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The saga continues....

So, we got that list of 19 invitations...... Um, it's 3 pages long and it's so much more than 19 invitations. For examples, 1 invitation is for 10 guests. It's really 3 invitations in one. She bundled many ppl together to have it be lese invitations. We could not believe it! Well, I can. That woman is always tricky like that. And it includes + 1s when we aren't even doing +1s for ppl we know. It's pretty unbelievable. Needless to say, Drew will be calling his mom and telling her there is no way we are inviting all of these ppl.

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  • dianalynmdianalynm member
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    That's awful!! So sorry. :( I know how a saga can go on and on...prime example, our ex-planner!

    She is soooo sneaky! You should just tell her that because of her sneakiness, no invites at all! lol.

    I haven't checked the mail, yet, but we just got back last night. Gonna check today to see if we got the rest of our refund back!
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    [QUOTE]That's awful!! So sorry. :( I know how a saga can go on and on...prime example, our ex-planner! She is soooo sneaky! You should just tell her that because of her sneakiness, no invites at all! lol. I haven't checked the mail, yet, but we just got back last night. Gonna check today to see if we got the rest of our refund back!
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    Kimmy she is unbelievable! I'd do the same " NO INVITES FOR YOU". Like he soup nazi on Seinfield "NO SOUL FOR YOU!"
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    [QUOTE]Kimmy she is unbelievable! I'd do the same " NO INVITES FOR YOU". Like he soup nazi on Seinfield <strong>"NO SOUL FOR YOU!"
    </strong>Posted by jtoly[/QUOTE]
     This made me giggle.  From what Kimmy has said this might be true....

    Kimmy, I too vote for "since you can't be reasonable, neither can I, so no invites."
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  • I agree! No invites! She's crazy!
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  • I can completely relate as my FMIL did this last week and it was my biggest wedding stress so far. My family limited our invites to "first circle" aunts/uncles/cousins of MINE only. FI's mom sent us a list of EIGHTY SEVEN PEOPLE, over 80% were people we've never heard of. And our "limit" on guests at the AHR is 150! Ugh!

    If it's any consolation, the convo FI had w/ his mom about "not happening" went much easier than I anticipated. You definitely have my sympathy!
  • HappyMaddieHappyMaddie member
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    I feel you! That's why we did a destination wedding in the first place, my easy going mom went nuts after we told her we wanted just family and some of our friends. So we just decided to get away! But like you we will be facing all of the same shananigans that you are right now! Just keep sticking to your guns especially if your paying for most of it. Wedding are about the bride and groom and I really wish other people would realize it. His mom had her wedding (I'm assuming?) this is you and your fiancés time! Good luck!
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  • OF COURSE you can do that! NO SOUL FOR YOU!
    And if she fights back, Jenn and I will come after her with ice scrapers!

  • OMG that is unbelievable!! What is her deal...
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  • jtolyjtoly member
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    Yes!!! I have a few ice scrapers I can lend out!!
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  • vsnobergvsnoberg member
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    See this right here is why I like this board so much better than the basic knot boards. Everyone here is reasonable, not judgemental, and understands the wedding is about bride and groom. Etiquette is nice but not always the way to go. Sorry i went off on a tangent there.

    Sorry about having to deal with this from your FMIL. I like the whole NO INVITES thing but understand that its not realistic, instead I would give her a head count #. She can have all the invites but only X number of people unless she's gonna front the full cost of the extra people (extra chairs, extra napkins, extra food, extra favors, ect.)
  • edited April 2012
    Wow how do you include that many people on 1 invite ??? I do not think she is following etiquette protocol !!!!!!!!!!! I would seriously just tell her it is too late to invite people. I mean you guys set your guest list MONTHS ago.
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    Scrape scrape scrape........
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    [QUOTE]Wow how do you include that many people on 1 invite ??? I do not think she is following etiquette protocol !!!!!!!!!!! I would seriously just tell her it is too late to invite people. I mean you guys set your guest list MONTHS ago.
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    Oh, yeah she's not. On one invitation she put her cousin and his wife, their two children who are married and don't live with them, their children's spouses and their children's children. Yeah, it should really be 3 invitations.

    Yeah, we are fun crazy on this board. We don't put brides down, we just encourage them to punch or take an ice craper to others.
  • edited April 2012
    Or even drink wine from a bag... 
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  • This is all I can think about when you say punch people...I'm stupid...

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    But, Cathy that works. As long as it involves throwing that pitcher of kool-aid in another's face. 

    Yeah, we do encourage drinking out of bags. Especially in cemeteries. 
  • LOL!!! Did you really expect anything less from her?!?

    I'm going to throw out a positive and at least she is inviting people!  I feel like that is far better outlook on her part then her attitude when you got engaged/before getting engaged.

    Lay down the law missy :)
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    Bahahaha I love drinking out of the wine bag in the cemetery. Cathy I love the punch pic.. Very cute!
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  • kimmykupcakeskimmykupcakes member
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    It cracks me up that you took a picture of that. Sarah that is so not a positive!
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    kimmy that is NOT okay!  so sorry that you actually have to deal with this stuff!  i couldn't even imagine being put in that position...esp since i am not so good at being the "bigger person".  I wouldn't have even allowed any of her additional ppl an invite...good luck girl!  i know you can handle it, stick to your guns!

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    More evidence, though, right?!
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    [QUOTE]More evidence, though, right?!
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