Bridal shower.... after a wedding... that I wasn't invited to...

Re: Bridal shower.... after a wedding... that I wasn't invited to...

• vanityink member

  

  February 2013

  Ugh, awful. I'd personally say "sorry, I'm busy that day. Congrats on your marriage"

  
  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  February 2013 edited February 2013

  Wow, that really takes a lot of nerve...
  
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridal shower.... after a wedding... that I wasn't invited to... : yup.
  Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]
  
  This is what I'd do too.

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• Sierra524 member

  

  February 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridal-shower-after-a-wedding-that-i-wasnt-invited-to?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2abe2bac-1b50-4bcf-9981-5d60d3bb57d3Post:951b77b7-6360-47c3-a391-83bdbd8f2be6">Re: Bridal shower.... after a wedding... that I wasn't invited to...</a>:
  [QUOTE]Ugh, awful. I'd personally say "sorry, I'm busy that day. Congrats on your marriage"
  Posted by jessicadall[/QUOTE]
  
  This exactly. Shes only doing it because she wants gifts.

  
  

  
  

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• Pookieson member

  

  February 2013

  EW.  I did have a baby shower after my darling daughter showed up 3 months early.  This....is just....ewwwww. I'd decline.  I hope someone tells her how bad this looks

  

  June 1, 2013 - finally making it official!

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• antibride2013 member

  

  February 2013 edited February 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridal-shower-after-a-wedding-that-i-wasnt-invited-to?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2abe2bac-1b50-4bcf-9981-5d60d3bb57d3Post:d15355ad-cc16-448d-90a0-6996dd2852f9">Bridal shower.... after a wedding... that I wasn't invited to...</a>:
  [QUOTE]Hi ladies!  I have been reading this board for a while and I just needed to come on here and vent for a moment. A friend of mine got engaged in October and then informed us all (via Instagram) that she got married in a shot gun wedding in November. A few weeks later, she let her friends know that she's also pregnant. While not the path I thought she was going to take, I'm happy if she's happy. But then last week I received an invitation in the mail and assumed it was for a baby shower for her. I was wrong. It was an inviation to a BRIDAL shower. It had some cute saying about how they were so excited and in love that they got married quickly and now want to back track and a note about where they were registered.  Now, like I said, I am completely happy for her if she is happy and I really would have loved  to celebrate the wedding with her but she didn't invite us to the wedding and it took place 3 months ago. It seems so odd to "shower" her with "bridal" gifts at this point, right? Especially since I'm sure there will be a baby shower coming up any day now, too.  What would you do? 
  Posted by StPaul0102[/QUOTE]
  
  Ditto.  I would also probably talk to her if she is a good friend and advise her how incredibly inappropriate and rude this is.  Maybe she thought this is OK, and it is so totally not.

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• Lored member

  

  February 2013

  Wow. Just when you think you've heard everything.... This just screams Buy me stuff, Buy me stuff!

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• StPaul0102 member

  

  February 2013

  Thanks, everyone!
  
  I think I just needed an little extra push to feel justified in not attending. My other friend who was invited declined the day she got the invite but she's a lot ballsier than me. We're both preparing ourselves for a PPD-type renewal invite that we'll inevitably be recieving in the fall. 

  
  

  Oh, and I totally agree that a baby shower after the fact is a completely different thing all together. Babies are unpredictable little things. Weddings are only as unpredictable as the people throwing them want them to be. 

  
  

  Thanks, again! 

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• mattycam member

  

  February 2013

  I agree with PP..pass on this one

  http://www.theknot.com/contests/my-real-wedding/photo/161064/mattycams-wedding-traditionally-classy

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• Lored member

  

  February 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridal-shower-after-a-wedding-that-i-wasnt-invited-to?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2abe2bac-1b50-4bcf-9981-5d60d3bb57d3Post:21d5a273-9222-4b2b-b7d8-e1423fa79f0f">Re:Bridal shower.... after a wedding... that I wasn't invited to...</a>:
  [QUOTE]I'd decline and send an etiquette book all wrapped up to be opened at the shower. But I'm a biiiitch like that.
  Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
  
  
  
  This. Is. Awesome.

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• misshart00 member

  

  February 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridal-shower-after-a-wedding-that-i-wasnt-invited-to?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2abe2bac-1b50-4bcf-9981-5d60d3bb57d3Post:f2646ebc-efd0-47ec-b9db-e0238f98d6fc">Re: Bridal shower.... after a wedding... that I wasn't invited to...</a>:
  [QUOTE]Ewww. Although I have to problem with showers after the birth, so long as it soon after and not like a year or something. My grandma was a superstitious lady and I think she insisted on no baby showers until after the arrival of said baby.
  Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]
  
  
  
  I've never heard that. What's the superstition? That they'll lose the baby?

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• jaenella member

  

  February 2013

  I had a friend as well who insisted on no baby stuff entering the house before the baby was born - she explained it as an old Jewish tradition! Apparently it's so that you don't draw bad luck to the baby by drawing attention to them before they are born.

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