I have been a 3rd party to all the debates that go on here. Post after post comes up that my fiance reads aloud to me and I weigh in with my (wedding) uneducated opinion. However there is one debate of which I can only see one side.
The Cash Bar Conundrum.
A couple of points first off.
1. For our wedding we are having an open bar.
2. I am aware that a reception is a thank you to our guests for their attendance.
3. I am also aware that a guest should never be asked to open their wallets.
I like to drink at a party, and having said that I also understand someone who's unable to afford to have their guests drink on their dime. I would prefer to have to option to buy my own drinks as opposed to having sobreity forced upon me.
How is it not ruder to expect your guests to be sober than to allow them the option to have a drink?
Please understand I've made my career in the hospitality industry. Making guests happy is my job and my passion. The thought of denying a desire to a guest upsets me. That being said I feel that a dry wedding is a TERRIBLE idea. Unless it is a religious or a person in recovery, I feel that all guests should have the option to have a drink.
Thank you for helping me to understand this ethical snafu.