Hair & Make-up?!

ladymike · February 2013

So, these are two things in life I don't care about much at all. I wear mascara.. aaaand I wash my hair 2 or 3 times a week and just, like, brush it and it looks great. I'm naturally beautiful, I don't mess with all that other crap (HAHAHA).

BUT, it's my wedding so I looked into having someone come & do the whole wedding party.
$600 for four people?? That's absurd to me. Absolutely insane, to be honest. Is that normal? Have y'all started looking into this at all yet?

Any ideas? Just keep looking? Suck it up and pay for it?

hardlyhannah · February 2013

I am just going to my hair salon and its $110 for each person for hair and makeup - so I guess that is average?

For my brother and SIL's wedding we went to a local Aveda beauty school and it was more like $60 for hair and makeup, and they did a great job.

CassietBella · February 2013

Thats been my project the past few days! I've gotten 3 quotes so far and its been around $750-800 for five people (me, MOH, and 3 BMs) and including their travel fee to my venue. So it seems like the norm. I'm having a hard time 'sucking it up and paying for it' but I know its their art and their livlihood, so once I find the best deal for the talent I will pay for it.

09McSteph03 · February 2013

Thats pretty normal and I'd even say for what I found around here, it's not that expensive. They are doing hair and makeup for $150 per person? My hair and make up will run $250 and that does not include a trial.

SewInLoveWithDMB · February 2013

When I have been a bridesmaid in the past, the bride didn't generally pay for the hair to be done...unless she required all bridesmaids to have professional hair and makeup.

I am not paying for hair and makeup for my girls. But, I am not requiring that they have professional hairstyles or makeup either. I have had my hair done for events and have liked it less than when I have done my own hair.

Our wedding is formal, but it's during the afternoon and isn't a crazy-blacktie-super formal "formal."

(I also want to mention I'm from NJ - I think all of us wear a decent amount of makeup on a day to day basis, haha! I think they're all basically pros at makeup application and have no problem doing it themselves!)

ladymike · February 2013

I feel like they're inflating all of their prices just because it's a bride and her bridesmaids. $600 didn't even include the trials. So, it's actually closer to $800. That's more than my freakin' reception decorations. Forget it. I understand that it's their art and their business, but.. I'm not buying it.

But, I want it for my bridesmaids because they are into that sort of thing and seem to kind of be expecting it.. I'd rather pay for their parts in the wedding (dresses, make-up, hair) than buy them some kind of gift. But, I can't sit there and struggle with my own hair & make-up while they're being done professionally? That seems odd.

Oh well! I'll keep looking, I guess.

Stina51286 · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2013-weddings_hair-make-up?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:1925524f-fa8b-432f-a7b5-be486ce756efDiscussion:8ab99e72-4ec2-40fa-9a48-8ca0d4a70000Post:be131144-c504-4e84-8bea-b510d960679e">Re: Hair & Make-up?!</a>:
[QUOTE]I feel like they're inflating all of their prices just because it's a bride and her bridesmaids. $600 didn't even include the trials. So, it's actually closer to $800. That's more than my freakin' reception decorations. Forget it. I understand that it's their art and their business, but.. I'm not buying it. But, I want it for my bridesmaids because they are into that sort of thing and seem to kind of be expecting it.. <strong>I'd rather pay for their parts in the wedding (dresses, make-up, hair) than buy them some kind of gift</strong>. But, I can't sit there and struggle with my own hair & make-up while they're being done professionally? That seems odd. Oh well! I'll keep looking, I guess.
Posted by ladymike[/QUOTE]

If you're requiring them to get their hair/makeup done, it isn't considered a gift. You'd still have to get them a gift as a "Thank you" for being by my side on this day. Anything that is required of them needs to be paid for by you (Except the dress) and not considered as a gift.

Im not requiring my girls to get their hair and makeup done. They know where I am going and have the option to go with, do their own, or go to their own place.

ladymike · February 2013

I plan on for paying for all of their stuff. Head to toe. Shoes, dress, make-up, jewelry, hair. Same for the groomsmen. That's why I didn't really feel like another gift is neccessary, but I don't want to spend 4 car payments on hair updos. I'm not REQUIRING it; someone can certainly deny my offering of hair & make-up services and they're going to be able to pick out their own dresses & shoes. But, this is my way of pampering them for my day and thanking them.

toribrite · February 2013

Personally, I think it is fine that you don't buy them anything else if you are already buying all that for them. But you shouldn't listen to me because I get yelled at a lot for not being "correct" in wedding etiquette.

As for hair and makeup. I'm with you- I don't ever wear makeup. I am going to do my own, and my girls know how to put on makeup so I don't think it is necessary to pay for someone to come do theirs. As for hair, I want mine to look awesome so I am getting it done at a salon. The girls can come with me if they want to get theirs done, but I am not going to pay for it. I don't really care what they do with their hair.

Also, they shouldn't be "expecting it" to be paid for by you.

09McSteph03 · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2013-weddings_hair-make-up?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:1925524f-fa8b-432f-a7b5-be486ce756efDiscussion:8ab99e72-4ec2-40fa-9a48-8ca0d4a70000Post:66ba4448-190f-4064-8b00-f14a9ff3108c">Re: Hair & Make-up?!</a>:
[QUOTE]I plan on for paying for all of their stuff. Head to toe. Shoes, dress, make-up, jewelry, hair. Same for the groomsmen. That's why I didn't really feel like <strong><u>another</u></strong> gift is neccessary<div>
</div><div>But, this is my way of pampering them for my day and thanking them.
Posted by ladymike[/QUOTE]

</div><div>First - paying for all of their attire to dress the way you want them to look at your wedding isnt a gift. So getting them a real gift isn't an additional gift to the attire you would like them to be outfitted in.</div><div>
</div><div>Second, pampering is a nice gesture but that isn't to be counted as a gift. You could as easily not pay for their hair and make up and let them choose to do it themselves or pay that cost on their own. My guess is that when your wedding is all said and done, these women would rather have a personal token of appreciation than a memory of nice hair and a bridemaids dress or shoes they may have never chosen themselves and won't wear again.</div>

ladymike · February 2013

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[QUOTE]Personally, I think it is fine that you don't buy them anything else if you are already buying all that for them. But you shouldn't listen to me because I get yelled at a lot for not being "correct" in wedding etiquette. As for hair and makeup. I'm with you- I don't ever wear makeup. I am going to do my own, and my girls know how to put on makeup so I don't think it is necessary to pay for someone to come do theirs. As for hair, I want mine to look awesome so I am getting it done at a salon. The girls can come with me if they want to get theirs done, but I am not going to pay for it. I don't really care what they do with their hair. Also, they shouldn't be "expecting it" to be paid for by you.
Posted by toribrite[/QUOTE]

I didn't mean they were expecting me to pay for it; I just meant expecting to have that option. I don't mind if they want to do it on their own; they are absolutely free to do that. I offered it to all of them, they told me whether they want hair, make-up, or both, and I'm getting it done for them.

I feel like a lot of wedding etiquette is way outdated. It's ridiculous. But, I'll keep my mouth shut :)

ladymike · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2013-weddings_hair-make-up?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:1925524f-fa8b-432f-a7b5-be486ce756efDiscussion:8ab99e72-4ec2-40fa-9a48-8ca0d4a70000Post:19d702fa-9617-463a-94b7-7253cfe899fa">Re: Hair & Make-up?!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hair & Make-up?! : First - paying for all of their attire to dress the way you want them to look at your wedding isnt a gift. So getting them a real gift isn't an additional gift to the attire you would like them to be outfitted in. Second, pampering is a nice gesture but that isn't to be counted as a gift. You could as easily not pay for their hair and make up and let them choose to do it themselves or pay that cost on their own. My guess is that when your wedding is all said and done, these women would rather have a personal token of appreciation than a memory of nice hair and a bridemaids dress or shoes they may have never chosen themselves and won't wear again.
Posted by 09McSteph03[/QUOTE]

Interesting, because I'd rather have the memories than some kind of object.

They WILL be choosing their own dress AND shoes, so I would hope they choose something they really like and would want to wear again. That's my whole point in letting them make that choice. The dresses will be black; I can't imagine it won't serve them in the future.

I understand that there are a lot of etiquette "rules" and buying a gift is one of them. But, I don't see why gift always has to mean something tangible. I feel like I will be going above and beyond enough to cover that "rule."

09McSteph03 · February 2013

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[QUOTE] Interesting, because I'd rather have the memories than some kind of object. I understand that there are a lot of etiquette "rules" and buying a gift is one of them. But, I don't see why gift always has to mean something tangible. I feel like I will be going above and beyond enough to cover that "rule."
Posted by ladymike[/QUOTE]

<div>To be clear, I meant the memory of nice hair - not the memory of your wedding and being apart of something so personal to you. Not one of my favorite memories in life is solely of my hair looking good. </div><div>
</div><div>Gifts are tanible. you give them. you get them. Ultimately you will do what you want to do. Good luck and I hope your plan is well received. No one accepts the honor of being in a wedding party because there is a promise of a gift so I am sure it will all work out.</div>

Stina51286 · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2013-weddings_hair-make-up?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:1925524f-fa8b-432f-a7b5-be486ce756efDiscussion:8ab99e72-4ec2-40fa-9a48-8ca0d4a70000Post:e7ef6f1c-3679-4df0-87f9-8620bfd18074">Re: Hair & Make-up?!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hair & Make-up?! : <strong>Interesting, because I'd rather have the memories than some kind of object.</strong> They WILL be choosing their own dress AND shoes, so I would hope they choose something they really like and would want to wear again. That's my whole point in letting them make that choice. The dresses will be black; I can't imagine it won't serve them in the future. I understand that there are a lot of etiquette "rules" and buying a gift is one of them. But, I don't see why gift always has to mean something tangible. I feel like I will be going above and beyond enough to cover that "rule."
Posted by ladymike[/QUOTE]

The gift isn't about you, it is about your BP. The fact that you asked them is about you. Them standing there next to you, is about you. The rest, you owe it to them to get them a gift as a thank you. You buying their attire/paying for their hair is not a thank you. It isn't necessary. Most BMs know what is required of them to pay for.

shannie11 · February 2013

My make is pretty pricey. it will be $200 for me and $75 for my bridesmaids. I wear makeup all the time. I want to look more dressed up for my wedding day. I don't want to look like I always so which is why I am willing to spend that money. I know some artists also charge for a traveling fee. I think if you don't want to pay that then I would just go to a MAC counter in the mall the morning of your wedding and have your makeup done.

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