Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it

Lenore2010 · March 2010

Ok, a friend of mine got engaged last week. I am super happy for her and totally looking forward to her wedding.

She and her fiance have already decided that to save money, the wedding will be on a Sunday night on November, starting at 7:00 PM... They have already booked for the ceromony and reception.

I admire their speedy planning, and I sympathize with the need to save money, but Sunday night?! Sunday night, and so late? The reception does not even start until 8:30.

As a good friend, I am taking the next day off so I can stay and not have to hit the road at 9:30. My fiance is going to try to do the same.

Really, though all things considered I think even a week night wedding is preferable to a late Sunday deal.

zitiqueen · March 2010

People getting married on a Monday shouldn't throw stones.

jedaniel · March 2010

If it's a good friends of your then you should just be happy for her. If my good friend was gettting married on Sunday at 10:00 pm I would be there and enjoy a good time. Mondays are not much better. Everyone is already in a bad mood they had to go back to work that day.

526SadieSadie · March 2010

OMG I hear you! A Sunday night is tough tough tough. Especially for people with kids who have them on a set schedule! A Friday night would be such a better idea! The only reason we're getting married on a Sunday (other than it being 10-10-10 is that it's Columbus Day weekend so no one has to work the next day!

amagwire · March 2010

I don't see the issue, honestly. It's their wedding and they probably realize that it may be an inconvenience to some guests, who may not stay late or come at all. If I had to have a Sunday wedding, I would probably try for afternoon. And long weekend Sunday weddings aren't any better. A lot of people don't have Columbus Day off. I don't. I am going to a 10-10-10 wedding, but may take the next day off.

beatlesgirl25 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_sunday-night-weddings-please-dont?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:2231ddd3-7148-4645-9cc0-4287defe94fbPost:02d01ff4-3f52-4012-a120-9d45a55c751d">Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it</a>:
[QUOTE]People getting married on a Monday shouldn't throw stones.
Posted by zitiqueen[/QUOTE]

THIS is hilarious. Nice catch zitiqueen.

Just wanted to say as well that not all Sunday night weddings are held for the purpose of saving money. Many times venues have a guest or cash minimum you have to meet to have it on a Friday or Saturday night. In my case, we wanted a small, 70 person wedding, not 175+ people. So we did a Sunday afternoon wedding and early evening dinner/dancing. Most of our guests were OOT anyway, and the rest were local.

prideeinpynk · March 2010

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[QUOTE] Really, though all things considered I think even a week night wedding is preferable to a late Sunday deal.
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]

Why? At least with a Sunday wedding you only have to take Monday off (if you have to work). With a Monday, it's at least two days off.

I'm planning a Sunday wedding with a 6pm ceremony on a holiday weekend. At first I was worried about who was grumbling behind my back, but then I realized that if they don't want to come they don't have to. For the people who matter, they are all for it and almost all of my BMs and GMs have said that they're excited because they have an excuse for an extra day off of work, lol.

vanessa7889 · March 2010

My FI and I had initially wanted to do a Sunday wedding because it was cheaper, but then decided to change it to a Friday night so people wouldn't have to leave early.

No matter what way you look at it, a Sunday wedding people would probably take Monday off and Friday weddings people would probably take the day out or take a half day. Regardless, people are going to miss some work. Big deal and it shouldn't matter if they are important to you.

[Deleted User] · March 2010

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[QUOTE]People getting married on a Monday shouldn't throw stones.
Posted by zitiqueen[/QUOTE]

This. I fail to see how Sunday night celebrations are any different than any week night wedding. I'm not understanding what your issue is with it if you are pretty much doing the same thing.

LoveOfMikesLife · March 2010

my FI and I are having a sunday wedding..... we are in the FB industry along with a vast majority of our friends and that is the only day that most people have off

jlpenland · March 2010

Not everyone can have theyre wedding on a fr/sat. I know a bride that dreamed of having her wedding at a certain venue around a certain time of year but that sat was taken so they did it on sunday.

kikibaby · March 2010

I'm getting married on a Sunday night. And it's a DW.

And no, you're not invited.

Lenore2010 · March 2010

I am getting married on a Monday in a DW where we are paying the whole tab for all of our guests, bridal party, the whole deal. Yea, we have inconvenienced those few who are attending the actual wedding more than if we just got married here on a Sunday night, I will grant that.

I am just saying if I were getting married in town, with the big guest list deal going on, then on the off chance we had it on a Sunday, it would have been a daytime or early evening deal. Even 6:00 PM for the ceramony would not have have been so bad. 7:00 is defintely pushing the envelope.

We are taking Monday off and doing the wedding because we are close friends, if it were a co-worker or something we likely would not be doing it.

Just my possibly snarky opinion.

suz62984 · March 2010

I looked into a Sunday wedding here to save money and they were the same price. To me, it is a little much to ask OOT guests to take off Monday in order to stay Sunday night; Unless I knew her well I would probably RSVP no.

rands09 · March 2010

I would have to say...while the timing isn't ideal, at the end of the day, they have to schedule it for when it works best for them (for whatever reasons), and the guests who can (and want to come) will, and those who can't (or don't want to come) won't. That's just how that works...

But it's great that you're close enough friends that you are going, even if it's a tad bit inconvenient!

erollis · March 2010

Really Now?? Sunday weddings are not that bad. If people are coming in from OOT then they most likely have to ask for at least one day off from work/ miss school/ etc. no matter if it is being held on a friday, saterday or sunday.

Just wondering if you feel you have the right to complain about it since she complained about yours being on a monday. If she kept her mouth shut then you should have too.

JHS16 · March 2010

If you are Jewish, it is PROPER to get married on a Sunday. The other alternative is Friday before sundown, or Saturday after sundown. To avoid inconveniencing our guests, we at least picked a holiday weekend so MOST people have the following Monday off.

quotequeen · March 2010

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[QUOTE]Really Now?? Sunday weddings are not that bad. If people are coming in from OOT then they most likely have to ask for at least one day off from work/ miss school/ etc. no matter if it is being held on a friday, saterday or sunday.
Posted by erollis[/QUOTE]

I am not planning to take off work for any of the Saturday weddings that I'm attending this year. I will fly out Friday night after work, or Saturday morning, depending on what time the wedding is, and then fly back on Sunday. If I had to miss work, there are definitely fewer weddings I would attend, and for those I felt close enough to the person to attend anyway, I would still be a little annoyed that they made that decision unless there was a non-selfish reason for it (such as religious requirements).

prideeinpynk · March 2010

I'm impressed by your back-peddling skills, OP.

Lenore2010 · March 2010

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[QUOTE]I'm impressed by your back-peddling skills, OP.
Posted by prideeinpynk[/QUOTE]

"Back peddling" how? By explaining how my situation is different? It is legitimately different.

Message is the same from first post to last (and this will be my last on the topic) if you can avoid a Sunday evening, particularly a late evening wedding-please do!

[Deleted User] · March 2010

Well, of course your specific situation is different, but the fact that you made a thread to complain about a Sunday wedding, while you are having a Monday wedding seems very hypocritical to me.

And talking about what a good friend you are because you are taking the next day off so that you can attend her wedding all while you are creating a thread to complain to a bunch of internet strangers about what a horrible idea it is, seems a little off to me.

Lenore2010 · March 2010

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[QUOTE]Well, of course your specific situation is different, but the fact that you made a thread to complain about a Sunday wedding, while you are having a Monday wedding seems very hypocritical to me. And talking about what a good friend you are because you are taking the next day off so that you can attend her wedding all while you are creating a thread to complain to a bunch of internet strangers about what a horrible idea it is, seems a little off to me.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

<div>Well, it kinda seems to me that at least half of the "Snarky" board is about complaining to a bunch of "Internet strangers". What of it?? It is a damn site less potentially upsetting to her than grumbling at her! Besides, she has a right to have her wedding whenever she likes-I just have a right not to love her timing!</div><div>
</div><div>I was not "talking about what a good friend" I am. I said that because I a a good friend (as in "good friend" <strong><em>of hers) </em><span style="font-weight:normal;" class="Apple-style-span">I was gonna take Monday off so I did not have to cut the night short. </span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="font-weight:normal;" class="Apple-style-span">
</span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="font-weight:normal;" class="Apple-style-span">My "bitching" about this would be hypocritical if I were doing the same thing in the same circumstance. I am not. Made that point, I think.</span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="font-weight:normal;" class="Apple-style-span">
</span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="font-weight:normal;" class="Apple-style-span">Seems "off" to you? Frankly, I don't care. We are not going to agree here, and so be it. I think you are mad because you can't turn me into a hypocritical bitch and a lousy friend on the basis of any of my posts. You don't win the argument just by repeating the same criticisms.</span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="font-weight:normal;" class="Apple-style-span">
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[Deleted User] · March 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it : Well, it kinda seems to me that at least half of the "Snarky" board is about complaining to a bunch of "Internet strangers". What of it?? <strong>And that's exactly the problem with what this board has become. </strong>

It is a damn site less potentially upsetting to her than grumbling at her! <strong>Possibly, but I would rather know where my friends stand rather than have them talk about me on a message board. Also, since she is planning a wedding, isn't it possible that she will see this post? This has happened more than you would think. How would that make her feel? </strong>

Besides, she has a right to have her wedding whenever she likes-I just have a right not to love her timing!

I was not "talking about what a good friend" I am. I said that because I a a good friend (as in "good friend" of hers) I was gonna take Monday off so I did not have to cut the night short. <strong>I honestly don't understand what you are trying to say here. In your OP, you definitely implied that you were being a good friend by taking the next day off so that you wouldn't have to leave early. </strong>

My "bitching" about this would be hypocritical if I were doing the same thing in the same circumstance. I am not. Made that point, I think.<strong> No, I've never defined hypocritical in such black and white terms. </strong>

Seems "off" to you? Frankly, I don't care. We are not going to agree here, and so be it. I think you are mad because you can't turn me into a hypocritical bitch and a lousy friend on the basis of any of my posts. You don't win the argument just by repeating the same criticisms. <strong>I'm not trying to win this argument. I actually don't even really care. But yeah, you're being a hypocrite. </strong>
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]

Ok. I'm done.

Lenore2010 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_sunday-night-weddings-please-dont?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:2231ddd3-7148-4645-9cc0-4287defe94fbPost:d962575a-c11a-4ef0-be3d-a56ca9b106a8">Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it : Ok. I'm done.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

<div>I do define being a hypocrite in those "narrow" terms. You are by all means entitled to your opinion. Being a hypocrite means you are doing what you criticize others for, that is the definition. The word is not just whatever you decide it means.</div><div>
</div><div>I happen to know my friend hates "The Knot". Just not her thing, she is a Wedding Bee kind of girl, otherwise no I would not post this here. She does not need to know "where I stand"=she needs to have her wedding when she wants to and the rest of us need to deal with it. As I said, I am not loving it but I am dealing with it.</div><div>
</div><div>I did mean I would probably only do the take Monday off thing for a good friend, not the I was being a wonderful friend by talking Monday off. My meaning was perhaps not as clear as it should have been.</div><div>
</div><div>"Snark" does involve a fair amount of bitching by it's very definition. For someone who is sitting around mourning "what these boards have become", you are pretty rude.</div><div>
</div><div>I'm done.</div><div>
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[Deleted User] · March 2010

Okay. Now that we are both done, can we hug it out? For real. I'm tired of fighting.

Lenore2010 · March 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it : Ok. I'm done.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

<div>I do define being a hypocrite in those "narrow" terms. You are by all means entitled to your opinion. Being a hypocrite means you are doing what you criticize others for, that is the definition. The word is not just whatever you decide it means.</div><div>
</div><div>I happen to know my friend hates "The Knot". Just not her thing, she is a Wedding Bee kind of girl, otherwise no I would not post this here. She does not need to know "where I stand"=she needs to have her wedding when she wants to and the rest of us need to deal with it. As I said, I am not loving it but I am dealing with it.</div><div>
</div><div>I did mean I would probably only do the take Monday off thing for a good friend, not the I was being a wonderful friend by talking Monday off. My meaning was perhaps not as clear as it should have been.</div><div>
</div><div>"Snark" does involve a fair amount of bitching by it's very definition. For someone who is sitting around mourning "what these boards have become", you are pretty rude.</div><div>
</div><div>I'm done.</div><div>
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sucrets4 · March 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it : "Back peddling" how? By explaining how my situation is different?<strong> It is legitimately different. </strong>Message is the same from first post to last (and this will be my last on the topic) if you can avoid a Sunday evening, particularly a late evening wedding-please do!
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]

It's not. They're both nights where people have to work the next day. Stop being such a hypocrite.

Lenore2010 · March 2010

absolutely, CEW

Also, how on earth did that re-post??

Lenore2010 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_sunday-night-weddings-please-dont?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:2231ddd3-7148-4645-9cc0-4287defe94fbPost:db1c52e3-ec38-4b0d-9971-6257ef29e34c">Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it : It's not. They're both nights where people have to work the next day. Stop being such a hypocrite.
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]
No one is working the day after my wedding. All 15 of us are flying back or staying on to enjoy the city. It's a vacation, paid for by us. Very legit on the "different". I made the different pretty clear.

sucrets4 · March 2010

So...a vacation, like people are taking off work?

Yep, still the same.

prideeinpynk · March 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it : "Back peddling" how? By explaining how my situation is different? It is legitimately different. Message is the same from first post to last (and this will be my last on the topic) if you can avoid a Sunday evening, particularly a late evening wedding-please do!
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]

Well, when you start a thread saying how you hate when people have Sunday weddings, then get called out for putting your guests in the exact same position**, and THEN say, "Well, there are certain situations..." that is back-peddling.

**Yes, same position. People are taking off Monday to go to your wedding. Does not matter who pays for it. You cited making people take off work as your problem, not people paying to get to a wedding.

ETA: You also had a lot to say after you were "done."

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