGH!!! No more stupid money-grab questions!!!

Dollar dance = tasteless and tacky
Anything else that involves your guests giving you money = just plain WRONG

goheels05 · March 2010

Charge admission to your wedding?

lisarose7 · March 2010

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[QUOTE]Charge admission to your wedding?
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]

I was thinking more along the lines of having people pay a dollar to b!tch-slap the money-grubbing bride.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · March 2010

Take a belated honeymoon 6 months or a year after your wedding.

Stay at a local B&B or hotel for a night or two.

Take a day or two off work, have someone clean your house while you're getting married, come home, order take out, unplug the phone, and relax.

^ These are all solutions that don't involve you forcing your guests to pay for your vacation.

HisCB · March 2010

to each their own....

i went to a wedding where the money dance was only the bride, so if you like the tradition and if theyre common in your family and friends circles, do it. people will look at more as a tradition thing rather than a money grab thing.

the great thing about the dollar dance is that it can only last 1 dance, so family members who want to participate can, those who dont want to dont have to and dont have to feel guilty about not participating.

im sure you have already considered not having a HM or having a very small one, im sure you dont think you will get enough dollars to fund a HM, maybe help fund a night at a hotel near by if you also get cash gifts...

squirrly · March 2010

Please find a different way to afford a honeymoon. I'm all for people who want to do the dollar dance minus the dollars, but not this variation. I'm sorry - it's just distasteful.

dibsontop · March 2010

If you're doing it for the money, that just seems silly because I doubt you'd make all that much more money to help pay for your honeymoon.

If you're doing it for another reason, I'd still say not to. Speaking as a guest of a wedding where they did a dollar dance, it was incredibly boring watching everyone else dance with the bride and groom. The DJ wasted too many good slow songs that the guests and their dates could have been enjoying.

[Deleted User] · March 2010

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[QUOTE]I love the idea of a dollar dance especially <strong>because my fiance and I just can't afford a honeymoon</strong>. But my fiance can't dance because he just can't stay standing long enough (very bad knees). I don't want it to just be me out there though. Someone suggested a money tree but my cousin did that and it wasn't very successful. A friend of mine did a "Bride Ransom" that worked out really well but it was very recent and a lot of the same people will be at mine that were at his so I don't want to do the exact same thing. Any creative suggestion?
Posted by Nickymae[/QUOTE]

Well, then don't go on one. Or go on a weekend trip to somewhere local. You are not entitled to a HM just because you are getting married. Don't beg your guests for money. That's just gross.

aerinpegadrak · March 2010

Actually, no, most people on here say that the honeymoon registry is just as bad. I don't like giving cash as a wedding gift, and I'm certainly not going to do it through a site that's going to skim off the top before the bride and groom get the money. And that's if the site you're going with isn't an out-and-out scam, there are lots of those out there.

MyNameIsNot · March 2010

Here's an idea. Get a job. Manage your finances. Pay for your own vacations.

I will never understand why people feel that weddings give them license to act like a disgusting pig. But a disgusting pig in a big white dress is still a disgusting pig.

heizer10910 · March 2010

i've never even heard of this! how random - i don't think i've seen one either. but please don't it, you will totally regret it someday. worst case - do a staycation

aprovencher21 · April 2010

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[QUOTE]Here's an idea. Get a job. Manage your finances. Pay for your own vacations. I will never understand why people feel that weddings give them license to act like a disgusting pig. But a disgusting pig in a big white dress is still a disgusting pig.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

This made me laugh.....telling the truth like it is.....I don't know when wedding's apparently became fund raisers.

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