We had an amazing wedding--gorgeous, Santa Barbara location, wonderful friends and family.
There were about 125 guests, and we carefully logged the receipt of all gifts so as not to omit any thank you notes. However, there was a fairly significant percentage of folks who did not give us a gift at all--now, the real gift was their attendance--please know I'm not trying to be one of those kind of people who is going to let that reduce our enjoyment of the occasion or anything, but it was a little surprising. Some of them were in the wedding party, some were family members--I'd say there were about 25 people who did not give us a wedding gift.
I'm not complaining--what I'd really like to know is if this is average? One of them was my step sister--and I can't believe that she simply did not folloow ettiquete--in fact, I've thought about asking my stepmom if she knows what the deal was, because I'm afraid that she must have given us a gift and we didn't receive it--and I don't want her to think that we're ignoring her present.
We've already sent out thank you notes--we were married 3 months ago. I guess the smart thing would have been to send out thank you notes for being a part of the event--and that way anyone who might have given us a gift that was not acknowledged might speak up and we could address it then.
Am I being a jerk?!
Argh.