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fsil problem

jennajenjennajen member
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My fsil is going to grad school so I thought (obviously) that it would be easier to go shopping with her and my fmil during the summer.  To make a long story short, I received an email from fsil telling me that her and fmil decided that since she's so busy this summer hanging out with her friends and going on vacation that we're going to have to go shopping when we come to his parents over my fiance's birthday weekend (which she would know if she talked to me that we already have plans to celebrate his birthday with his friends he barely sees) and that if we don't find anything up there we will go shopping down here on the day of fiance's cousin's wedding. 

That said, I know that my wedding day is only one day and that she has a life.  Grad school takes up a ton of her time so I just wanted to do it earlier so it wouldn't interrupt her summer.  Instead, she's sending me emails insinuating that I'm being a bridezilla and just being condescending.  I've been really open with her during this process and have been all about her finding something that she really likes.  

I'm thinking of just sending her an email with links to dresses and shoes I like so her and fmil can have at it.  Any other suggestions?  Thanks!
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Re: fsil problem

  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    First, what are you shopping for?
    If you are talking about BM dresses, your solution is reasonable. You don't have to take all the BMs with you to shop as long as you respect their budgets.
    As far as your FMIL's dress goes, she can pick her own dress at her leisure. This is one less thing for you to worry about, since adults should be able to dress themselves.
                       
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  • jennajenjennajen member
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    edited December 2011
    I mean bridesmaid dresses.  I'm not really worried about my fmil's dress.
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    edited December 2011
    You should find out her budget, pick a date that is convenient for you, if she can join you fine, if not- that's okay, too. If you have other BMs that interested, take them with you. Once you have the selection narrowed down, email her the pictures.
                       
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_fsil-problem?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:c8f3c793-2e3f-458d-9b4e-cfaedcb5cf37Post:a5833bb5-7720-4ce4-b8e0-6c330304cfb1">fsil problem</a>:
    [QUOTE]that we're going to have to go shopping when we come to his parents over my fiance's birthday weekend (which she would know if she talked to me that we already have plans to celebrate his birthday with his friends he barely sees)
    Posted by jennajen[/QUOTE]
    On a sidenote, It's really sad that his mother thinks she is getting to see her son on his birthday weekend, but she isn't. Maybe that's something he should be talking to her about and not something she should find out from you while discussing bridesmaids dresses?
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