Help a military couple!

hquick01 · July 2011

Hi everyone! I'm asking you for your help.

My fiance and I were chosen as finalists in a Miltary Wedding Package giveaway and we're really hoping to win! My fiance is finishing up his last year at the Naval Academy and I'm one year out of college. We're planning a June 2012 wedding, before he gets deployed. We're paying for it ourselves, because our parents are unable to afford it.

If you could take less than one minute and vote for us I'd appreciate it so much! Vote for HEATHER & TRAVIS on www.baysidebride.com ... there is a poll on the right hand side, no registering or anything. THANKS SO MUCH & God Bless!

Heather & Travis

Beachy730 · July 2011

Yeah, no. Reported. Maybe if you were someone who actually posted on here, instead of just asking us to help get your wedding paid for, I would consider it.

And I voted for Gabriela and Daniel.

heather0711 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]Yeah, no. Reported. <strong>Maybe if you were someone who actually posted on here, instead of just asking us to help get your wedding paid for, I would consider it.</strong> And I voted for Gabriela and Daniel.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

<div>Voted for Kayla & Jacob</div>

SamiJoeB · July 2011

I would have voted for anyone other than OP.. but I voted for Elizabeth and Charlie..

kara811 · July 2011

I missed out! I wanted to vote for someone other than OP too.

kyrgyzstan · July 2011

I would not vote for an officer couple anyway. Never put yourself in a position to take from your men, even if it's just a stupid contest. I would be super uncomfortable taking 3700 bucks from an enlisted service member.

But maybe I'm a weirdo.

kyrgyzstan · July 2011

And I voted for Mallory and Zach. They're clearly both enlisted.

The blog post freaked me out a bit. I sure hope that they didn't date WHILE she was an O and he was an E1/E2/E3. *shudder*

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]I would not vote for an officer couple anyway. Never put yourself in a position to take from your men, even if it's just a stupid contest. I would be super uncomfortable taking 3700 bucks from an enlisted service member. But maybe I'm a weirdo.
Posted by WishIcouldbeinthe'stan[/QUOTE]
wait are you saying that women shouldn't be officers?

kyrgyzstan · July 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help a military couple! : wait are you saying that women shouldn't be officers?
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

<div>*snort*</div><div>
</div><div>No. I'm saying men in a general sort of way that includes women. Like policemen. And since I am a former and future officer applicant, I hope women can be officers. What I'm saying is that officers should never take from the enlisted corps if they can avoid it. In the same way that an officer takes his (and again, general he meaning s/he) meals after his (general meaning his/her) men (general meaning wo/men). An officer doesn't enter into business dealings with an enlisted member, or gamble with an enlisted member because it puts the officer in a position to benefit financially from an enlisted member, and that's inappropriate. For me, I would also not enter a contest with financial benefits where I was competing against an enlisted member. Maybe I'm overzealous, but whatever. I'm not an officer, and I'm marrying an NCO and I wouldn't even enter this contest. I work, and my future earning potential is high. We can afford our wedding, and I would never take a win from a bunch of enlisted service members to have a more expensive wedding than I can afford.</div><div>
</div><div>Although, really. No one would vote for us. I'm an obnoxious motard who uses masculine pronouns to generalize. I learned it from Star Trek. </div>

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help a military couple! : *snort* No. I'm saying men in a general sort of way that includes women. Like policemen. And since I am a former and future officer applicant, I hope women can be officers. What I'm saying is that officers should never take from the enlisted corps if they can avoid it. In the same way that an officer takes his (and again, general he meaning s/he) meals after his (general meaning his/her) men (general meaning wo/men). An officer doesn't enter into business dealings with an enlisted member, or gamble with an enlisted member because it puts the officer in a position to benefit financially from an enlisted member, and that's inappropriate. For me, I would also not enter a contest with financial benefits where I was competing against an enlisted member. Maybe I'm overzealous, but whatever. I'm not an officer, and I'm marrying an NCO and I wouldn't even enter this contest. I work, and my future earning potential is high. We can afford our wedding, and I would never take a win from a bunch of enlisted service members to have a more expensive wedding than I can afford. Although, really. No one would vote for us. I'm an obnoxious motard who uses masculine pronouns to generalize. I learned it from Star Trek.
Posted by WishIcouldbeinthe'stan[/QUOTE]
You had me worried there. I thought you we're going to be an officer. I do agree though. If he's in a NA they should put it off

kyrgyzstan · July 2011

I don't care when they get married (and cadets can't get married until they graduate anyway), I just think an enlisted member should beat them.

And it's not because I'm a cadet/candidate/officer hater. I like officers just fine.

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]I don't care when they get married (and cadets can't get married until they graduate anyway), I just think an enlisted member should beat them. And it's not because I'm a cadet/candidate/officer hater. I like officers just fine.
Posted by WishIcouldbeinthe'stan[/QUOTE]
I totally agree. Officers make BANK. Enlisted make money but not an where to what an officer makes.<div>
</div>

shan87 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]I don't care when they get married (and cadets can't get married until they graduate anyway), I just think an enlisted member should beat them. And it's not because I'm a cadet/candidate/officer hater. I like officers just fine.
Posted by WishIcouldbeinthe'stan[/QUOTE]

LMAO I was just going to ask what you have against my Hubs. :-p
One of the guys in his squadron at flight school was trying to get with the enlisted girls and H got pretty upset with him and called him out. (1 of only 2 people I know that H doesn't like)

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help a military couple! : LMAO I was just going to ask what you have against my Hubs. :-p One of the guys in his squadron at flight school was trying to get with the enlisted girls and H got pretty upset with him and called him out. (1 of only 2 people I know that H doesn't like)
Posted by shan87[/QUOTE]
Sorry but thats gross. I would have called him out too

kyrgyzstan · July 2011

It really isn't about how much they make, IMHO it isn't "bank". You have to remember that people who graduate college have better job prospects and a higher earning potential than HS graduates. The $$ is better because their education and skills rate it.But remember it's not even close to what the highly skilled ones could make in the private sector.

What it's about is putting the enlisted corps above yourself. Making sure they're taken care of first and foremost. And as I previously stated, I know I have plans to be more hardcore than most normal people.

firsttimersluck · July 2011

BAHAHAHAHAHHA Kendall, no. Officers do NOT, in fact, make bank.
They make more than enlisted, scale wise, yes. But not bank. tehehe

I don't think I could apply for any of these contests, enlisted, officer, civilian, puppy, :P I feel terribly guilty asking people for things, especially money. eek.

I'm with you kara, I wanna vote :P haha

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]BAHAHAHAHAHHA Kendall, no. Officers do NOT, in fact, make bank. They make more than enlisted, scale wise, yes. But not bank. tehehe I don't think I could apply for any of these contests, enlisted, officer, civilian, puppy, :P I feel terribly guilty asking people for things, especially money. eek. I'm with you kara, I wanna vote :P haha
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Maybe for me it is. My SO and I looked up how much his CO makes just on BAH. Holy moly. Its about what SO makes in 1 pay check</div>

firsttimersluck · July 2011

It's funny that the military pay grade scales are just out there for all to see. I was looking that stuff up the other day, myself... just for the heck of it.
I know a lot of officers that could be making way more with their degree than the military, so maybe it doesn't seem that much to me in that respect. The military on either side of things is certainly not something people join for the money, which means you find many more passionate people that are in it, like Stan and her love of it. I doubt she's joining for the cash. She genuinely wants to be a part of that big picture, which is awesome.
I think if e/cwo/o made a lot, more people would join that didn't really care about the job they were doing, just going through the motions.

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]It's funny that the military pay grade scales are just out there for all to see. I was looking that stuff up the other day, myself... just for the heck of it. I know a lot of officers that could be making way more with their degree than the military, so maybe it doesn't seem that much to me in that respect. The military on either side of things is certainly not something people join for the money, which means you find many more passionate people that are in it, like Stan and her love of it. I doubt she's joining for the cash. She genuinely wants to be a part of that big picture, which is awesome. I think if e/cwo/o made a lot, more people would join that didn't really care about the job they were doing, just going through the motions.
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]
Could they be making more? Yup. Do they make a lot from things like BAH? yup. <div>
</div><div>I'm not joining for the money. I need the school benefits and it'll get me some where in life</div>

firsttimersluck · July 2011

Again, even with the BAH included, not always the most they could be making... My point is just that I appreciate those (whether e or o) that join for reasons other than just they didn't wanna look for a job in their area, too lazy to do anything else, etc.. I have heard it all)

In a way that is joining for the monetary aspect. GI bill= money in education form.
Also an awesome thing the military does.. haha my grandpa last weekend was saying that when he got out of the military way back when, they were giving him something like 150 bucks a month to pay for school and books and whatnot.. And it totally covered Everything! That blows my mind.. Inflation sucks.

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]Again, even with the BAH included, not always the most they could be making... My point is just that I appreciate those (whether e or o) that join for reasons other than just they didn't wanna look for a job in their area, too lazy to do anything else, etc.. I have heard it all) In a way that is joining for the monetary aspect. GI bill= money in education form. Also an awesome thing the military does.. haha my grandpa last weekend was saying that when he got out of the military way back when, they were giving him something like 150 bucks a month to pay for school and books and whatnot.. And it totally covered Everything! That blows my mind.. Inflation sucks.
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]
Its one of many reasons. I need the benefit. I have no idea what in the heck I was doing with my life before I started trying to enlist. This has gotten me farther than I thought. and with my enlistment coming up, I can't get pregnant

firsttimersluck · July 2011

Lol... wait.. so... enlisted helps you be motivated to not get pregnant? I'm confused.. haha
So will you and your FI both be in the military then? same or different branch?

calindi · July 2011

The military is hardly a way out of job hunting now. Maybe a few years ago when they were ramping up forces, but not anymore. They are extremely picky. It's even more challenging to get in than in to the armed forces than it is to find a comparably paying job. What job (besides other law enforcement positions) make you pass physical fitness requirements?

And nobody in the military makes "bank". The absolute most senior person makes $227k annually, and yeah that's kind of "bank" compared to the average salary in this country. It puts them in the upper class for income. However, they are in the top .01% of the military. The top .01% of the civilian population makes Bill Gates or Warren Buffet style salary, soooo... yeah. Compared to the same level of experience and selectiveness in the civilian sector, it's actually really small.

Here's an article excerpt to give you an idea of 'making bank': (Click here for full article) A senior general earns about 10 times what a private makes, while, by my calculation, C.E.O.’s at major companies earn about 300 times as much as those cleaning their offices.

For what it's worth, my FI could be making 4-5x what he'll make in the Marines in a few years rather than sticking with it as a career. But it's the right choice for us to make it a career.

firsttimersluck · July 2011

Calindi- Well put!
Yeah my FI could definitely be making way way more with his degree, than in the military, but this is what he loves to do and is happy every day he goes into work (minus those super early mornings

)

I know the whole job situation makes me so mad. I just want to yell at those dumb kids. One of my BMs has a brother that doesn't even have his GED yet, smokes and drinks all day, no joke because he doesn't feel like it.. so he think he can join the Army.. yeah right. WHAT A JOKE. I will be Shocked if the Army doesn't laugh him out the door.
Economy goes down- /> unemployment goes up-> people wanting to join increases-> military gets to be picky.
As they should be able to be, back economy or not.

kara811 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]<strong>The military is hardly a way out of job hunting now. Maybe a few years ago when they were ramping up forces, but not anymore. They are extremely picky. It's even more challenging to get in than in to the armed forces than it is to find a comparably paying job.</strong> What job (besides other law enforcement positions) make you pass physical fitness requirements? And nobody in the military makes "bank". The absolute most senior person makes $227k annually, and yeah that's kind of "bank" compared to the average salary in this country. It puts them in the upper class for income. However, they are in the top .01% of the military. The top .01% of the civilian population makes Bill Gates or Warren Buffet style salary, soooo... yeah. Compared to the same level of experience and selectiveness in the civilian sector, it's actually really small. Here's an article excerpt to give you an idea of 'making bank': (Click here for full article ) A senior general earns about 10 times what a private makes, while, by my calculation, C.E.O.’s at major companies earn about 300 times as much as those cleaning their offices. For what it's worth, my FI could be making 4-5x what he'll make in the Marines in a few years rather than sticking with it as a career. But it's the right choice for us to make it a career.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

<div>This is so true. The USN is even doing an ERB, basically "cutting down" or "laying off" people that are already in. The process will start this summer actually. </div>

firsttimersluck · July 2011

kara- it's already started.. maybe not OFFICIALLY, but we've seen a few guys kicked out in just our squadron (not that big) already, after the yearly reviews or whatever, without getting the choice to reenlist. crazy! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a girlfriend of mine who's hubby may be on the chopping block in a few months.

kara811 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]kara- it's already started.. maybe not OFFICIALLY, but we've seen a few guys kicked out in just our squadron (not that big) already, after the yearly reviews or whatever, without getting the choice to reenlist. crazy! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a girlfriend of mine who's hubby may be on the chopping block in a few months.
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

<div>That's too bad, hopefully your girlfriend's hubby will be okay. The ERB is only for those enlisted, isn't your FI an O? Anyway, Phase 1 is in August and Phase 2 is in September. So yes, it technically hasn't started yet. </div>

firsttimersluck · July 2011

My FI is an O.. we're not concerned. My girlfriends Hubby is E though. Hopefully he doesn't get booted. If they don't then his next station will be JAX and that's where we'll most likely end up next. That would be nice to know someone right away :P

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]Lol... wait.. so... enlisted helps you be motivated to not get pregnant? I'm confused.. haha So will you and your FI both be in the military then? same or different branch?
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]
I'm my grandparents only grandchild. My grandmother is horribly annoying about when I'm getting married and having kids. Well enlisting I can't get pregnant. <div>:D </div><div>
</div><div>FI will both be in. And as of right now the same branch. Once he gets his degree we won't be. </div><div>
</div><div>Is it weird for an officer to be married to an enlisted? </div>

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]Calindi- Well put! Yeah my FI could definitely be making way way more with his degree, than in the military, but this is what he loves to do and is happy every day he goes into work (minus those super early mornings ;) ) I know the whole job situation makes me so mad. I just want to yell at those dumb kids. One of my BMs has a brother that doesn't even have his GED yet, smokes and drinks all day, no joke because he doesn't feel like it.. so he think he can join the Army.. yeah right. WHAT A JOKE. I will be Shocked if the Army doesn't laugh him out the door. Economy goes down- /> unemployment goes up- /> people wanting to join increases-> military gets to be picky. As they should be able to be, back economy or not.
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]
Yeah they won't take him. You have to have a HS deploma or college credits

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help a military couple! : This is so true. The USN is even doing an ERB, basically "cutting down" or "laying off" people that are already in. The process will start this summer actually.
Posted by kara811[/QUOTE]
Thats so sad. My FI didn't know if he was going to have a job next year. Thank god for the BN going in to reset. <div>
</div><div>I think they need to kick the guys that do their 2 weeks of training and don't do sh!t at all out</div>

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