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RUDE MOH- VENT

therockisblinding05therockisblinding05
Fourth Anniversary 100 Comments
in Florida-Central Florida
ok so MOH joined this company almost 2 years ago when we were still undergrad together and has become progressively more and more obsessed with the job...it's seriously all we ever talk about anymore. It's all she does in addition to grad school and the people in the company (who treat her terribly) are the only ppl she ever hangs out w/ anymore now that we don't live in the same city. I'm used to her being into her job, but the last straw happened last night. I ended up driving her 2 hours to her flight for work late last night because her car broke down. We spent the first half of the convo talking about, of course, her job and the people there. blah blah blah...it's the same crap every day..horrible people treating each other horribly. Then I tried to talk a little about my job, the wedding and shower coming up and she did the basic "uh huh, oh that's cool" and at one point even made a work related phone call when I was MID-SENTENCE...she didn't even warn me before she started talking to someone else! I told her the wedding nightmares I've been having and she sat there and texted some boy the entire time. I try to be supportive of whatever is happening in her life, even though it's ALL WORK, ALL THE TIME and I don't understand why I can't get even a little support from my MOH and BFF. Sorry to whine or sound unsupportive but I'm just pissed off and fed up.

On the upside, my shower invite came in the mail today (BMs originally forgot to invite me hahaha!) and they are so cute! One BM designed them herself and is so proud of them, as she should be. I'll let you ladies know how it goes!

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  • Pretty ParulaPretty Parula
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    edited December 2011
    Oh snap. (btw, I just noticed that you and I have the same name!) Yeah I'd be irked too. Ever come right out and say what you're thinking about this? I dunno how that'd go over with her now, but it sounds like you two need a talk. I hope she becomes more engaged in being your MOH soon, and that you two will have good memories of all of this. GL!
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  • Theresa626Theresa626 member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow that's awful.  You know, I find that sometimes the oldest friendships are not neccessarily the best ones. People change and sometimes friendships hang around long after the people have grown apart.  She sounds irritating and it's too bad she is still part of your wedding because she sounds like the kind of friend that you'd quietly want to let go of.   But, you know, be supportive of her and listen to her and if she asks for a ride to the airport again, be busy. 
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  • MCO100MCO100
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    edited December 2011
    Well said Theresa:)
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  • Pretty ParulaPretty Parula
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-central-florida_rude-moh-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:66Discussion:9874c6c2-ea62-4e99-ad3a-5ea47fac5a40Post:e620f0c8-5b77-4efe-ad46-2e5219d565dd">Re: RUDE MOH- VENT</a>:
    [QUOTE]Well said Theresa:)
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  • mlharbismlharbis
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    edited December 2011
    ya, something I have just had to learn is that you can only give so much to people without being their doormat.  Lately my friends have only been calling when they need something, a ride from the bar, a ride to drop their car off at the shop, tutoring in accounting... the list goes on.  But at some point you get fed up and just, like Theresa said, be busy when they ask for more of you.  It is a hard thing to learn and it is something I am currently working on. 
    I'm so sorry that this is happening for you right now, but it does comfort me to know that I'm not the only one that deals with friends like that! hah
    Hopefully she will get her act together and be more excited.  Maybe she needs to the shower to have it really sink in and get spirited.
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  • therockisblinding05therockisblinding05
    Fourth Anniversary 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Well I offered to take her to her flight because it was on the way to where I was going, she didn't ask and did  thank me a ton for helping. She's not really selfish, but she is one of those people who can get so obliviously wrapped in what she's doing that she has no concept that she is alienating everyone else. She's doing the same thing to our other friends too and we're all getting a little annoyed. I don't think she needs to be dumped..she just needs an intervention haha! Thanks for the support ladies!

    Alyssa (name twin!), I think you are right. I just need to find a way to talk to her...w/o wanting to smack her!
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  • brit21489brit21489
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Haha, yeah I would want to smack her too. Maybe you can think of a way to get her to notice what she is doing. I like to say (when people do something that pisses me off) "Wow, rude" and then continue talking. It shows them they pissed me off, but I don't dwell on it. Good luck straightening her out!
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