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lincoln64lincoln64
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Hi - I'm in the process of making my cousin's shower invites.  How should they be addressed?  Using the man's name or just the woman's name.  i.e.:

Mrs. Scott Smith
or
Mrs. Nicole Smith


thanks.
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  • wadingmoosewadingmoose member
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    I would go with the woman's name.

    "You can take your etiquette and shove it!" ~misscarolb
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  • cougarettecougarette member
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    Use the woman's name.
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  • CA2MT4EveRCA2MT4EveR member
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    Men are invited to the shower?
    dont make ur password so easy. gbck2CA2 hahahaha
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  • brookelynpaisleybrookelynpaisley member
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    Technically, only the man's is right, but some women prefer their name. Personally, I'd just go with Nicole Smith and skip the Mrs. part. But that's me.
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  • brookelynpaisleybrookelynpaisley member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_shower-invite-addresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:3eca30ab-dcdb-4731-ad15-52328226af38Post:1e2c0a95-0f5d-4797-bba6-a04b5c548999">Re: shower invite addresses</a>:
    [QUOTE]Men are invited to the shower?
    Posted by CA2MT4EveR[/QUOTE]

    No, she's addressing them formally to women and asking if you should use the husband's name or her own to address them. As in, I am Mrs. Dan Lastname vs Mrs. Brooke Lastname (incorrect because Mrs. means "wife of." I'm not my own wife. I'm Dan's wife)
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  • lincoln64lincoln64
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_shower-invite-addresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3eca30ab-dcdb-4731-ad15-52328226af38Post:1e2c0a95-0f5d-4797-bba6-a04b5c548999">Re: shower invite addresses</a>:
    [QUOTE]Men are invited to the shower?
    Posted by CA2MT4EveR[/QUOTE]

    No, men arent invited.  I'm just looking for the proper way to address the invite.  Sorry if my question is a little confusing!
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  • Kristin789Kristin789 member
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    Don't use a title.  Just use the name - this isn't an invitation to a formal event, so you should have the envelopes addressed in a more casual style:

    Nicole Smith
    123 Oak Street
    Toledo, OH  43566
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  • wadingmoosewadingmoose member
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    Huh.  I agree with Kristennumbers on this.

    I'm surprised.

    "You can take your etiquette and shove it!" ~misscarolb
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  • tenofcups4metenofcups4me member
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    Mrs. Jane Doe.

    Even women who are ok with Mr. and Mrs. John Doe often seem to pretty vehemently object to Mrs. John Doe when it's just her.
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  • Kristin789Kristin789 member
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    I'm sending a smile to WMoose, but disagreeing with Ten:

    Mrs. Jane Doe means that Jane is divorced.  A divorced woman uses her first name and her married last name.  See below, from EmilyPost.com:

    Divorced

    Mrs. Jane Kelly
    Ms. Jane Kelly
    Ms. Jane Johnson (maiden name)



    I'd use just:

    Jane Doe
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  • angela72023angela72023
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    My SIL/MOH just sent out my shower invites and used Mrs.David Smith for ladies in our mothers age group and older and just Jane Smith for ladies younger. Personally, I prefer old school etiquette, but don't want to offend anyone, so that's what we went with. This shower actually is a formal affair, so we wanted to be formal with the invitations; my other shower is more of a fun informal one and will not have a title, just names on the invites.
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