Friday Weddings

FutureMrsJGraves · March 2010

I know this is going to sound weird, but I think in the long run it would be cheaper for you (Which I would assume is a plus because you are going for a friday wedding)

Go for the 8:30 pm, you'll give your guest a chance to get out of work, get showered, dressed and made up. Have a small, light dinner for your wedding parties and close family, seperate of course, but I am sure there would be some good places to eat around your reception site. If I am not mistaken, your getting married in July? So check to see when sundown is.. it might not be as dark as you think, and candles would be romantic. For the reception, instead of a sit down dinner, see if the caterers/reception site will do a tapas reception, this way guest will be fed with plenty of finger foods, and you will have a full reception.

Its not traditional, but its an option if you need to have a Friday wedding, and people will be talking about it.

angiem33 · March 2010

Friday is in the norm for a wedding, I was considering Friday because my venue was cheaper, and good for you for getting those hotel rooms free! Definitely an added bonus!! I personally might not be able to attend a 4:30pm ceremony, but at least the reception, if it were 8:30 you could count me out entirely, that is WAY to late!

I moved mine to a Sunday, because local people liked the idea and I figured all out of town guests were either taking friday off to travel to me or monday off to travel back, and no one seemed to care either way.

Whatever works for you personally is best, it's your big day!!! :-)

mica178 · March 2010

I was in the BP for a Friday afternoon wedding, and that was such a pain. The wedding was 1.5 hours from the nearest (non-major) airport. I had to take off half of Thursday and all of Friday at a time in my career when I really had very little job flexibility.

That being said, the bride got a great price on the place, and since it was at a B&B that pretty much only did weddings, hers was the only wedding day where guests could stay at the venue on the night before the wedding (the venue had weddings scheduled the entire weekend). Also, since this was a DW for almost everyone in attendance, only the people who truly loved this couple made the long flight and drive. It ended up being a great night, as much as I might have complained about its timing beforehand.

I'm getting married on a Sunday. My FI's family is all on the other coast, so they were going to have to take off either a Friday or a Monday for travel anyway, but the Sunday wedding made it easier for our east coast wedding party members to make it to the rehearsal. Also, for many of our guests, the day after our wedding is a holiday.

shoegal715 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_friday-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:472f5df6-fa3d-4beb-98a2-40ed3c924873Post:3eb2fec9-ad11-4fd0-a489-8cac458b04c0">Re: Friday Weddings</a>:
[QUOTE]I was in the BP for a Friday afternoon wedding, and that was such a pain. The wedding was 1.5 hours from the nearest (non-major) airport. I had to take off half of Thursday and all of Friday at a time in my career when I really had very little job flexibility. That being said, the bride got a great price on the place, and since it was at a B&B that pretty much only did weddings, hers was the only wedding day where guests could stay at the venue on the night before the wedding (the venue had weddings scheduled the entire weekend). Also, since this was a DW for almost everyone in attendance, only the people who truly loved this couple made the long flight and drive. It ended up being a great night, as much as I might have complained about its timing beforehand. I'm getting married on a Sunday. My FI's family is all on the other coast, so they were going to have to take off either a Friday or a Monday for travel anyway, but the Sunday wedding made it easier for our east coast wedding party members to make it to the rehearsal. Also, for many of our guests, the day after our wedding is a holiday.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Sorry, but I find it weird that you say the Friday wedding was such a pain, yet you are having your own wedding on a SUNDAY. Seems odd to me.

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luckyme502 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_friday-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:472f5df6-fa3d-4beb-98a2-40ed3c924873Post:851e39ad-3434-4605-9167-2353734efa69">Re: Friday Weddings</a>:
[QUOTE]And I can't change the time. There is another bride who booked her ceremony before I did. She is getting married at 6:30. So I either go at 4:30 (or earlier), or 8:30pm
Posted by shoegal715[/QUOTE]

Seriously, you are more than a year out. You could find another ceremony location.

luckyme502 · March 2010

I hate Friday weddings. By the time work is over on Friday I don't want to do anything but go home and curl up with my FI and the TV. I know most of my friends are the same way.

mica178 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_friday-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:472f5df6-fa3d-4beb-98a2-40ed3c924873Post:ce7eb079-03ee-4929-bc37-06296bf1786a">Re: Friday Weddings</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Weddings : Sorry, but I find it weird that you say the Friday wedding was such a pain, yet you are having your own wedding on a SUNDAY. Seems odd to me.
Posted by shoegal715[/QUOTE]

Snarky brides indeed.

Read the last three lines of my post. Most of the wedding party is coming from across the country, and they'd have to take off two days to attend the rehearsal if we had a Friday wedding. By having a Sunday wedding, everyone can easily attend the rehearsal and then go home on the national holiday, no extra days off.

shoegal715 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_friday-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:472f5df6-fa3d-4beb-98a2-40ed3c924873Post:c0bf28e1-ae46-44b2-82f0-c01d358d0e34">Re: Friday Weddings</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Weddings : Seriously, you are more than a year out. You could find another ceremony location.
Posted by luckyme502[/QUOTE]

<div>It's not even an option. I found the ceremony site I am in love with. </div><div>Looks like we're staying at 4:30. I'm glad not everyone thinks Friday weddings are atrocious and I can't imagine getting married in the pitch black outside at 8:30pm. </div><div>Thanks for the opinions! </div>

DBrodeur · March 2010

My wedding is at 4:30 on a Friday in Newport in July. I know it's inconveniet but it was a $5,000 dollar difference in price and the reception is from 7-midnight. I had to build in time for a mass, receiving line, travel to reception, and pictures. Most of my guests don't think its that big of a deal to take the afternoon off. And because it is a Friday night, there is no two night minimum at the hotels like there would be if it were a Saturday. Its your wedding, do what you've gotta do!

sophistryliz · March 2010

Go with 8:30! Have a nice cocktail party instead of a sit-down dinner.

holmscheid · March 2010

I love the idea of a Friday night wedding. Mine is too. I haven't had any problems with people complaining yet, although it may create a little of a problem for some guests that can't/ don't want to take off work to make it and for your wedding party seeing that they'll have to more than likely have to take off part of thursday as well (allows any traveling time) for the rehearsal and things.
My sister also had a Friday night wedding at 5pm. She got a few responses from people complaining about the time and needing to take off of work. She simply replied that ' this is OUR wedding and when WE wanted. It would be great if you can make it to the ceremony but for if for other reasons you can't, I will see you at the reception" This response was very direct- and not too mean and guess what- everyone that complained was there on time!

MeaghanandMichael · March 2010

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[QUOTE]My wedding is at 4:30 on a Friday in Newport in July. I know it's inconveniet but it was a $5,000 dollar difference in price and the reception is from 7-midnight. I had to build in time for a mass, receiving line, travel to reception, and pictures. Most of my guests don't think its that big of a deal to take the afternoon off. And because it is a Friday night, there is no two night minimum at the hotels like there would be if it were a Saturday. Its your wedding, do what you've gotta do!
Posted by DBrodeur[/QUOTE]

Seriously? Have you considered what a nightmare it is to drive from Boston to Newport on a Friday in the summer? This is insanity. I am glad YOU are convienced by it, but believe me, many people are going to have a hard time with this. Also, the money they may 'save" on a hotel room will just be negated by the pay they are missing. I get that Newport is expensive, but the way to save money is not by letting your guests bear the brunt.

nicoleflores2005 · March 2010

My wedding is going to be on a Sunday evening (we're Jewish). Most of our guests are coming in from out of town. We're having the wedding that WE and our families want to have and if that means some of the guests we invited can't make it... well, oh darn! As a few people above mentioned, you can't please everybody.

That being said, we are definitely pulling out the stops to take care of the guests who DO come. Not that we're spending tons of money, but our guests' comfort and entertainment is our priority. That means spending our budget on good food and good music and not on a desginer wedding gown and other superficial items.

The people who are complaining about Friday weddings don't admit that all weddings are a pain in the ass. No matter what day of the week you get married, people still have to travel and buy you a gift and sit through all the sappy dances and listen to way too many wedding toasts and wait forver to eat and on and on....

Just do what is right for you.

MeaghanandMichael · March 2010

The people who are complaining about Friday weddings don't admit that all weddings are a pain in the ass.

Yeah but on Saturday and Sunday-day it may not require me to stay over night. It also definitely doesn't require me, or others, to lose pay over it. (Assuming most people work Monday-Friday). Also, something like religion is perfectly acceptable and people understand the issues you are addressing. To push a wedding to an more inconvenient time to save a the bucks doesn't fly too well. There are PLENTY of other ways to save money.

lacis · April 2010

We are doing a Friday wedding mainly because it saved us half off the venue. We are also doing it at 5 or 5:30. If people don't want to or can't take the time off to come, we will understand. I know that my family will attend, and I am not inviting a lot of my friends because I don;t want to deal with the hurt feelings some that don't get invited will have, and my fiance is only inviting his fraternity brothers who actually hang out with us or call us. These are also the brothers who take a three day weekend for homecoming and other college events so a friday wedding wouldn't be that bad for them. 70% of our wedding guests are OOT anyway so most of them are going to have to take 3 or 4 days off anyway. His family is from Florida, we are getting married in West Virginia.

DBrodeur · April 2010

I haven't had a single complaint yet. I've heard from many of the guest that they are excited about a weekend in Newport. I understand if they can't take a day off, that's their choice and they will have plenty of time to make it to the reception. I've tried the route several times on a Friday evening. I guess I'm lucky that my family and friends are all cool with it and happy to be going!

redhedhs · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_friday-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:472f5df6-fa3d-4beb-98a2-40ed3c924873Post:fd5b157b-2f4d-4355-8266-4a3fa04dc3f7">Re: Friday Weddings</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm getting married on a Friday at 530pm. It works for me and I just figured whoever can make it, will make it.
Posted by KatieRN25[/QUOTE]

Just to throw my $0.02 in, I wholeheartedly agree. We're having our August wedding at 6pm on a Friday. Saved us untold money, and just about everyone's from out of town anyway. If they miss the ceremony, I really won't notice, now will I? :)

MeaghanandMichael · April 2010

It really astounds me how many people could care less if their guests make it to the ceremony. I thought that was the POINT of the wedding day? It's cool though, keep on keep on being klassy.

MeaghanandMichael · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_friday-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:472f5df6-fa3d-4beb-98a2-40ed3c924873Post:d926341d-e80c-422c-8575-590fb99f39dd">Re: Friday Weddings</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Weddings : Really, I don't see that as the the case at all. I sent my STDs out 8 months prior to the wedding to give my guests plenty of time to save and make arrangements. It is the same as doing a destination wedding. The people who really want to be there won't mind making the arrangements to be there. At least that's how my family and friends feel. I know I have gone to Friday night weddings out of town for my friends and didn't mind at all. And I think THAT is the point of a wedding, to have your loved ones who want to be there.
Posted by DBrodeur[/QUOTE]

You are confusing the difference between being a gracious guest and being a gracious host. Your guests' job is to love you and be supportive of your choices. Your job is to make things as easy as possible on them and not expect them to bend over backwards with making arrangements for you and you alone. But, carry on.

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