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kelsey+brandon · May 2012

Why did you have the option of maybe or definitely maybe at all? I would call those people and tell them you need a definite answer.

Danidawn20 · May 2012

um call and ask if that maybe is yes, because I think it is important to have all te final numbers. If I'm not mistaken, isn't your wedding in less than 2 weeks? If I were you, I would be calling and going bridezilla. (then again, after all that has happened with my wedding, I can't wait to ave abridezilla melt down, so I'm suggesting it to everyone)

littleluckypenny · May 2012

My cousin tried to pull that same crap of "maybe". I told her I need to know a definite answer NOW to turn in to my venue (kinda fudged on the date because if you don't light a fire under some people, they will drag it out forever) or I cannot acommodate her. She told me no after I said that.

Kfudge0714 · May 2012

"Hi my wedding is in a week and 5 days... I need to know if you are coming or not"

psuxdoll · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_rsvp-definitely-maybe-and-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:c16fe8a5-cdff-4d99-b750-a610562b38acPost:d646a4ea-c52a-416e-9d50-f28348072af3">Re: R.S.V.P. "Definitely Maybe" and +3?</a>:
[QUOTE]"Hi my wedding is in a week and 5 days... I need to know if you are coming or not"
Posted by Kfudge0714[/QUOTE]

<div>THIS!</div>

peachykeen26 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_rsvp-definitely-maybe-and-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:c16fe8a5-cdff-4d99-b750-a610562b38acPost:9e0d8933-e2d1-481e-aaf8-7b547cd8d126">Re:R.S.V.P. quot;Definitely Maybequot; and 3?</a>:
[QUOTE]Why did you have the option of maybe or definitely maybe at all? I would call those people and tell them you need a definite answer.
Posted by kelsey+brandon[/QUOTE]

This.

midgetthemighty · May 2012

No one has said "Maybe" because we don't let them.

AlliJae · May 2012

Especially if your wedding is a destination wedding...Hawaii, right?? They should have a definite YES or NO if they are coming. They need plane tickets, right?

Megbo2012 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_rsvp-definitely-maybe-and-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:c16fe8a5-cdff-4d99-b750-a610562b38acPost:05fda327-2b60-4861-8e14-f16943327092">Re:R.S.V.P. quot;Definitely Maybequot; and 3?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:R.S.V.P. quot;Definitely Maybequot; and 3? : It wasn't an option. lol Some wrote it in on the bottom of the card. Others didn't even bother to send the card ina nd just text us, messaged us on facebook, or even emailed us through work email. lol I have to laugh and be lighthearted about it all at this point. We have called and asked for absolute answers, but have not heard back from these particular individuals. I guess we will just have to plan for them to be there. I read in an earlier post that it is better to have more than enough food and seats than not enough. I think that was great advice. :)
Posted by jaschelle[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>Sure it's good advice, but you shouldn't let your guests walk all over you, letting them decide at the last minute if they want to fly to Hawaii, and bring the whole neighborhood while they're at it. It's just rude.</div>

peachykeen26 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_rsvp-definitely-maybe-and-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:c16fe8a5-cdff-4d99-b750-a610562b38acPost:05fda327-2b60-4861-8e14-f16943327092">Re:R.S.V.P. quot;Definitely Maybequot; and 3?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:R.S.V.P. quot;Definitely Maybequot; and 3? : It wasn't an option. lol Some wrote it in on the bottom of the card. Others didn't even bother to send the card ina nd just text us, messaged us on facebook, or even emailed us through work email. lol I have to laugh and be lighthearted about it all at this point. We have called and asked for absolute answers, but have not heard back from these particular individuals. I guess we will just have to plan for them to be there.<strong> I read in an earlier post that it is better to have more than enough food and seats than not enough. I think that was great advice. :)</strong>
Posted by jaschelle[/QUOTE]

Thanks.
You're welcome. :)

MiksChick23 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_rsvp-definitely-maybe-and-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:c16fe8a5-cdff-4d99-b750-a610562b38acPost:05fda327-2b60-4861-8e14-f16943327092">Re:R.S.V.P. quot;Definitely Maybequot; and 3?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:R.S.V.P. quot;Definitely Maybequot; and 3? : It wasn't an option. lol Some wrote it in on the bottom of the card. Others didn't even bother to send the card ina nd just text us, messaged us on facebook, or even emailed us through work email. lol I have to laugh and be lighthearted about it all at this point. We have called and asked for absolute answers, but have not heard back from these particular individuals.<strong> I guess we will just have to plan for them to be there.</strong> I read in an earlier post that it is better to have more than enough food and seats than not enough. I think that was great advice. :)
Posted by jaschelle[/QUOTE]

This is financially very stupid advice, actually. What a waste! Since your wedding is a DW, its not like their afternoon plans get cancelled and they juts randomly pop over or crash.

What you do is call them and tell them you need an answer by, say, Wednesday at 5pm or you will have to mark them down as a NO. "Hello BigMoronWhoDoesn'tUnderstandWeddingEtiquette, our wedding is in a week and 5 days and we haven't gotten a response back from you on whether or not you are attending. Our numbers are due to the caterer so we will need an answer from you by Weds at 5pm or we'll have to leave you out of the count and mark you as a "no". Hope you can make it. Please let us know either way. Thanks"

Megbo2012 · May 2012

And there is a difference between four extra meals and 25.

MiksChick23 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_rsvp-definitely-maybe-and-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:c16fe8a5-cdff-4d99-b750-a610562b38acPost:f49739db-cbf1-4ab5-98ac-8dff9fe2e42a">Re: R.S.V.P. "Definitely Maybe" and +3?</a>:
[QUOTE]And there is a difference between four extra meals and 25.
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

Definitely. She said about 20 people had said maybe, so...very dumb to pay for 20 meals "just in case". I would check your contract too...my venue prepares 5% over what you tell them in case of stuff getting dropped or a person or 2 extra showing up unexpectedly. I still think you need to tell people you need a definite yes or you'll makr them as a no. Since this is a DW, I don't get how people wouldn't know by now! Don't they need tickets? Hotel rooms? Lame.

michellep1 · May 2012

Uhhh I'm sorry but are these people going to decide on the day of the wedding to run over to the airport and buy a ticket to Hawaii? This kind of wedding requires plans to be made well in advance. My guess is, if they haven't made these plans, then its a no and they're afraid of hurting your feelings or something. Ridiculous, I'd call them and get direct answers.

peachykeen26 · May 2012

Didn't realize you had a DW.
Definitely stupid to waste money.
Get firm answers.

Also, my point was to assume they would RSVP yes, NOT to PAY for them until they RSVP'd one way or the other.
So, financially speaking it shouldn't affect anything assuming that you don't count those people into the final head count, which I wouldn't until you have firm answers.

CvilleClaire · May 2012

My gosh, are there really people this rude and stupid in this day and age? Who write in "maybe" on a reply card for a formal occasion. It sounds almost like they are waiting to see if something better shows up?

I'd be tempted to send "we're so sorry you can't join us" messages to kick those rude people over to the deny pile.

DrPB2b13 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_rsvp-definitely-maybe-and-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:c16fe8a5-cdff-4d99-b750-a610562b38acPost:97d7ba4a-9630-4a25-9bf3-a8e398332aa6">Re: R.S.V.P. "Definitely Maybe" and +3?</a>:
[QUOTE]My gosh, are there really people this rude and stupid in this day and age? Who write in "maybe" on a reply card for a formal occasion. It sounds almost like they are waiting to see if something better shows up?<strong> I'd be tempted to send "we're so sorry you can't join us" messages to kick those rude people over to the deny pile.</strong>
Posted by CvilleClaire[/QUOTE]

This. If they're that ridiculous to write "Maybe," and then don't get back to you with a yes or no, this will force an answer.

kristin183 · May 2012

Interesting; I do get the maybe part... since it is a DW. Maybe they were not sure if they could make it or not... but this close to the wedding they should know if they are coming or not. I would make another phone call and follow the advice given, I need an answer or you will be marked as a no. I would not want to waste that kind of money.

chelseakopperud · May 2012

You should have started calling people 2 weeks ago to get definate answers. I dont understand how people can be so rude to not RSVP or RSVP maybe. I dont get it.....

MiksChick23 · May 2012

Ok, then I would say make them give you a definite answer a few days before its due to your caterer. Expect them to come (budgeting wise) until they either A) tell you they are not or

don't respond (in which case you would have told them they'd be marked as NO. If they show up anyway, they can deal with the embarassment of not having a seating card b/c they were too rude to RSVP.

kimiandgary · May 2012

So how long until the reception? I assume youare honeymooing in Hawaii for a bit.

I'm surprised your caterer isn't flooding you with messages for a final count. You need to get on these people and ask for an answer. People are ridiculous.... writing maybe on a respone card...

EmDeVine14 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_rsvp-definitely-maybe-and-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:c16fe8a5-cdff-4d99-b750-a610562b38acPost:97d7ba4a-9630-4a25-9bf3-a8e398332aa6">Re: R.S.V.P. "Definitely Maybe" and +3?</a>:
[QUOTE]My gosh, are there really people this rude and stupid in this day and age? Who write in "maybe" on a reply card for a formal occasion. It sounds almost like they are waiting to see if something better shows up? I'd be tempted to send<strong> "we're so sorry you can't join us"</strong> messages to kick those rude people over to the deny pile.
Posted by CvilleClaire[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>This!</div>

kristin183 · May 2012

I thought for some reason you had a really big DW. 20 is not bad at all.
You still need to get an answer from them.
When is your reception in Texas?

Megbo2012 · May 2012

You should call each "maybe" up and sing:

Hey, I'm getting married! And this is crazy, we recieved your RSVP card, and it said maybe. And all the other guests, are trying to say yes, so here's your chance now, to RSVP.

chelseakopperud · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_rsvp-definitely-maybe-and-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:c16fe8a5-cdff-4d99-b750-a610562b38acPost:603ba55b-d101-4208-9160-0bcb5bf1e08b">Re: R.S.V.P. "Definitely Maybe" and +3?</a>:
[QUOTE]Reception in Texas is on Saturday, June 30th. We did call all of the MIA invitees about three weeks ago. Before we called, we only had a head count for the reception of 58! Just got another text from a friend who said maybe- she said they will be at the reception. :) We have our finalization appointment with our caterer and TX wedding planner tomorrow evening at 7pm.
Posted by jaschelle[/QUOTE]

If you reception isnt until June 30, why did you have such an early RSVP date? People probably replied "maybe" because it was so far into the future.

kristin183 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_rsvp-definitely-maybe-and-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:c16fe8a5-cdff-4d99-b750-a610562b38acPost:49c9d929-2faa-4f1e-94d6-27549b52344a">Re: R.S.V.P. "Definitely Maybe" and +3?</a>:
[QUOTE]You should call each "maybe" up and sing: Hey, I'm getting married! And this is crazy, we recieved your RSVP card, and it said maybe. And all the other guests, are trying to say yes, so here's your chance now, to RSVP.
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

Yeap, go with the song. :)

Megbo2012 · May 2012

So what are you doing in Hawaii?

peachykeen26 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_rsvp-definitely-maybe-and-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:c16fe8a5-cdff-4d99-b750-a610562b38acPost:58ef1f1b-3b2c-4190-a90b-9d931206a59f">Re: R.S.V.P. "Definitely Maybe" and +3?</a>:
[QUOTE]So what are you doing in Hawaii?
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

She's getting married.

Megbo2012 · May 2012

I meant what is the Hawaii reception

edw7479 · May 2012

In Response to Re:R.S.V.P. :[QUOTE]You should call each "maybe" up and sing:Hey, I'm getting married! nbsp;And this is crazy, we recieved your RSVP card, and it said maybe. nbsp;And all the other guests, are trying to say yes, so here's your chance now, to RSVP. Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

Man! I totally would have been singing your song to my MIA people if you had shared it sooner!!!

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