Bridesman Gift

Re: Bridesman Gift

• blackfire5th

  

  March 2010

  You should shop for all your attendants like it is their birthday.  Necklaces for them to wear for your wedding is a gift for you, not them.

  
  

  Stay away from the wedding party gifts on websites.  What is your brother interested in?  Any hobbies?

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  Repeat this to your self: My Wedding Party is made of my family and friends and I should treat them as such.

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• stina93446 member

  

  March 2010

  You know your brother better than any of us strangers do. Shop for him like it's his birthday. What would you get him for xmas? does he like video games, concerts, sports games? etc...

  
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• caseyandlizzie member

  

  March 2010

  Does he play video games? If so, find out what game he wants and get that for him....or is he into sports? Maybe get him a jersey of his favorite player, or tickets to a game.

  
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• stina93446 member

  

  March 2010

  And ditto blackfire, the necklaces are not a true gift for them. They are for your wedding.

  
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• stina93446 member

  

  March 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesman-gift-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:ea363f9b-7c0e-4620-ae27-c589dd53e6fbPost:112c6226-e1b4-4144-b22a-081f20b1af45">Bridesman Gift</a>:
  [QUOTE]I have my 18 year old brother as my Bridesman and am having the hardest time shopping for him.  I got my bridesmaids necklaces to wear at the wedding, but he is only 18 and most of the traditional "groomsman" gifts are completely inappropriate. Help! Jenni
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• mbcdefg member

  

  March 2010

  Don't worry about getting "traditional" groomsman/bridesmaid gifts. Worry about getting each of your attendants something they will like and use. The gifts don't need to be identical.
  
  What kinds of things does your brother like? What would he use? What would he buy himself if he had money to burn? Sports or concert tickets, video games, camping equipment, art supplies? Does he need a wristwatch or a new wallet? Would he like some nice sunglasses? Is there a new or expensive restaurant that he wants to try (gift card)? A new lens for his camera? Maybe a gas card or a hotel voucher for that road trip he's got this summer? A sweatshirt from the college he'll be attending?
  
  Also, necklace to wear in your wedding really aren't "gifts" for your wedding party. It's not a thoughtful gift to say, "Here, you have to wear these necklaces to my wedding, but then you get to keep them for yourselves afterward!" Something to be used for YOUR wedding isn't a gift. If that is the only gift you have planned for your BMs, I would highly encourage you to get them each something else - even something small. My BM's birthday was this week and I got her a librarian action figure - not expensive or fancy by any means - and she was delighted with it (she's an MLS student).

  

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• trix1223 member

  

  March 2010

  ditto pps.  The jewelry you've bought is not a gift TO  your BMs.  It's something FOR your wedding.  So that shouldn't be considered your WP gift.
  
  Take the words "wedding party" out of the equation.  Now go shopping.  Think about each person as an individual, rather than as part of your wedding.  What would you get them now?
  

  "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146

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