I can't lose weight!!!! (long/help/vent)

rbtrumpet · June 2010

I know I can....I just suck at it!

2 of my BMs are extremely skinny (we're talking 23" waists) - 2 of them were about my size when I asked them.

I'm not usually one for size-comparison, since I'm not huge, and don't really care anyways.

BUT - in the last two months, my MOH has dropped about 10lbs, and is drop-dead sexy, my sister (who was by far the biggest of us) has dropped about 20lbs....and I've gained 10! I am now, by FAR, the largest person in my WP (like I said - I'm only a size 10, but last Feb I was a size 4 - I fluctuate a lot, I'm very short!)

I'm doing at least an hour of cardio 4xs a week, an hour of weight-lifting 2xs a week, and trying to count calories. I have partially blamed it on starting BC, but I know it's my stupid lack of self-control that is the real problem. Every day I weigh myself, set my resolve, plan out my meals carefully - by the end of the day, I have snuck away to buy more food, or eaten the free doughnuts/muffins/etc at work, or something like that. I break my will, go out w/ friends.

I don't know why I can't wrap my head around this "I need to lose weight" thing! When I bought my dress in Feb, it fit, but was tight - I figured no problem, I'd lose the weight easy since I was about 10lbs over my "normal" weight, but I haven't lost those 10lbs, I've gained 10 more! I'm so scared about my first dress fitting this weekend!

Grr - anyone have motivation/kicks in the @$$/or anything else they'd like to share???

Like I said - I *know* how to lose weight - I lost 60lbs about 3 years ago, and kept it off for 2 years - it's just the stress, the BC, and the fact that I have to worry about mroe things now than just staying in shape! - I just can't kick my own butt!

/vent

but seriously, any help would be welcome!

kdrott · June 2010

Sorry to hear you're stressed out. And since you said you know how to lose the weight, how about a little encouragement? You can do it! You will look beautiful on your wedding day - and don't worry about the first fitting, seamstresses can work magic, that's what you pay them for

The only idea I might have is about the exercise, I work out 4-5 times a week also and sometimes I just plateau. Maybe if you tried doing something a little different - an activity you find fun like swimming or playing volleyball, it might kickstart you again. Best of luck to you.

finalgirl · June 2010

hi rbtrumpet,

well first, make sure to pick uggo dresses for your bridesmaids. i found some lovely items at david's bridal that will make them look 5 months pregnant.

just kidding. to jumpstart you should control your grocery and food shopping. all the unhealthy little temptations...just don't purchase them. think of it more as saving money for the big day.

for exercise, i totally agree with kdrott about finding something you like to do. even if it is going out dancing for a night with your girl friends or a long walk. just do something. before you know it you will find a rhythm that works for you.

best of luck. but if all else fails...david's bridal....just sayin'.

rbtrumpet · June 2010

haha - finalgirl

(un)fortunately my BM dresses are already in, and the girls look smokin hot in them (at least me, sister, and MOH all think so) - and there's not enough time to re-order ugly dresses for them :-p

No - I'm not that type - like I said, I don't really feel threatened by them - I'm just annoyed that I'm gaining instead of losing (I have like NO metabolism, and I only lose when I am 100% on)

miah_23_ncb · June 2010

I understand. i am having some self control issues as well. Bring helathy snacks to your work place. Or maybe not just go in the break room or wherever the snacks are usually when you are looking to snack. This may be a little extreme but i took a pic of this tiny (IMO) BIkini that i bought and its posted on my bulletein board for encouragement for myslef. It just helps me to think twice: "do i really need and Auntie Ann's pretezel?". you can do it!

Laur0813 · June 2010

I just lost 40 pounds.. and i would say what helped me the most was the habit. losing weight is everyday, and everyday matters. I would get into a routine, and just stick with it. make working out a part of your schedule, and do it. And i completely agree with these girls. Find somethings that is active that you LIKE to do. i started yoga, and love it. then i found two softball league to play for. Im busy at LEAST 3 times a week with extra active activities.. and dont get discouraged! you can do anything you set your mind to!

cdream05 · June 2010

Hello ladies... ok so for the girls who know how to lose weight, I know its all about diet and excersice but can you give some advice on what works for you? My wedding has already come and gone but i didnt lose the weight that I wanted to. Now I have no more excuses! any advice is great!

finalgirl · June 2010

it sounds cliche at this point, but for cdream05, try jillian michaels. sample around, some of her things are too hard on my knees to do, but her yoga & trouble zones workouts have given me defined arm muscles for the first time in my life. if you netflix them or something, just do the best you can the first few days. i promise you'll get the hang of it & it will get easier. the results are amazing.

msange727 · June 2010

oh bummer - i hear you, i'm there. it's the stress, eating away at your willpower. my suggestion? do a bunch of different things. you will shake your body up and it won't know how to react. don't take too much off of your calorie count than you need to (because it'll just cause other problems) but definitely try different challenging workouts, at different times of the day. mix your cardio and weights - maybe get some tapes (a pp suggested jillian michaels, that's an idea, or maybe some kickboxing or zumba), get running, biking, walking, whatever you like to do. but. don't look at this as a failure/punishment thing, look at it as something you want to do! you'll get there!

princeslaura · June 2010

I agree with the rest of the ladies- watch your portions, buy healthy snacks, avoid the snack room when possible, try new exercises or activities, drink more water, walk when you get bored at home, etc.

We all stress a little about this everyday, but more when we are looking to get married because you want to look the most beautiful you have ever looked. And you will!! No matter what size you are, you are going to look gorgeous. Who cares about your BM's? It is not about them.

I am confident that if you start today as your 1st day of fitness, you will succeed in your goal. I find that when I workout in the morning, I am less likely to have a cocktail or cheat my diet the rest of the day because then I have un-done my workout earlier.

I am also finding that in the evenings I get bored and snack instead of something more productive. So now, I take a short walk through the neighborhood instead. Even if its only 2-3 blocks, it's better than eating ice cream.

Try not to stress too much, just stay focused. You can do it!!

sancrone · June 2010

take a picture of you in the dress. keep it somewhere to look at when you have cravings. If you are like me, you spent a good chunck of change on your dress. You can have chocoate ice cream after the wedding.

leochick820 · July 2010

It sounds like you've been working out a lot--maybe you shouldn't measure the 10 lbs you've gained, because your body is likely changing fat into muscle. When I started working out, I found it very encouraging to do a body fat measurement instead. Even though I didn't lose a pound, I was losing a lot of body fat--and after a few weeks, it really started to show, but like you, at first, I was discouraged.

In short: measure body fat, not pounds.

artrice.sanders · July 2010

Overall, I think that this is more a mental challenge than anything. YOu are already so overly stressed and anxious that any efforts at true weight loss are negated due to it. You need to find a relaxing activity that you can do every day, i.e. Yoga. Also, if you have been training like you said, you may be putting on a muscle weight. Lighten up your weights and do higher reps...running is great for cardio, but try swimming for an over all low impact (high calorie burn) workout. Also, be sure to keep tons of healthy options around you at all times. I stack my draw with those little fruit cups, peaches, apples, rice cakes (the caramel ones really are awesome), etc...also, if you feel the need to have a cookie...just have the cookie. Eat it slowly while drinking at least one full glass of water, trust me it will feel you up plenty.

Also, dont worry about the rest of your wedding party, because trust me, your fiancee will only have eyes for you on that day

Know that to be true

monique026 · July 2010

the BC might be a big factor as well.. my weight has fluctuated 10 or so pounds for the past few years, then after i had my daughter last year i stopped taking the pill, and I've dropped 17 lbs. below my pre-pregnant weight. I have been eating better and snacking less and working out more, but that can't be all of it. You may want to consider getting off the BC until the wedding, and just use other preventative measures until then.

HollyJoBride · July 2010

I am having the same problem. I am getting married in less than a year. Next June to be exact. I have no self control, I drink diet pop way to much and I work out about 2-3 times a week. I have a really stressful job and the only thing I want to go when I get home is sit and watch TV :-( I set myself up for failure. But anyways I am in the same boat your not alone!! It is all about accountablity. Something I am working on is keeping a food journal and sticking to it. I am also going to try to get in 5 days a week of cardio workouts. Sometimes I focus too much on long term just focus on short term, for example, by next month I want to be down 5 to 10 pounds. You know your body best. I really like the ideas everyone posted it was helpful!! Good luck and congrats. Don't give up, you can do it!!!

mpoore · July 2010

The absolute best is the "Rapid Fat Loss" Handbook by Lyle McDonald. You need major self-control to melt fat that fast and successfully. But needed for anyone with < 3 months to lose weight.

"The Female Body Breakthrough" by Rachel Cosgrove is appropriate for people who have more time to get it done (e.g. 6 months or more). It is more of a lifestyle change than a quick fat-melting solution.

And, above all, the biggest take-home is that in order to lose weight you have to control your FOOD. Exercising only does a little, and is actually optional in the weight-loss journey. You won't be fat if you don't put the stuff in your body in the first place.

KoalaLuv · July 2010

encouragement: seriously, YOU'RE the bride! you'll be glowing and radiating such joy and happiness, you'll be just simply stunning!

sadistic motivation: sticky-note your friends' sizes wherever you need a reminder. (TV instead of cardio, stick it to the tube; too many sodas, stick it to the Pepsis!) This seems drastic, I know! but if you REALLY REALLY want to drop the weight, use what motivates you, and if that happens to be pure vanity (like me!), so be it!

P.S. I used to carry a pic of Marissa Miller (yes, the Victoria's Secret model) with me when I was working out to get in shape for a pageant I was doing. I don't know how much weight I lost, but I definitely saw more results after carrying around the pic. Those commercial breaks are great for crunches, btw!

damaless · July 2010

Get a lot more serious about it than "trying to count calories". Log everything you eat. When you are forced to record that you went over your target by 400 calories because you ate two 300 calorie donuts, they won't seem so appealing anymore.

OrangeDaisy27 · July 2010

Hi there, I was having the same problem too... everyone is loosing weight except me! And i actually figured out the problem.... for my self at least.

THE REASON: You may or may not feel like it, but chances are you are stressed out. Stress actually hinders weight loss because of the cortisol you produce. Between wedding planning, holding down a job/or even looking for a job, and then the underlying issue of self esteem... it all adds up.

THE SOLUTION: I found that by doing yoga, i was able to control my stress. by controling my stress things fell into place. You dont have to do yoga- there are a million other ways of helping yourself, but I found that it is working for me.

Good Luck :-)

derekandlaura · July 2010

losing weight under pressure can be really hard. however, it doesn't matter if your MOH is a frickin' supermodel, because NOTHING is more beautiful than a glowing bride, so in love, on her wedding day! furthermore, there is no bridesmaid's dress that is more beautiful than a wedding gown. as long as the beautiful woman in the beautiful gown is smiling, she is the only thing everyone can look at

greisenmn · July 2010

I highly recommend doing a bootcamp work out for a month. It is an investment but well worth it. I have lost 20 inches in the past year. My trainer at bootcamp also highly recommends the book "The Eat Clean Diet". I also learned to eat 5 smaller meals a day instead of 3 larger meals. Normally having something high in protein such as a handful of unsalted almonds, a stick of string cheese, some peanut butter with a little honey, etc for a mid morning and mid afternoon snack/small meal. It helps prevent binge eating on those lovely carbs we all love so much, i.e. ice cream. It really does help tremondously. Good Luck!

amysmomma · July 2010

I just lost 60 pounds (in 6 months) and let me give you a few hints that worked for me.

1) no sugar - no sugar in coffee, no sweets, no desserts, nothing.. makes a huge difference
2) drink water and milk only - juice is loaded full of sugar, alcoholic drinks are full of calories
3) lots of fibre in your diet - try a high fibre cereal - I eat strawberry medley all bran, it's pretty tasty.. and always have a HUGE pile of veggies with your meat choice for supper
4) limit starchy foods - pasta potatoes etc.
5) DON'T EAT after supper - at all, nothing, zip.. nada
6) set a routine and plan your meals - if you know what you're going to eat and when you're going to eat, and you eat at the exact same times each day, you're going to be less likely to give in to temptation

andream131 · July 2010

One word: ZUMBA. Super fun and you'll see the pounds vanish! I suggest buying the Zumba workout dvd's off the official Zumba sight- they really are amazing and you'll love it, it doesnt feel like working out!

Momojorn · July 2010

I wasn't necessarily trying to lose weight but wanted to be really fit. My fiance and I got the Insanity set of DVDs (beachbody.com). We finished the two month program and I love my body. I have toned arms and legs, a flatter stomach and I feel really good. The program also teaches you how to eat differently to boost your metabolism and make it burn all day. I am less good about that but I am trying! My fiance lost weight and looks hot! The best part is we did it together everyday, so we bonded in a new way as well. I would definitely recommend it.

koberegg · July 2010

I know you have a short time before your wedding but find a boot camp like workout session. I am not sure where you live but we have something called Booty Camp Fitness and its one hour twice a week for 4 or 8 weeks. I lost 15lbs in the first four weeks and 23lbs by the end of 8 weeks. Its not just the weight its the inches. If you lose the inches you'll look hot! Just keep it up and you'll get there. People aren't at your wedding because of who your bridesmaids they are there for YOU!!!! Enjoy your day!!!

greenteacupcake · July 2010

I agree with some of the previous responses. Find an exercize/activity that you enjoy and make the time to do it everyday.
Personaly I like some of the 30 minute yoga videos On Demand (if you have Comcast) Not only do you work up a sweat but eventually your balance and agility really start to improve which will make for a graceful bride.
Also try the Jillian Micheals videos for a savage work out. If you wanna drop pounds fast, try that every night. I have a hard time losing weight, I have a slow metabolism and I'm 5'2", but when I did that video every weekday before bed for 2 months I saw immediate results.
As for food control, I find that when I don't have any money to spend on food it makes the decision for me, so sometimes I leave my credit card at home on purpose. Bring in some apple cinnimon rice cakes and peanut butter to your work. Whenever you see those enticing donuts go for the rice cake instead to satisfy your sweet tooth.
The first couple of weeks are the hardest, but after that you'll start to feel better and it will be totally worth it!!

suzystamp · July 2010

Aside from force-feeding your bridesmaids with doughnuts, you can't do much about their new-found skinniness... BUT you can definitely shed a few pounds yourself if you want to.

One of my (recently married) work colleagues gave me an encouraging tip - she said don't worry about losing weight, as you'll be so stressed out in the last week, it'll fall off anyway. She said she lost half a stone without even thinking.

My own tips would be:
1. Start running with a friend or colleagues - having a 'date' to go with makes you stick to it. Long, low intensity running is the best for fat-burning.
2. Cut out carbs in the evening - just have your bolognese with veg, or salad & meat or whatever
3. Cut out drinking fizzy drinks (even diet stuff) and drink water or low-sugar squash (if you have that in the US)

I lived with lightweight rowers for a while, and picked up some of their habits. Mainly the cutting out carbs thing.

I have written more (radical) suggestions on my slightly silly bride-to-be blog.

http://tiesandtales.wordpress.com/2010/04/02/dieting-lightweight-style/

Good luck - you'll look fab!

MrsAristarhov · July 2010

Here are some tips for losing weight:
Eat early and stop eating after 6pm. Try having lots of veggies and healthy food, snacks. Drink water & diet coke
xenadrine is a good weight loss supplement but its strong so dont take their recommended dose. They say to take 3, but start off by taking just one capsule per day if this feels okay then take 2 per day. They recommend 3 pills before a meal but thats insane!
Keep Running!!! dont give up!

mpwdpw · July 2010

YOU CAN DO IT!!!

Anytime I find myself starting to add a few pounds I cut back on what i'm eating. Most of my friends would roll over if they read this. I have managed to keep myself in a size 2 or smaller for almost a year now. BUT I have to work at keeping myself that way. Let me share with you and other knotties my daily routine.

Breakfast- Muscle Milk Light Chocholate Protein shake. If I feel extra hungry I will eat a banana with it.

Lunch- I work for an orthodontist so we only have an hour to eat and sometimes I wont eat until nearly 1 and I have to be back at 1:30. So, I usually have a frozen meal. I try to stick with lean cuisines or smart ones. Here lately though I discovered amy's bowls. kroger and HEB and places have them in their organic section. I find that these servings are bigger and I can just eat that with some yogurt and not be hungry.

After work- I usually have some sort of healthy snack. Granola bar, nuts, fruit, something to hold me over until dinner.

Dinner- i usually eat whatever I want but I try to keep it healthy.

Over all I avoid Sodas whether it be diet or not! I limit myself to 1 a day and I usually only get a soda if I end up going out for lunch. I avoid fried foods and FRENCH FRIES!! I limit myself to having all of that ONE time a week. You would be surprised how cutting out sodas can make a huge difference.

I know that different things work for different people but this has helped me.

Finally I do go to the gym. My fiance and I go at least 3 times a week. However since we got engaged we haven't been going.

Plus we cancelled our membership so that we could enjoy the outdoors. I lift weights just to help tone my arms. Cardio helps with everything else!

Hope this helps somewhat

rdailey21 · July 2010

Anyone wanting to lose weight and needs help i encourage you to check out Sparkpeople.com. it's a free weight loss program, you creat a page (if you want to) join support groups, make tons of friends and see others progress and just be there for eachother! You can get TONS of great recipies and workouts too!

i lost 20lbs on it and started right before Christmas last year

Good Luck!

mpwdpw · July 2010

Oh there is also this stuff called Healthytrim I have never tried it but a local radio dj swears by it. She used it before getting married and it worked. BTW you cant just cut back instantly on everything that you normally eat. You might upset your body. like me, i found out that I'm hypoglycemic and so I now have to change my whole eating habit so that it doesn't affect me as much.

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