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Handing out invitations at upcoming family party?

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I will be mailing out my invitations in mid-December. Every year, my gigantic extended family throws a huge Christmas party around the same time. That being said, would it be socially acceptable to bring the invitations for my many, many family members (we're talking 50-60 invitations here) who will be in attendance and just hand them out to save on postage (and the possibility of ppl being able to respond right there)? Or will I look cheap and risk guests forgetting the invitations at the party?
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  • SKPMSKPM member
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    In Response to Re:Handing out invitations at upcoming family party?:[QUOTE]Are they ALL going to be invited? That would be my main concern. I don't think it's fair to hand out invitations if some of them will not be invited. Posted by Edie Bee[/QUOTE]
    Ditto this. I don't think there's an etiquette issue with hand delivering them, but I would only do so at that party if everyone in attendance will be invited to your wedding.

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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    edited December 2012
    I think mailing the invitations is a safer bet.
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    With THAT many invites, I suggest mailing them. It will be less expensive, but what happens if someone forgets theirs, takes the wrong one, and so on. If it were only like 10-15, it'd be one thing, but there's just far too much room for human error.
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  • Carson386Carson386 member
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    I'd be worried with that many people. All of them may not be invited and that's rude if not everyone is invited. I'd be more worried about people leaving them there though. I handed out my STDs at a family get together where everyone there was invited, but I wasn't overly concerned about them getting lost just because it was STDs, not invitations.
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  • LoopysevenLoopyseven member
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    If everyone at the party is invited, it's fine to hand deliver them, but at that large of a party, I'd probably skip it cause people will set them down somewhere and forget to take them home with them or stick them in a purse they don't use all the time and forget they got them.  It just kind of sounds like a recipe for disaster to me.
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  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    If each and every person at the upcoming party will be invited to the wedding, I see no problem giving the invitations (personalized envelopes, fully addressed) to your family members in person.  If there is anyone at the party who will not be invited to the wedding, don't hand out a single invitation there.
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