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Bridesmaids and Groomsmen?

Hello fellow SA brides,

My FH and I have been trying to decide whether to have a wedding party and, if so, what they would actually do at the ceremony. Have any of you had a similar challenge? The other thing I'm not sure is that, if we have bridesmaids and groomsmen, will that be slighting our actual brothers and sisters (or cousins), since they usually have a role in the wedding too?

Thanks!

Re: Bridesmaids and Groomsmen?

  • edited December 2011
    We didn't have a bridal party-but I have been to several indian weddings that did.  They didn't really do anything during the ceremony-but the groom/bride wanted to acknowledge them.  The girls can walk in right before the bride. Or they can wear the same thing/color and sit in the front. 
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  • edited December 2011
    We had bridesmaids and groomsmen as well and for me it was more about acknowledgement as well since they were so involved before the wedding in helping plan things, etc.  Some of the bridesmaids did a dance for the sangeet, during the wedding, the groomsmen accompanied the groom in the baraat and then sat in the front, near the mandap with us.  The bridesmaids walked out before me, carrying trays and diyas and then also sat with the groomsmen.  They were also announced during the reception and some of them gave a speech at that time as well.  I don't think it's any more than what they do in non-Indian weddings.

    As for cousins and siblings -- we both have brothers and they were both groomsmen.  I had all my guy cousins walk me down the aisle -- usually done by mom's brothers but none of them were present.  There are many ways of involving cousins if that is important to you -- they can do a dance/performance, they can give speeches, they can do a reading, etc.  It's really up to you and how you want your family to be involved in the wedding.  I really wanted a lot of aunties and uncles to be involved so they all actually put on a performance during the wedding and the reception and they really appreciated being involved.

    Phew... sorry for that long message.  Hope it helps!
  • amberlynnedamberlynned member
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    edited December 2011
    I've been to a few weddings where the bridesmaids & groomsmen served the guests refreshments, escorted them to their seats, handed out programs, etc. 

    Thats what FI & I plan to do with our WP
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  • sadesai217sadesai217 member
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    edited December 2011
    hey SA brides,

    i'm going through the same dilemma myself as i dont want to offend anyone, however, if we chose a bridal party the groomsmen and bridesmaids would not be even

    on top of that, SA brides have to pay for the bridal party outfits, and i'm not sure if we can fit that into the  budget

    the acknowledgement part is a  really nice touch, especially since the bridesmaids go through the work of helping you through the process, prewedding events, etc....i don't see the point of groomsmen, but since its an adaptation of western culture and people want pictures to look nice, we end up adding them in

    i'm pretty much the girl from 27 dresses....finally found the guy but have no idea what i'm going to do for the wedding and if i'll have enough time to even plan things accordingly...

    ~S
  • sugusugu member
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    edited December 2011
    I had them, but actually might skip that in retrospect. It was a lot of work to buy them matching outfits. Yeah, it was nice for photos, but I could have arranged for the same people to be in photos wearing whatever they wanted. Also, it ended up being awkward picking only certain friends to be bm/gm.  We included siblings, but not cousins as no cousins attended the wedding.
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