Bridesmaids and dresses what did you do?

WeLoveLilo05 · February 2011

Did you have everyone get together and go dress shopping, or did you decide what dress you wanted and told everyone to order it?
Just not sure what to do, schedules are crazy, I asked bridesmaids what they liked/didn't like and i am staying away from strapless.
What did you do?

M&R7111 · February 2011

Told everyone to wear a little black dress and show up on the 1st of July.

mgietler76 · February 2011

I went with my MOH's because I wanted them in the same dress, and I went with 1 other girl to look. All the other girls chose on their own. I was actually only present when my MOH's chose their dresses. I basically chose the color and length and gave them free reign.

If it's not really feasible to get everyone together and you have a certain dress in mind let them know the style number and they can try it on when they have a chance and decide if they all like it. Or if you don't care that they all match I think the least stressful thing to do choose the basics (like the fact you don't want strap- less for example) and leave them to choose their own.

HTH

Jookie77 · February 2011

I picked a color (Marine) and length (long) from DB and told them to have at it. I have 3 BM in town, but the rest are spread across the country. Also they range from 5'4'' and bodacious to 6'0'' and skinny minny. Nothing against matching dresses, I love the way that looks, but I don't have the time or energy to pick one dress for all 7 girls

jagore08 · February 2011

I went with my sister and one other BM. I told them to get a dress in green and knee length.

LoverBean27 · February 2011

My friends have always thought I would put them in something absolutey hidious. However, that is not the case, because what they wear reflects me. I am going to be very hands on though. It's my wedding day, so I kinda just want to have the final say in what walks down the aisle.

I want to take every one at the same time, if poosible. I'm having 7 so it may be hard. But I think it would be a fun girls day out and a good way from them to get to know each other. Some are from my home town and the rest or either faimly, or college frinds.

ootmother2 · February 2011

Went with 2 BMs and selected possible 4. Brought pictures to the other 4 BMs and they all decided on one. Surprisingly, they all liked the same one the most.

mariegra · February 2011

Took two of the BM's to the salon and we picked them out. The others will order the same dress.

aerinpegadrak · February 2011

I just told them to find something black and left them to their own devices.

marinabreeze · February 2011

I'm letting my BMs know to go to a DB in their area, and letting them know color (apple), length (cocktail or tea), and material (chiffon, organza, or another matte material), and letting them go ahead and get a dress within those constraints. I'm fine with them having different dresses, because I want them to be comfortable and they know what flatters them best. Also, they are all out of town. The closest BM is 2 hours away, and the other BM and my MOH are at least ten hours away by car.

Kniblet · February 2011

My MOH lives in Georgia, with the JR BM's. The other BM lived in Colorado. And I live in MN. So no way did we all go together.

I gave them the color, the length, and they all agreed on a fabric. Then they picked what they wanted and what looks best on them.

sister2groom · February 2011

The most important thing is that you ask their budgets, individually and privately, before you decide on anything. Worst case scenario (from their perspective): you pick a dress they don't really like/doesn't flatter them. I don't reccommend you do that, but it gets a lot worse if they have to pay for a dress they don't like and they can't really afford it.

noelwellin · February 2011

I found a dress online that I thought would be perfect for the wedding (knee length, strapless, cotton, which I thought worked well for a mid-July wedding). All of the BMs liked it based on what it looked like online, plus one was trying to get preggo so it worked really well for that. I took two to DB to try it on, they loved it, ended up picking a whole new color for my wedding scheme (not a problem for me, as long as it wasn't puke green I had no issue), and that was that. It's basically a sundress, and I wanted something they could realistically wear again. I'm sure they won't, but a girl can dream!

janicejab · February 2011

I told them to wear a black dress they like that's around knee length and to wear black shoes with it.

graysquirrel · February 2011

My mom and I scoped out some stores and found one that had dresses I liked in the price range that my BMs came up with. We picked a few dresses out that would be appropriate with a Victorian theme (long and not too modern looking). I then asked the 3 girls if they would like to all get together to go look at them and they did. I showed them what I'd picked but said if they wanted to look at others within my color scheme & that were long, they were welcome to. They ended up finding something else that all of us loved so we went with it.

[Deleted User] · February 2011

I live in GA and 5 of my 5 BM's were in Ohio. My other BM was in VA at the time. There was a time when we were back in our home state and I did go shopping with the 5 that lived in OH. However, they all purchased the dresses on their own time. As for the BM that lived in VA, I just told her what color and fabric and she went to a local DB and purchased it. They all chose the style they wanted. The same went for her daughter which was our FG.

hlq2011 · February 2011

I had a specific designer in mind, and went with one bridesmaid up in New England where she lives, and went with my FSILs and one other BM here in Maryland. We all liked the line I had in mind, so I gave the other girls the designer, length, and color and told them to pick their dresses.

VRL · February 2011

My bridesmaids are scattered across Canada and the Globe.

I gave them some general guidelines - color, length, fabric - and am letting them have it.

I did mention that I was going for a subtle vintage flare with the wedding party's style, and asked for them to pick an outfit they felt would be in keeping with that theme. It's an entirely open request however, where they are more than welcome to do whatever they want to capture a subtle vintage feel. I stressed it could be as easy as a nice pearl necklace, or the neckline / silhouette of the dress.

Accessories, shoes, etc are completely up to them. I want their individual styles to shine through - that's what's going to make the wedding pictures all the more memorable.

I did offer to send a fabric swathe of the color I'm looking for so that they can match the colors as closely as possible. They all accepted the offer.

salsamcg · February 2011

I gave them an idea of a color and am letting each of them pick whatever dress they find. The MOH is in yellow and each of the others just have to find a shade of green. Other than that guideline they have free reign. I really think this is the best way for the bridesmaids to be most comfortable for what is sure to be a long day for them.

seniah · February 2011

We all met up at the dress store. I said your color is navy - go nuts.

beamer84 · February 2011

Luckily, my BMs were all roughly the same body type. I took 2 of the girls to the store and we found a dress that would be flattering on that general type. All 4 of us (my mom was there too) thought the dress was re-wearable too. I sent pics to the other BMs (all long distance) and asked for feedback on style/$ within 2 weeks, as that would still give me time to find solutions for anyone who didn't like the style or cost. Everyone was fine with it, so I told them how to work with the bridal shop to order their size long-distance. It worked wonderfully. Everyone's dress only needed minor alterations, if any.

flerlgirl · February 2011

I individually asked them about budgets, and then my mom and I went together and I found something that I loved. I sent a pic of it to everyone, they agreed, and it was done! Don't stress over it - I'm sure everyone will look beautiful!

garcias1 · February 2011

I went with my MOH and two BMs who lived in the area. I didn't ask the other 4 BMs because they would have to travel at least an hour. At first, I told the girls to each pick their own dress, but they vetoed me, because they didn't want a situation where some girls ended up matching and some didn't (7 girls total). That was totally fine with me, since they seemed happy to do it that way instead. All 3 girls chose the same dress on a chart of knee length dresses, so they all tried it on and liked it. They also tried on another dress that the consultant suggested ($30 cheaper), but they didn't like it as much. We ended up with a dress that the 3 of them liked in everyone's price range (price range was $250 and below, and the dress was $129).

The bottom line is that it was pretty quick and painless going with just the 3 girls. They all have different body types, but all looked great in the dress (it's very flattering). They all have different styles too, so I was surprised they agreed on the same dress.

StephieBow · February 2011

It was too difficult for me to get all of my BMs together so, we chatted about it via e-mail (pictures etc...) and then my MOH and I went to the bridal store and she tried on tons of dresses and we chose the one we thought looked best, took picture of it and sent them back out.

When we went to order, the sample they had was purchased off the rack so the other girls didn't try it on. That said, it's a pretty basic black dress with a sash so, it will look good on everyone!

bwisco123 · February 2011

I think everyone does it a bit different... I'm in 2 other weddings besides my own next year and all 3 of us did it differently.

1. She picked out the style, color and such from DB and told us all to go get fitted and order our dresses asap.

2. We all went shopping together for a dress to find a style that looked good on everyone and the right color. It was very fuN!

3. I picked out the dresses for my girls from Victorias secret (flirty milti way dress... I have one and LOVE IT!) and the color and asked their sizes. I am them letting them wear the dress however they choose since the options are endless!

SO many different ways, all of them work and have the same results!!!

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