MC

[Deleted User] · December 2010

You're making me crazy. You've got to stop talking about people not liking you and about the whole posting during school thing. Every time you bring it up, you are drawing more attention to it. If you just leave it alone some people will get over it. Not every one will, but you know what? That's okay. Not everyone has to like you.

Celles had some great advice for you. You need to remember that none of this is real. You could stop posting tomorrow and nothing that anyone said on the board would have the slightest effect on your RL. Keep that in mind and it might help you get some perspective.

And I'm not doing this to be a bitch because I really don't have a dog in this fight. I guess I'm just trying to give you some advice.

[Deleted User] · December 2010

None of this is real? Damnit. My mother was right. I do make people up in my head.

leayn · December 2010

This would all have become real for me if I had participated in SS. I will never forgive myself!

[Deleted User] · December 2010

No. The people in your head are real, Seshat. They are. They send me hand knitted ornaments and frozen meatloaf.

katiewhompus · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:13f47e55-4549-4564-a887-d731373c7f96">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]None of this is real? Damnit. My mother was right. I do make people up in my head.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

And it's making you money <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

[Deleted User] · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:56742930-eff8-4eaf-b98a-c4a91e1af00a">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]No. The people in your head are real, Seshat. They are. They send me hand knitted ornaments and frozen meatloaf.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

What! I don't get anything. That doesn't seem fair. My own made-up head people don't like me.

KW--hopefully one day they really will! Make themselves useful up there.

MISSCOURTNEY20 · December 2010

Thanks Cew. To be really honest, I am so torn about this. At first, I would say the same thing you just said. Get over it. Ignore it. Let it be. But for some reason, I can't. And I have to say that it is probably because I have become FB friends with some people and that makes it "real" for me. I know I have to do something about the way that I am feeling.

anna.oskar · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:13f47e55-4549-4564-a887-d731373c7f96">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]None of this is real? Damnit. My mother was right. I do make people up in my head.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

Seshat: There IS no spoon.

Anysunrise · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:c19b5dc7-56c3-4484-b6d1-8798aeee970c">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks Cew. To be really honest, I am so torn about this. At first, I would say the same thing you just said. Get over it. Ignore it. Let it be. But for some reason, I can't. And I have to say that it is probably because I have become FB friends with some people and that makes it "real" for me. I know I have to do something about the way that I am feeling.
Posted by MISSCOURTNEY20[/QUOTE]

Dude, no offense, but you WERE ignoring it. Happily. I can't imagine you didn't know how people would react to some of the things you posted, so now it seems like you got tired of that and want to play the pity card. I just don't know what to make of you half the time.

[Deleted User] · December 2010

I've been there, MC. It took me a while to get comfortable with the fact that some people just aren't going to like me. I'm actually thankful to the boards for teaching me that. It's actually improved my RL as well.

I'm not saying get over it, I'm just saying that you need to find a way to deal with it and be okay with it because you are not going to change peoples' opinions of you. The only thing you have control over is how you handle it.

Nebb · December 2010

Can someone fill me in, lotsa details?

jasmineh7777 · December 2010

To piggy back on what Cew said, I think it is hard for us to get to know you because you are still dwelling on this.

I know very little about you besides the fact that some people don't like you, and you used to post at work. Move on from it, so other people have the opportunity to focus on the things you do want them to see.

Nebb · December 2010

You should realize though that even if you DONT bring up posting from school or any of the other things youve done, people will still remember it and it might be brought up because of the knot memory phenomenon. You cant undo being daft, it follows you.

[Deleted User] · December 2010

Like a fart when you don't cut off the tail.

MISSCOURTNEY20 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:814efa74-dfc0-46a8-8f78-fcffe3422def">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: MC : Dude, no offense, but you WERE ignoring it. Happily. I can't imagine you didn't know how people would react to some of the things you posted, so now it seems like you got tired of that and want to play the pity card. I just don't know what to make of you half the time.
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

I know it seems that way Any, but I really didn't. With the whole xmas thing, everyone is right, I should have looked into that before I got my ass handed to me. But I thanked Les and Celles when they told me about it and moved on. I know that people think that I want the negative attention, but I really don't. I am not on here to get ripped a new on everytime I turn around. Seriously, who does that besides trolls?

I think it might be the PMS this week. I swear to God I have not been this touchy and irritable in a looooong time. This week has been horrible. I have an appt with my dr during my Christmas break cause something's gotta give.

I am really sorry that I am being so touchy and crazy acting.

[Deleted User] · December 2010

Don't be sorry. It's okay. I'm crazy 87% of the time .

Anysunrise · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:c8d97dd9-3184-4072-ae8c-a20ab4bf4061">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: MC : I know it seems that way Any, but I really didn't. With the whole xmas thing, everyone is right, I should have looked into that before I got my ass handed to me. But I thanked Les and Celles when they told me about it and moved on. I know that people think that I want the negative attention, but I really don't. I am not on here to get ripped a new on everytime I turn around. Seriously, who does that besides trolls? I think it might be the PMS this week. I swear to God I have not been this touchy and irritable in a looooong time. This week has been horrible. I have an appt with my dr during my Christmas break cause something's gotta give. I am really sorry that I am being so touchy and crazy acting.
Posted by MISSCOURTNEY20[/QUOTE]

It's fine, I'm just letting you know that, for me at least, the change seemed really sudden and with no readily available explanation, so that's the conclusion that could be drawn. It doesn't bother me one way or the other, it was just really weird.

[Deleted User] · December 2010

MC, to be honest, I don't even think about the whole posting during school thing until you bring it up, and then I wonder why you're rehashing it yet again. When I see other people say they don't like you or are annoyed because of that specific issue, I usually think that they just need to get over it and move on. So bringing it up like you did earlier just makes it harder to do so.

I'm not sure where I was going with that. The TV distracted me. Bascially I agree with jas, it is harder to get to know you because it is mentioned so often.

Celles · December 2010

My guess is that it's real for you because, on some level, you realize that the board was right. You considered the criticism and decided that it was valid enough to make a change. Now it's time to implement that change and move on.

Believe me, I know how tempting it is to seek reassurance when you're feeling down about yourself, which I imagine you are -- in part because it flat out sucks when people don't like you (I'm nursing a little hurt from the AYG thread myself), but also in part because if you realize you were wrong, then you are probably also experiencing some degree of remorse. It's natural to want someone to come along and tell you "Hey, it's okay. You're still a good person."

Unfortunately, teh Internets being what they are, this really isn't the place for it. The best thing you can do for yourself and your reputation -- both here, and in the real world -- is to be the best teacher you can possibly be. Some people will never like you. But others will recognize the courage you have shown in (1) acknowledging that you were wrong and (2) making up for it with a real, honest change.

Of course, the trick is that you actually have to do these things.

MISSCOURTNEY20 · December 2010

Sesh, I only said that because one of the lurkers said that in her post. PLEASE believe that I hate to see it and today I was just like Damn I DON"T ANYMORE!!!

Thank you guys for all of this really. Again, I think FB and SS did this whole "real" thing and I almost hate that I did both of those. Almost.....

Night_Sprite · December 2010

MC, if you need distance, then take it. Ultimately you're here by choice and always have the option of creating a change.

[Deleted User] · December 2010

Honestly, if it's making you that upset, maybe you should just unplug, defriend and take a break for a while.

And Celles, what happened in AYG?

Anysunrise · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:bc6901d0-1d5b-41c0-8726-b40964f3639e">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]MC, if you need distance, then take it. Ultimately you're here by choice and always have the option of creating a change.
Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]

^

My big thing is remembering that all I have to do is turn off the computer. There aren't people here harassing me, it's all online and all I have to do is get up and do something else for it to disappear. It helps put things in perspective. Nothing anyone says here matters unless you let it matter.

jasmineh7777 · December 2010

Good old Celles. She always has great advice.

See what I did there Celles?

MISSCOURTNEY20 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:f2b84691-630d-44b6-bc74-1768f12ce830">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]My guess is that it's real for you because, on some level, you realize that the board was right . You considered the criticism and decided that it was valid enough to make a change. Now it's time to implement that change and move on. Believe me, I know how tempting it is to seek reassurance when you're feeling down about yourself, which I imagine you are -- in part because it flat out sucks when people don't like you (I'm nursing a little hurt from AYG thread myself), but also in part because if you realize you were wrong, then you are probably also experiencing some degree of remorse. It's natural to want someone to come along and tell you "Hey, it's okay. You're still a good person." Unfortunately, teh Internets being what they are, this really isn't the place for it. The best thing you can do for yourself and your reputation -- both here, and in the real world -- is to be the best teacher you can possibly be. Some people will never like you. But others will recognize the courage you have shown in (1) acknowledging that you were wrong and (2) making up for it with a real, honest change.<strong> </strong>Of course, the trick is that you actually have to do these things. :)
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

Oh I know that there will always be people who don't/won't like me. I think that much of this is a learning experience for me even 3 days away from being 36. For the most part, when people first see/meet me, they think that I am mean, stuck up and cold. Then they get to know me and say that they had it all wrong. I am nothing like that but I have a very cold front because I don't want to get hurt by people. I don't show the real me because I have a very hard time not wearing my feelings on my shoulders. I am sure you all are seeing that now.

LessThanZero · December 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: MC : ^ My big thing is remembering that all I have to do is turn off the computer. There aren't people here harassing me, it's all online and all I have to do is get up and do something else for it to disappear. It helps put things in perspective. <strong>Nothing anyone says here matters</strong> unless you let it matter.
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

Well fine! I won't tell you I love you anymore!!

Celles · December 2010

GOD, JAS. Now you're calling me old? wtf.

[Deleted User] · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:c72cddf5-d0db-4431-9df8-99515a342529">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]Sesh, I only said that because one of the lurkers said that in her post. PLEASE believe that I hate to see it and today I was just like Damn I DON"T ANYMORE!!! Thank you guys for all of this really. Again, I think FB and SS did this whole "real" thing and I almost hate that I did both of those. Almost.....
Posted by MISSCOURTNEY20[/QUOTE]

Just ignore. Some people might bring it up months from now, but you don't have to respond. If people can't get over that, it's their problem.

ETA--I've never seen you be cold or mean on here. That's the last thing I would call you.

Anysunrise · December 2010

Celles: YGPM.

Anysunrise · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:438ee0d8-c78a-4557-b031-a48372139cd9">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: MC : Well fine! I won't tell you I love you anymore!!
Posted by LessThanZero[/QUOTE]

I let you matter LTZ. I let you matter.

LessThanZero · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:316a570a-7ef6-41df-9db6-2e6fbf073affPost:25967f39-db4e-4710-b4ed-016ec5f44ccd">Re: MC</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: MC : I let you matter LTZ. I let you matter.
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

I wish I could quit you...

MC

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