My brother had a rose ceremony in his wedding that honored the mother of the bride and groom. They both hand one to their respective MILs. Well she handed hers to our stepmother instead, which sucked because I felt my mom's sadness that day. They weren't the closest at the time and had a falling out, but our stepmother has been a major B!T(# our whole lives and never once tried to help or support him with anything.
It may sound ridiculous but I really would like to honor my mother on my wedding day, not because of what happened before, but because I love her like crazy and I believe she deserves it. I actually saw a wedding on TV where the the bride and groom got a "last kiss before marriage" from their mother, since they were the ones that gave them the first kiss into life. I thought it was great, but I don't know if we'd want to do that.
My problem here is that I don't want to offend my stepmother like my mother was offended, but I don't want her to get a damn rose. ha ha.. she's never been a mother to me. I don't think she'd be crazy upset or anything, she's kind of a cold-to-the-bone type, but would it just be mean spirited? I'm not trying to be at all, I just really want my mom to be part of the ceremony. ughh... sometimes relationships with stepparents can be difficult. I'm not even prepared to think about the daddy/daughter dance and my stepdad.