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Etiquette?
Ok, this is not exactly a WP question, but I know a bunch of you ladies are sticklers for etiquette and I would like to know the proper etiquette for this situation.
FI and I have registered online to some places so our guests can shop either online or in store. For the registry websites, they ask us to specify a contact & contact info, someone the guest can ask if they are having problems with the online registry or just questions about our registry or the gifts in general.
Since I know we are never supposed to put registry info on save the dates, invites, or anywhere other than our wedding website and we should allow our parents or WP to spread the word on registries, would it be a faux pas to list either myself or my FI as the registry contact on the registry? I can see where it may be awkward answering questions about our own stuff ("Well your Aunt Gene and I were going to go halves on that china set, and we can't get to the store, how do we do that from the online?" or "Oh well now that I have you on the phone, would you prefer x or y?"). However, considering our parents are not techno-savvy, I'm not sure if they'd be comfortable being listed as the go-to person. I'm also not sure if anyone in our WP would be cool with having their phone number posted on a website for anyone to see. At the same time I do not want to leave my guests without a contact for help.
Any suggestions?
FI and I have registered online to some places so our guests can shop either online or in store. For the registry websites, they ask us to specify a contact & contact info, someone the guest can ask if they are having problems with the online registry or just questions about our registry or the gifts in general.
Since I know we are never supposed to put registry info on save the dates, invites, or anywhere other than our wedding website and we should allow our parents or WP to spread the word on registries, would it be a faux pas to list either myself or my FI as the registry contact on the registry? I can see where it may be awkward answering questions about our own stuff ("Well your Aunt Gene and I were going to go halves on that china set, and we can't get to the store, how do we do that from the online?" or "Oh well now that I have you on the phone, would you prefer x or y?"). However, considering our parents are not techno-savvy, I'm not sure if they'd be comfortable being listed as the go-to person. I'm also not sure if anyone in our WP would be cool with having their phone number posted on a website for anyone to see. At the same time I do not want to leave my guests without a contact for help.
Any suggestions?
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Re: Etiquette?
If not, I'd default to your parents and do a little internet 'splaining to them since they're also likely to have to field questions from other friends and relatives.
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If I am wrong.. I personally think that it is okay to have yourself as the registry person. People are going to make sure that they get what you want. Even if your parents are the contact person listed, they might still contact you knowing that you and your mom might not view the registry items the same way.
So my advice is to not worry about it too much. If people have problems, they will probably reach out to someone they already know. If I have a registry question when I receive a shower invitation, I usually contact someone that I already know - be it the bride's mother, a bridesmaid that I'm friends with, etc. Even if the invite or the registry info said othethat another person was the contact.
I don't really think it's wrong to have yourself listed as the contact ... I just don't think too many people would feel right about contacting you.
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