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picture1 · February 2010

O.k so my father who raised me hasn't spoken to me in three years, the bio- father hasn't spoken since before christmas, i really would like a close family friend to give me away is this ok? It is for a vow renewal.

katiewhompus · February 2010

You can have anyone you want walk you down the aisle or you could just walk yourself down.

sucrets4 · February 2010

Do parents usually give you away for a vow renewal? That seems really out of place as you're already married.

picture1 · February 2010

this is our ten year anniversary and ten years ago it was a just a very small service by a jp, we had very little money and now we have had time to save up and i get the wedding of my dreams, the pastor told us he was going to run it just like it was a real wedding.

sucrets4 · February 2010

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[QUOTE]this is our ten year anniversary and ten years ago it was a just a very small service by a jp, we had very little money and now we have had time to save up and i get the wedding of my dreams, the pastor told us he was going to run it just like it was a real wedding.
Posted by picture1[/QUOTE]

The ceremony part strikes me as odd.

I can get wanting to renew your vows in front of family and friends and have a kickass party, but I think it would be weird if you were just pretending that you haven't been married for 10 years. That's a big accomplishment and should be lauded.

I would just walk down by myself...you don't NEED someone to give you away. Many first time brides walk by themselves.

squirrly · February 2010

I'd walk alone too. Think of it this way - you're not being given away - you're walking to your H.

Or - you could walk in with him.

sarah0725 · February 2010

Yeah, I think you already gave yourself to your husband ten years ago. The symbolism of walking into a ceremony by yourself as a grown woman is just as powerful as anything involving a male relative.

picture1 · February 2010

so what if i am not being given away but just escorted

katiewhompus · February 2010

Then you can be escorted by anyone you want...

redheadfsu · February 2010

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[QUOTE]so what if i am not being given away but just escorted
Posted by picture1[/QUOTE]

As a guest I would find it weird. You are married & walking to your husband. Being with someone else while walking to him would be strange in my book.

picture1 · February 2010

ya but 10 years ago we didn't get any of this it was blue jeans outside in - 15c weather.

sarah0725 · February 2010

But why are you so concerned with having the mechanics of this part of a marriage ceremony when finding someone to escort you seems to be such a problem?

Maybe you should just rent a white-haired guy.

katiewhompus · February 2010

Hmm if you are real ignore this....

a person who joined on 2-20 and is named "picture1"...does this strike anyone as odd or is a glitch?

kate51485 · February 2010

This is very strange.

tenofcups4me · February 2010

You can walk in with whoever you want. Given that it's a vow renewal, I'd walk in with your husband. But you can also walk by yourself, with your mother, with a family friend... whatever you're most comfortable with.

picture1 · February 2010

what is that supposed to mean

Koopa17 · February 2010

I don't think it matters at all what your wedding was like 10 years ago. Walking down the aisle with with someone other than your husband after 10 years of marriage is weird and out of place. Sorry.

ootmother2 · February 2010

walk alone

if you're real, that is

jessjo04 · February 2010

Out of curiosity, are you wearing a big white poofy dress and having bridesmaids?

mmdpm · February 2010

picture1 · February 2010

haha your so funny i for got to laugh. This is her husband and thanks to the one of you who did help the others can just back the hell off she only wanted some help on a question and you all but one jumped on her. i fully support her and we are in this together and we and our kids are very excited about this.

ricksang · February 2010

OMG stop! Seriously.

kate51485 · February 2010

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[QUOTE]haha your so funny i for got to laugh. This is her husband and thanks to the one of you who did help the others can just back the hell off she only wanted some help on a question and you all but one jumped on her. i fully support her and we are in this together and we and our kids are very excited about this.
Posted by picture1[/QUOTE]

You are just tickling yourself pink, aren't you? Man, I wish MY husband followed me around on internet message boards and yelled at people in my defense!

jena.n.ross · February 2010

FI looks at me like I'm nuts every time I log into this board. I lol every couple of minutes. I've officially made the Etiquette board my Knot home.

I actually snarfed a bit when I saw OP's NOT.

jasmineh7777 · February 2010

This is just...odd.

mmdpm · February 2010

Is this really fun for people? Seriously, if you can't stand the heat stay out of the kitchen, don't make up fake identities.

bbyckes · February 2010

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[QUOTE]haha your so funny i for got to laugh. This is her husband and thanks to the one of you who did help the others can just back the hell off she only wanted some help on a question and you all but one jumped on her. i fully support her and we are in this together and we and our kids are very excited about this.
Posted by picture1[/QUOTE]

bwahahahaha! I'm with Kate on this now. This cannot be real. You had to get your husband? Too funny.

jasmineh7777 · February 2010

Jena - I really like your ring. Very pretty.

ricksang · February 2010

This is getting odd. We haven't had a spouse come on and defend a helpless newbie in a while.

jena.n.ross · February 2010

Wow. Sorry, lots of funny things happened while I was replying before.

If "YOUR" (gag me with a spoon, if we're dragging out our jr. high phrases) all so excited, wtf does it matter what a bunch of strangers think?

mmdpm · February 2010

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[QUOTE]Jena - I really like your ring. Very pretty.
Posted by jasmineh7777[/QUOTE]

me too.

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