Magazine Quotes (and I need lots of 'em)

Knot Annie · May 2010

Hey Knotties,

We’re going to be doing a huge planning article and need 100 quotes from Knotties. This will be featured in the Winter2010 mag so as per usual, I’ll be using your Knot name. For this feature, I want your best tips for planning. We want to help all of the newly engaged Knotties out there, so give us everything from registry, budget, dealing with family, picking vendors and dress shopping tips (how you knew it was the one).

For example, “Once you’ve purchased your wedding dress, don’t try on another. There’s a reason for the term Two and Three Dress Bride!” or “You might think that an iPod reception will save you a bundle, but this means that you’ll be asking a friend to do the job (not cool). It’s worth it to find a reasonable DJ for the peace of mind and it will be their job to get everyone out on the dance floor.”

I'll be posting this link on other boards, so expect some "strangers" on this thread in order to get a ton of answers here. I'll also make it a hot topic on the homepage.

Thanks in advance! Your answers are always appreciated.

KA

Brie2010 · May 2010

Do a first look! It made our day run so much more smoothly, we got tons of great pictures, we had a lot of fun, and walking down the aisle was still really emotional.

cschuma2 · May 2010

Before you worry about pleasing your friends and families, you must please your groom and yourself.

pag4989 · May 2010

Don't worry about all of the small things. I was so stressed about the details of the flowers, cake, favors, decor and I forgot about the big picture. On our wedding day our flowers were all wrong, the fondant ribbon was pink instead of dark red and the centerpieces were not what I asked for. I did not care though because I knew at the end of the day my fiance would be my husband and that was all that mattered. When you actually get caught up in the moment you forget all the small things.

crfische · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_magazine-quotes-need-lots-of-em-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:059bc9a3-a7cc-4b50-9d46-c051560f00f9Post:96cb92ac-0b74-457e-beec-31deb25587c8">Re: Magazine Quotes (and I need lots of 'em)</a>:
[QUOTE]Before you worry about pleasing your friends and families, you must please your groom and yourself.
Posted by cschuma2[/QUOTE]

That just sounds dirty.

arbolita · May 2010

Don't share the details of your wedding with people if you don't want them giving you their opinion.

baystateapple · May 2010

If you're married by the end of the day, your wedding was a success. The rest is just icing on the cake.

FutureMsAlexander · May 2010

Go dress shopping with an open mind. You may have a style in mind. But the right dress kind of chooses you and it's often a surprise!

vallyhoo · May 2010

Let your wedding be a reflection of your personalities. It's great to get ideas from others, but don't get caught up in trying to re-create the weddings of other knotties and friends that you lose focus of your individuality.

louisvillebride21 · May 2010

When dealing with the future in laws, remember that this relationship will last longer than your one wedding day. The decisions you make for this one day could set the tone for your entire relationship with them. Pick your battles.

cschuma2 · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_magazine-quotes-need-lots-of-em-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:059bc9a3-a7cc-4b50-9d46-c051560f00f9Post:c3242979-d9d2-49de-afa4-6578b328380a">Re: Magazine Quotes (and I need lots of 'em)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Magazine Quotes (and I need lots of 'em) : That just sounds dirty.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

Haha... Ok... I reread it and agree.

mandysmear · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_magazine-quotes-need-lots-of-em-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:059bc9a3-a7cc-4b50-9d46-c051560f00f9Post:95412d45-8b1f-41c5-a45f-98fb343b46d1">Re: Magazine Quotes (and I need lots of 'em)</a>:
[QUOTE]Do a first look! It made our day run so much more smoothly, we got tons of great pictures, we had a lot of fun, and walking down the aisle was still really emotional.
Posted by Brie2010[/QUOTE]

I agree. We didn't because I was dead set on not doing one. I regret it. My one and ONLY regret from the wedding.

RachNRich · May 2010

Trying to save money is a wonderful thing. Asking extended family to cook the reception meal, put flowers and bouquets together, and decorate a venue? Not a wonderful thing. It may save money, but you'll lose family members in the process.

janedoe1113a · May 2010

Do as much research as possible. You'll save yourself a lot of money and headache in the end.

louisvillebride21 · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_magazine-quotes-need-lots-of-em-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:059bc9a3-a7cc-4b50-9d46-c051560f00f9Post:393e8fef-15b9-4fee-8aa4-ba1b6d9dde9e">Re: Magazine Quotes (and I need lots of 'em)</a>:
[QUOTE]Trying to save money is a wonderful thing. Asking extended family to cook the reception meal, put flowers and bouquets together, and decorate a venue? Not a wonderful thing. It may save money, but you'll lose family members in the process.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]
Lose them? Really? Damnit, I should have thought of that before taking the approach I did with my advice...

trinalo · May 2010

People like to doll out unsolicited opionions. Take them with a grain of salt and do what's best for you.

crfische · May 2010

Also, don't forget your life in the midst of planning a wedding. Treat your friends like friends and make time for a lot of non-wedding related activities.

MattsPenguin · May 2010

Choose the areas you care the most about and spend money there. We want a special dessert, so we chose a less expensive venue and dinner options.

*BeachBride0410* · May 2010

Take time away from planning the wedding to remember why you and your partner fell in love in the 1st place. People get so wrapped up in planning that its all they think & talk about day in & day out.

georgia_bride09 · May 2010

It is absolutely crucial to set a reasonable budget. It may be difficult, but stick to your budget. Remember, there is no reason to go into debt for an event that lasts four hours.

A honeymoon isn't required. If you don't really have the money, do a mini moon at a local B&B or just wait and save up for trip when you can afford it.

Don't sweat the small details, especially in the last week. Nobody will know that you ran out of time to print programs, or indiviually wrap each set of silverware with ribbons in your wedding colors. Always remember the big picture- your marriage.

andyandhillary · May 2010

When selecting vendors choose ones that you can trust. If you feel as though you have to micromanage every thing they do then they aren't worth the money (including if they are saving you some!). A piece of mind during the wedding planning process and on your wedding day is truly priceless.

emilyinchile · May 2010

It's great to get inspiration from other weddings, but don't let the fact that you saw a blog post on super-intricate DIY placecards or the handmade personalized invitations your friend had stress you out if you don't actually care about those details. Focus on what's important to you and your fiancé.

number55 · May 2010

Think carefully about the size of your wedding party...each member adds to your overall costs and more members means managing more opinions and interests.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · May 2010

Do not take an entire army of friends dress shopping! Just ask one or two people whose opinions you trust to come along.

All that really matters is making you and your guests comfortable. You don't need a photobooth, a candy buffet, a horse and carriage, edible favors or floral centerpieces to be married. All of that is just gravy.

Start building a foundation for the marriage while you're engaged, rather than just worrying about the wedding. A few marriage-minded self-help books and some open communication never hurt anyone. Even if your officiant doesn't require it, pre-marital counseling can also be a great thing. Keep the wheels greased, rather than fixing something once it's already broken!

Night_Sprite · May 2010

Your bridesmaids and groomsmen aren't your employees. Love and appreciate them as friends and family because that's what they are.

diva1397 · May 2010

Invest in an excellent day-of-coordinator! This is so important, especially if your wedding is not at an all-inclusive venue. Having a day-of-coordinator takes the pressure off of your family and friends and allows everyone to enjoy themselves without worrying about a thing.

julezlee · May 2010

When you're meeting with photographers, remember that that person will be with you the whole day. So, it's important that you like their personality as well as their work.

tidetravel · May 2010

If you want honest answers to your wedding planning dilemmas, visit the Etiquette board on theknot.com

Just trying to drum up some business

ricksang · May 2010

Check your contracts and then double check with your vendors!

stephl3055 · May 2010

No one will care as much about your wedding as you do. So don't get your feelings hurt when no one seems interested in all of the little details, or jumps at the chance to help you with favors.

You are not required to ask anyone to be in your bridal party, nor are you required to have even sides.

COkristi · May 2010

If you're not having fun (planning), you're doing it wrong.

Don't share wedding details unless people ask. Believe it or not, they're not nearly as interested in your wedding plans as you are.

Think very carefully about your guest list before you send your save the dates, and don't send them too early.

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