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Rehersal Dinner

SillylttloneSillylttlone
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Hello! Happy wedding planning! I have a quick ? Who should be invited to the rehersal dinner?  I was thinking to invite the entire wedding party (4 on each side, and flower girl, both sets of parents, and maid of honor, best mans guests only. That will be 17 people.  I wasnt planning on inviting the guests of the regular groomsmen and bridesmaids as we are not close to their boyfriends/girlfriends. We are however inviting their guests to the wedding. Do you think this is an appropriate decision? Thanks for your input! -Tiff
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  • JBs_BrideJBs_Bride
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    edited December 2011
    I am inviting the signifcant others of my WP to the RD. If was a bridesmaid in a wedding and my FI wasn't invited to the RD, but the MOH's FI was, I'd be upset.
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  • bostonbride214bostonbride214 member
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    edited December 2011

    We included the significant others of all of our wedding party in the RD. I'd be offended if I didn't get invited when FI is in the wedding - it shouldn't matter if you know them well or not.

    Don't forget to include those doing the readings and / or gifts at the wedding in the RD as well, they'll need to be at the church rehearsal (if you are having one) and should be included on the RD list.

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  • october010brideoctober010bride
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    edited December 2011
    It is really proper etiquette and customary to invite the guests of your wedding party... even if you don't know them very well. I know I'd be furious if fi was in a wedding and was required to go to the RD and I wasn't invited.
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  • chubbybunnychubbybunny member
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    edited December 2011
    Yes I'd definitely invite all significant others of the wedding party. Might be a little awkward when you see them at the wedding if you don't.

    Also something to think about...we're inviting some of the out of town guests to the rehearsal dinner as well. We only have a few, though, so I know this may not be possible for everyone.
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  • eouelleteouellet member
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    edited December 2011
    It is inappropriate to not invite your bridal party members' guests to the rehearsal dinner - and you certainly should not give preference to the guests of the BM and MOH.  We had people at our rehearsal dinner that I had never met before.  The RD is really as much about your bridal party as it is about you and your fiance, so it frankly should not matter whether you are close with your BP's dates or not.
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  • LexiMSLexiMS
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    edited December 2011
    We are inviting the whole wedding party, plus guests, and all out of town family/family friends.  We will meet up with our oot friends after the rehersal dinner. 
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  • megandjaymegandjay member
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    edited December 2011
    It is very nice that some people invite out of town guests, but this is not customary.

    The rehearsal dinner is for the people involved in the ceremony rehearsal and their significant others, and the immediate family of the B&G. This is the bride/groom, priest/minister, parents of the couple, siblings of the couple, BMs/GMs and their partners, readers, ushers, or anyone else actually involved in the ceremony.

    If the participants in the ceremony have significant others, then they should be invited. However, if they are single, you do not need to invite them to bring a random date.
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  • jilliannoel88jilliannoel88 member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with all of the PPs!
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  • kebmtm071605kebmtm071605
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    edited December 2011
    It is absolutely inappropriate and rude not to invite your wedding party's guests.  They need to be invited.
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  • kirst810kirst810 member
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    edited December 2011

    You definitely need to invite everyone who attends your rehearsal to your rehearsal dinner (wedding party, priest or JP, readers, ushers, gifts, etc.) and then significant others of these people. I can understand if you do not want to invite the "significant other" of your 16 year old junior bridesmaid but for your WP you really need to invite their guests. I was once in a wedding and the bride only invited the significant others to the RD if we had been with them for a certain period of time which I was furious at.

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