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WTH is wrong with people??
We had a new person start this week at my work and just a bit ago some of the girls and I were discussing my wedding and this new chic overheard and started asking twenty questions. One of those questions was to see my ring, to which she replied "Ew, he couldn't afford anything bigger?"..... WTH?? Who says that?! I think the ring is a perfect size, especially for my little fingers. Not to mention it's an heirloom ring, so that right there means more than anything. Luckily one of the other girls I worked with put her in her place but still, keep your nasty comments to yourself!
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Re: WTH is wrong with people??
If she doesn't I would have commented on the size of her non-existent ring.
If she has a large one, I would comment that you do not need to overcompensate for anything with a ring that is too big for your hand.
[QUOTE]Does she have and e-ring? If she doesn't I would have commented on the size of her non-existent ring. If she has a large one, I would comment that you do not need to overcompensate for anything with a ring that is too big for your hand.
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]
She doesn't! And I wanted to say something so bad, but then I'm just stooping to her pathetic little level.
[QUOTE]The irony being that it was like pulling teeth to get H okay with getting me a ring like the one i have. He was worried people would judge him (and apparently he was right) and really wanted to get a ring that was "special". But after awhile he realized that if he wanted me to wear it every day, it should probably be something that I liked and was comfortable wearing and "special" jewelry is just not something I care for. I love my ring more than any other physical possesion I own, I hate it when I can't wear it for this or that, and it is truly, perfectly ME.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
Our jeweler and I argued with DH about the center stone sapphire for my ring - which he wasn't sure about to start off with (he thought people would think a sapphire was cheaper than a diamond). DH wanted a bigger sapphire and bigger diamonds as the two side stones. The jeweler and I argued until DH gave in that the smaller one was the better quality stone and perfect. I insisted on a plain thin wedding band so nothing would compete with the stones. I still get comments from strangers about the ring and DH never believed me that this happens until a waitress at dinner one night did it. He agrees now that the ring is perfect.
OP - I got to design my own ring and it is perfect for me. I also have my great grandmother's e-ring which is also unique (emerald and pearls) and I have no doubt "her". This is the ring that you will wear for the rest of your life hopefully so don't let comments from others hurt you. If they think you needs something big and sparkly to validate your FI, that says a lot about their shallow lives and nothing about you or your FI.
Wow, some people just have brass ones.
[QUOTE]People are just ridiculous. I think the ring (see below :)) is absolutely perfect. I wanted to comment back with the fact that she wasn't wearing one at all, but I just bit my tongue and walked away.
Posted by shanding4787[/QUOTE]
It is beautiful!
The size of the ring should have no merit on the strength of the commitment. That's just silly. I personally never wanted a big one. I have tiny fingers (talking child size in the winter when they don't swell from heat). And my stone is a colorless sapphire, which I love so much more than a diamond. I'd just tell her to shove it.
[QUOTE]People are just ridiculous. I think the ring (see below :)) is absolutely perfect. I wanted to comment back with the fact that she wasn't wearing one at all, but I just bit my tongue and walked away.
Posted by shanding4787[/QUOTE]
Your ring is exquisite and perfect for your small hand. My own fingers are far from tiny. Plus I was born in september, favorite color is blue, wedding will be in september, favorite earth, wind and fire song is "September", and always wanted a ring like the one in the photo. But again, that is what I liked best for me not to prove a point to anyone else. The relationship between a ring size and a relationship is the same as the one between a wedding budget and a marriage. You can go super huge kim kardashian style or you can do vegas drive-thru britney spears style (1st marriage). Both crashed and burned. Because it's about the strength and compatibility of the two people involved and nothing else. I say if you got the budget without debt and want to go big or your personality is more demure and you want something more customized and significant then either way as they say where I'm from, "Do you" and stay happy cause haters are gonna hate regardless.
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
[QUOTE]The lesson from this story is that some people are a$$holes. Period.
Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]
This exactly.
Instead of you defending your ring, now SHE has to defend her rude comment.
[QUOTE]People are just ridiculous. I think the ring (see below :)) is absolutely perfect. I wanted to comment back with the fact that she wasn't wearing one at all, but I just bit my tongue and walked away.
Posted by shanding4787[/QUOTE]
I think your ring is gorgeous. People are rude.
[QUOTE]I think it was Liatris that gave the advice one time to put the rude comment back on the other person by saying 'Why would you say something so rude about something that makes me so happy?' Instead of you defending your ring, now SHE has to defend her rude comment.
Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]
This is nice. Or you can take the other route of "Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't realize that the size of the stones in my ring would have such a negative impact on you. I'll tell FI we need to change the ring immediately so that you can sleep tonight"
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WTH is wrong with people?? : This is nice. Or you can take the other route of "Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't realize that the size of the stones in my ring would have such a negative impact on you. I'll tell FI we need to change the ring immediately so that you can sleep tonight"
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]
Lol I like this one too.
[QUOTE]People are just ridiculous. I think the ring (see below :)) is absolutely perfect. I wanted to comment back with the fact that she wasn't wearing one at all, but I just bit my tongue and walked away.
Posted by shanding4787[/QUOTE]
That looks like my ring!! I loooooove it!
<a href="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/5/8/05ad8330-1e3d-45ab-882a-a162b3ba3e95.large.jpg" title="Click to view a larger photo" class="PhotoLink"> <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/5/8/05ad8330-1e3d-45ab-882a-a162b3ba3e95.medium.jpg" alt="" /></a>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WTH is wrong with people?? : That looks like my ring!! I loooooove it!
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]
Yes it does! Wow...
Here's a picture of my e-ring and wedding ring together. The center stone on my e-ring is like 0.50 carat. It's what I wanted (Big stones tend to look like "costume jewelry" on my smaller fingers), and I love it. Yes, I know girls (Including my own sister) with freaking "promise rings" that are bigger than my ring, but this is MINE, and DH picked it out knowing it would make me happy. As long as you love your ring, stupid crap that other people say doesn't do anything other than make THEM look like buttholes.
Personally, I think she was probably just jealous because she's lonely and looking to put other down to bring them down to her state. not only that, but if she's new, she's probably one of those girls who has to be the 'alpha female' and knock everyone down so she seems better... what an idiot.
Oh, and I have a silver ring with an aquamarine stone that cost like $30 and everyone I know has had the good sense to act impressed by it.