I need some advice.

baconsmom · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I need some advice. : Or, for all any of us know, she could be out and out cheating, which could be a dealbreaker for him if he knew. I never understand this argument for inaction. If it's something they agreed to, then saying something hurts no one; at worst, they're slightly embarrassed. If it's not something they agreed on, then saying something prevents this guy from wasting a larger portion of his limited lifespan on a situation he doesn't want. To recap: saying something could save someone from a lot of harm at best, and at worst make people a little squirmy; saying nothing could let people live squirm-free at best, while at worst making you an accessory to wasting some poor guy's life. Which sounds like it comes out better in the cost/benefit analysis to you?
Posted by ReturnOfKuus[/QUOTE]

<div>Maybe he's one of those that thinks if he doesn't know, it doesn't hurt him, and won't want to know. I wouldn't, if my H were out-and-out cheating. I'm blissfully ignorant, and I would hope to stay that way, because dealing with all of that - I'm not going to leave him, so why? Why do that? </div><div>
</div><div>Plus, I just don't feel like it's anyone's business. If I saw this, I *might* mention it to the friend I saw, IF we were extremely close, but then again, I probably wouldn't, because their marriage has nothing to do with me. It just isn't a place I'd stick my nose, period. </div><div>
</div><div>Obviously, your mileage varies. </div>

ReturnOfKuus · August 2012

Assuming that (likely) injustice is none of your business if it doesn't affect you directly is a large part of what is wrong with this world.

Wzz · August 2012

maybe the husband was waiting for them at the motel.

FLANYTATOOGURL · August 2012

Excuse me miss Monkey, Shout people out.

**O-Face** · August 2012

Seriously. This whole thing has made my frown turn upside down.

FLANYTATOOGURL · August 2012

If my FI was cheating I would want to know, but what I want or believe is not for everyone. IE: the whole dying in an airplane vs dying in a car crash.

mrsconn23 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]Excuse me miss Monkey, Shout people out.
Posted by FLANYTATOOGURL[/QUOTE]

You're still doing it wrong.

And now I'm picturing your FI spraying people with Shout to 'erase' them.

FLANYTATOOGURL · August 2012

In Response to Re:I need some advice.:[QUOTE]i'm still surprised that you don't gossip with your fiance. this is our favorite pastime! what do you talk about when you go out to dinner if you don't gossip about other people? Posted by Wzz[/QUOTE]
I gossip with him, just not about things that he will want to take action on. If I tell him he is going to be all "He needs to know" if I decide to tell her husband I will do it when I want not when my FI wants.

Wzz · August 2012

i've heard it "shout people out". IOW, "call someone out".

i have to start grocery shopping at night to see if i can catch my friends cheating.

GBCK · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:I need some advice. : You're still doing it wrong. And now I'm picturing your FI spraying people with Shout to 'erase' them.
Posted by mrs.conn23[/QUOTE]<div>I'm having a Stephen Wright moment...
<img id="il_fi" style="padding-right:8px;padding-top:8px;padding-bottom:8px;" src="http://cdn.memegenerator.net/instances/400x/22417408.jpg" alt="" width="400" height="400" /></div>

FLANYTATOOGURL · August 2012

In Response to Re:I need some advice.:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:I need some advice.:Excuse me miss Monkey, Shout people out.Posted by FLANYTATOOGURLYou're still doing it wrong. And now I'm picturing your FI spraying people with Shout to 'erase' them. Posted by mrs.conn23[/QUOTE]
Okay maybe you need a class on east coast slang words. "Shout you out" means to put your info "on blast" which is another slang word. Jeez you people nit pick at the dumbest things, but I assume most of you are from the middle of the country and are still about 10 years behind the rest of the country when it comes to things like slang.

ReturnOfKuus · August 2012

It's probably a more accurate assumption if you just assume we're all old and too busy yelling at kids to get off of our lawns to keep up with all the hip young people slang.

FLANYTATOOGURL · August 2012

In Response to Re:I need some advice.:[QUOTE]It's probably a more accurate assumption if you just assume we're all old and too busy yelling at kids to get off of our lawns to keep up with all the hip young people slang. Posted by ReturnOfKuus[/QUOTE]
Actually it is a slang word from the mid 90's. I have no clue what young people say, I am in my 30's.

thejucheidea · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:I need some advice.: I assume most of you are from the middle of the country and are still about 10 years behind the rest of the country when it comes to things like slang.
Posted by FLANYTATOOGURL[/QUOTE]

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You have some serious butthurt issues.

mrsconn23 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:I need some advice.: Okay maybe you need a class on east coast slang words. "Shout you out" means to put your info "on blast" which is another slang word. Jeez you people nit pick at the dumbest things, but<strong> I assume most of you are from the middle of the country and are still about 10 years behind the rest of the country when it comes to things like slang.</strong>
Posted by FLANYTATOOGURL[/QUOTE]

Says the person who's using almost 20 year old slang. Um...OK.

TheDuckis · August 2012

Oh Flany-can't-spell-tattoo. Don't ever change.

FLANYTATOOGURL · August 2012

In Response to Re:I need some advice.:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:I need some advice.:In Response to Re:I need some advice.:nbsp; I assume most of you are from the middle of the country and are still about 10 years behind the rest of the country when it comes to things like slang.Posted by FLANYTATOOGURLYou have some serious butthurt issues. Posted by ahstillwell[/QUOTE]
You have parents that wished you would have died alone and afraid!

Wzz · August 2012

i don't understand why you followed them. how did you know they were going to the same destination if they were traveling in separate cars?

jojobrn · August 2012

I swear, I need to get this damn tune out of my head, but every. single. time I read this thread it starts up again.

"Oh Flany boy, the pipes, the pipes are calling..."

mrsconn23 · August 2012

*ded* Jojo

FLANYTATOOGURL · August 2012

In Response to Re:I need some advice.:[QUOTE]I swear, I need to get this damn tune out of my head, but every. single. time I read this thread it starts up again."Oh Flany boy, the pipes, the pipes are calling..." Posted by jojobrn[/QUOTE]
Haha, that reminds me of a house of pain song. Thanks, now that is going to be stuck in my head all day.

FLANYTATOOGURL · August 2012

In Response to Re:I need some advice.:[QUOTE]i don't understand why you followed them. how did you know they were going to the same destination if they were traveling in separate cars? Posted by Wzz[/QUOTE]
I followed them because like other people have posted it seemed strange that they were hanging out in the super market and I figured that this was where they were meeting and not how the night was ending. She followed him and I followed her. I saw them both park their cars while I was at the red light and walk into the motel together.

thejucheidea · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_i-need-some-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:293c1d16-bc45-4c18-8d9d-4bfaa4ac4165Post:b03a7e51-3137-4ee0-8fa8-4206eb5744da">Re:I need some advice.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:I need some advice.: You have parents that wished you would have died alone and afraid!
Posted by FLANYTATOOGURL[/QUOTE]

Yeah, that sounds about right.

Gatorsgirl731 · August 2012

You could call that show Cheaters and let them tell the womans husband.

If it were me I'd tell FI and he would tell her DH because he has more tact than me, he wouldn't "shout it out" though.

FLANYTATOOGURL · August 2012

In Response to Re:I need some advice.:[QUOTE]You could call that show Cheaters and let them tell the womans husband.If it were me I'd tell FI and he would tell her DH because he has more tact than me, he wouldn't "shout it out" though. Posted by Gatorsgirl731[/QUOTE]

That is actually a great idea but I think you have to be one of the people getting cheated on to report it to them. I can't imagine cheaters knocking on this poor guys door and telling him "hey come with us so we can put you and your "whore" wife on TV"

Gatorsgirl731 · August 2012

I just checked your right. Darn! I'd still let it out the husband deserves to know. You could post on her wall "Oh hey I couldn't catch up with you the other night at target, but that slutty outfit really works for you. Oh and I saw that husband changed his hair it looks great!"

I mean if they are second tier, you won't be that hurt when she hates you forever right?

FLANYTATTOOGURL · August 2012

In Response to Re:I need some advice.:[QUOTE]Oh Flanycan'tspelltattoo. Don't ever change. Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE]

LOL, I missed this yesterday. I can spell tattoo, I was lurking TK for a few weeks under the name FLANYTATTOOGURL, but the email I used was from a throw away account, and I forgot the password. So hence Flanytatoogurl. What's next are you going to tell me that I spelled "gurl" wrong.

Wzz · August 2012

you spelled "girl" wrong.

TKzilla · August 2012

^ superlike

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