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laladypoet · September 2010

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[QUOTE]I'm in Mery's boat. The rehearsal seems to me like a bit of a PITA and the dinner is an opportunity to honor and thank those in your wedding party and family. Although I'm not hosting the RD, I made sure all members of the WP could bring a guest.
Posted by MarriedInAFever[/QUOTE]
exactly. like how the reception is thanking guests for their gifts and for attending.

NatesGirl16 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]if you are on a budget, and can't afford plus one, I get it. but you'd need to specify that, because most people assume that, if they're in the wedding, they can bring a guest to the RD. I've never even heard of a RD where the wedding party isn't allowed to bring a husband or wife or FI or girlfriend or boyfriend or whatever. that's apparently what's going on. and if everyone's SO is invited, I think it's a diick move to make someone come alone if their SO can't make it. it'd be like saying "you and your wife are invited to the wedding. oh she can't come? you're bringing your sister? no, you can't bring her, I take back that thing where I said you can bring a guest."
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

I think the traveling aspect makes it <strong>more </strong>of a PITA. What are the OOT WP guests supposed to do? I think it's especially rude not to extend an invite to a WP member's guest who is clearly traveling for your event. Does she expect your mom to sit in the hotel by herself for a few hours while you're at the RD?

laladypoet · September 2010

apparently. and I don't think it's ok. and I don't get how anyone else can think it's ok, either, but that's another story.

MarriedInAFever · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: question. : exactly. like how the reception is thanking guests for their gifts and for attending.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

Right. Like, you may prefer drinking beer and watching DVR on Friday nights, but I need you to practice WALKING. You can't bring a guest. It'll be a ball.

laladypoet · September 2010

Manwaithiel · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: question. : exactly. I talked to the bride as soon as I realized Jose couldn't go, and my mom said she'd be my date. the bride was totally fine with it, and even got me and my mom a hotel room (same as she did with the rest of the wedding party), so I assumed my mom was considered my plus one.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

Until you stated this, I had no idea why you were so upset about it. Now I get it. You probably should have stated that in your OP.

Yes she is being kind of rude. Yes, it's probably because you were sick and missed her b-party (read that thread). Yes, it's annoying that there's no contact information. I would just ask her who's in charge of the RD and for their phone number so that you can call them up and ask them what you can do.

That is all.

laladypoet · September 2010

You probably should have stated that in your OP.

live and/or learn.

Manwaithiel · September 2010

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[QUOTE]You probably should have stated that in your OP. live and/or learn.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

It's not really a big deal, it just made things a lot clearer.

laladypoet · September 2010

besides, I assumed it was implied when I said I was bringing my mom as my guest.

laladypoet · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_question-18?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:331fee59-d16a-44e6-b720-2396d747c2dePost:b5a1d713-ee3c-4a92-8f2e-1f1b579fb680">Re: question.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: question. : It's not really a big deal, it just made things a lot clearer.
Posted by Manwaithiel[/QUOTE]

yeah, probably. I tend to be less than coherent when I'm mad. you should see me in person. it's bad.

Manwaithiel · September 2010

Know what you mean. She seems like a huge pain. One of those "Your better with space" friends.

laladypoet · September 2010

"Your better with space" friends.

excellent term

tha'ts exactly what she is.

laladypoet · September 2010

that's cause you get me.

Nebb · September 2010

I just wouldnt go, after all that youve said, but Im an asshole like that.

laladypoet · September 2010

you're not the first person to tell me that, nebb. I'd really love to not go. it's gonna suck balls.

Nebb · September 2010

Well... if youre just ending the friendship later, why still go. I agree with (whoever said it, emile?) that she is being a dikface on purpose (im paraphrasing). You should go to canada instead of the wedding, IMO.

Im pretty ticked off TK censors dickkhead and dickkface

kikibaby · September 2010

If it's an open bar, just drink as much booze as humanly possible and make an ass of yourself. Bonus points if you can ruin some parts of the reception video and get in the pictures of them cutting the cake.

Calypso1977 · September 2010

sorry, lalady, but i dont think you should bring mom to the RD or expect that she be invited.

you could always decline to attend the RD and go out with your mom somewhere else if you are concenred abotu her being alone that night. but really the invite was to you and your husband, he cant go, but that doesnt mean you can bring someone else for a free meal.

laladypoet · September 2010

it's not that we're trying to take advantage of her. it's that my mom is taking a day off work to come to her wedding as my guest. if other members of the wedding party get to bring a guest, I should too. what about the other bridesmaid, who isn't married? she's obviously not bringing her husband. if no one is allowed to bring a guest, ok. but saying that one guest is better than another because they're fukking is bull crap.

laladypoet · September 2010

and calypso, did you even read the whole thread?

Daipaiste · September 2010

Wow. I couldn't make it past the entire first page of this post for all the idiocraZy spouted off. WTF happened to the Knut?

Lala, crash the RD with your mom, drink her booze, and give her a fugly rhinestone JUST MARRIED!!!!1!!! photo frame.

laladypoet · September 2010

dai!!! where have you been??
the knut has changed a little bit, my friend.

vegasgroom · May 2011

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[QUOTE]have you ever been in a wedding where you weren't allowed to bring a guest to the rehearsal dinner? because I'm pretty sure that just happened to me. and it's never happened before. my H can't come with me to the wedding,
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

My FI was in a wedding last summer and I didn't get a RD invite because we were 'only dating' at the time; only those that were engaged or married got a +1. Of course that rule didn't apply to the boyfriend of one of the BM's because he was friends with the groom.

Rosie109 · May 2011

I thought lala started a thread and got 84 posts within seconds.

DAMN YOU.

RobotLegs · May 2011

Dude, where did you even find this post?

I got all excited thinking lala was here

Rosie109 · May 2011

Has she been in that shitastic wedding yet? Is that different than this one?

mkrupar · May 2011

Yeah she was in it. I remember her posting about it. Something about the top of her BM dress being ivory and not white and the bride making her cry for it. She didn't have anything to compare her dress to so she thought it was white. It wasn't until it was next to the others that the difference was noticed.

RobotLegs · May 2011

Yeah, she was in the shitastic wedding- I remember an update about it.

missy68 · May 2011

Haha, me too! And then i thought, holyshit - poor Lala's gotten into ANOTHER one of those shitariffic weddings.

Then I looked at the date. DOH.

musicalsunlight · May 2011

wtf how did this thing get resurrected? Were you just REALLY bored, vegasgroom?

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