A younger & poor MH???

Style2012 · December 2010

HELLO

I asked my only sister to be my MofH bceause she is my sister and I felt it was the right thing to do. I figured her expenses could be managable and that we would figure it out... If worst comes to worst I know my other bridemaids would be willing to help out. But I just went to visit her in NC (Im from MI) and she couldn't pay for anything while I was there because shes so poor. She only gets paid once a month which is her excuse but I feel like its also because she smokes and drinks more than she should, which is beyond frustrating!!!

On the drive home I got to thinking... Maybe I could have 2 MH? I know its my wedding and I can do what I want but I was hoping to get some opinions. I would hate to hurt her feelings. Its also hard because she doesn't live near me so she won't be around for a lot of the planning.

Please let me know what you think, or have done or are going to do. I hate making these decisions and your opinions will def help me out.

Thanks so much knotties!!!!

sister2groom · December 2010

What expenses are you talking about? If you're talking about pre-wedding parties, no MOH, including those with more money, is expected or required to throw them. Even if you got another MOH (and it would be pretty offensive to everyone involved to do so just so she could be the moneybags) there is nothing to dictate that she use her money to throw you a party because you cannot dicatate how anyone else spends their own money.

lalap69 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_younger-poor-mh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:880bf3d3-565c-4a27-8ce5-e603ff105c73Post:4bbc0309-db88-43b6-8d80-2b9212343a53">A younger & poor MH???</a>:
[QUOTE]HELLO =) I asked my only sister to be my MofH bceause she is my sister and I felt it was the right thing to do. I figured her expenses could be managable and that we would figure it out... If worst comes to worst I know my other bridemaids would be willing to help out. But I just went to visit her in NC (Im from MI) and she couldn't pay for anything while I was there because shes so poor. She only gets paid once a month which is her excuse but I feel like its also because she smokes and drinks more than she should, which is beyond frustrating!!! On the drive home I got to thinking... Maybe I could have 2 MH? I know its my wedding and I can do what I want but I was hoping to get some opinions. I would hate to hurt her feelings. Its also hard because she doesn't live near me so she won't be around for a lot of the planning. Please let me know what you think, or have done or are going to do. I hate making these decisions and your opinions will def help me out. Thanks so much knotties!!!! =)
Posted by Style2012[/QUOTE]
1) Her finances are not your business. Ask her for her budget for the dress and stay within it. That's the only expense she should have. Everything else you're clearly expecting is a GIFT from her that she is NOT obligated to give you.

2) If I asked a second MOH it would hurt my sister's feelings. Having 2 MOH's because you can't pick between two people of equal closeness is okay. Asking a second MOH to ensure you get all the pretty princess things you're expecting is not.

SSaltzman87 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_younger-poor-mh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:880bf3d3-565c-4a27-8ce5-e603ff105c73Post:4bbc0309-db88-43b6-8d80-2b9212343a53">A younger & poor MH???</a>:
[QUOTE]HELLO =) I asked my only sister to be my MofH bceause she is my sister and I felt it was the right thing to do. I figured her expenses could be managable and that we would figure it out... If worst comes to worst I know my other bridemaids would be willing to help out. But I just went to visit her in NC (Im from MI) and she couldn't pay for anything while I was there because shes so poor. She only gets paid once a month which is her excuse but I feel like its also because she smokes and drinks more than she should, which is beyond frustrating!!! On the drive home I got to thinking... Maybe I could have 2 MH?<strong> I know its my wedding and I can do what I want</strong> but I was hoping to get some opinions. I would hate to hurt her feelings. Its also hard because she doesn't live near me so she won't be around for a lot of the planning. Please let me know what you think, or have done or are going to do. I hate making these decisions and your opinions will def help me out. Thanks so much knotties!!!! =)
Posted by Style2012[/QUOTE]

Take this phrase out of your vocabulary.

If you have this mentality, be prepared for a lot of people to get pissed off at you.

With that said, in this case I don't think you should have a second MOH. No one is obligated to throw ANY pre-wedding party for you whether it be a shower or bachelorette party. So to add a second MOH in hopes to of getting one or the other is kind of selfish. Also, no WP member is obligated to help with wedding planning- it's just an added bonus if they offer to help. The planning should really be up to you, FI and your families.

SarahPLiz · December 2010

My little sister is still in college, 9 hours away and was my MOH. I only saw her once during my engagement. She didn't plan anything. SHe didn't really have any expenses except maybe her shoes, and she used some she already owned. Her dress was $20 and I paid for it.

Your MOH should be the person you are closest to in the world. They should not have to pay for that honor. Ever!

Manwaithiel · December 2010

Wow...shallow much?

bablingbrooke · December 2010

Your MOH is someone you honor, not someone you draft to buy you things. Don't draft a second one as insurance that you will get presents and gifts. Very shallow.

Remember what a WP is and what it isn't. It's the people you honor by ask them to stand up next to you as your honored guests while you get married. It is not your cadre of party planners, cheerleaders, party-throwers, or gift-buyers. All the MOH has to buy is the dress, which needs to be in the price range she gives you. She doesn't have to spend a penny more. My MOH didn't spend a penny more, and she didn't have to. I still got a shower and a bach party--they were thrown by other people. But I never, ever asked anyone to do it--people offered them. That needs to be your MO too.

If you make the decision based on how much money she can spend on you, I guarantee that you will regret it. It's a very selfish, shallow way to go and people won't "just understand" that it's your wedding. It doesn't work that way, and people have very long memories.

trix1223 · December 2010

Put down the wedding magazines. Turn off the wedding TV shows. Step away from the wedding websites, because you're getting sucked into their "spend more money" world.

Your sister is, presumably, your MOH, because you love her and want her next to you. It should not be about the balance in her checking account.

Other pps have explained it well: I'm not sure what wedding "stuff" she has to spend HER money on. The money she earns by working. The money that she doesn't need to use to spend money on "stuff" for you and your wedding. So let that go.

And how exactly would you propose telling either your sister, or the back-up MOH about this new plan:

"Sis, I'm going to have another MOH in my wedding, because I'm unhappy that you're spending your income on smokes and drinks and not on me."

"Friend, I need another MOH because my sister doesn't earn enough to throw me showers and b-parties."

Yes, both of those conversations go well, don't you think?

Perhaps you didn't mean to come across as you did, but what we're all reading is "My sister won't be a good MOH because she doesn't earn enough money."

NatandIsaac · December 2010

Ask Oprah to be your second MOH. She throws expensive parties all the time, and she gives really nice gifts.

mbcdefg · December 2010

Just tell your sister tha you're bringing in a co-Maid of Honor because this girl has more time and money to spend on your wedding. I'm sure your sister won't be insulted at all by this! Maybe put it in a cute poem to soften the blow

[Deleted User] · December 2010

All the other ladies definitely have good points. And, your wedding isn't until 2012. You should not even be worrying about any pre-wedding parties, showers or even choosing dresses yet. It is way too early for all of it. Just relax and enjoy your engagment.

Furthermore, none of that stuff is necessary. My MOH (little sister) lives 10 hours away from me and I think only saw her twice during my engagment when I went home. She helped plan my shower, but was not the sole hostess. And I never really had a bach party, which was totally fine with me. She was really busy with school and with everyone's schedules and some of the BM's being out of state, I didn't care, we just went out for drinks a few nights before the wedding.

jenn.daniel · December 2010

Her only expences for the wedding would be travel, which she would incur as a guest, and a dress. If she can't afford a new dress, you let her wear something she already owns. Or if she can only afford $30 for a dress, you find dress for $30.

You MOH does not help you with planning. If someone wants to help, he/she will offer to help, regardless of whether or not he/she is in the WP.

gottahavashorti · December 2010

My younger, broke sister/MOH's wedding expense breakdown:

$10 Bachelorette bonfire; she hosted
90 Bridesmaid dress that she chose and has since reworn
- 90 Parents decided to pay for BM dress
45 Alterations to BM dress, both fit and changes to style
- 45 Parents decided to pay for BM dress
10 Total

She's in college and hadn't worked since the previous summer. Parents also paid for her shoes which she ended up wearing often at her next summer job, a casual hors d'oeuvres and cake shower in a local condo clubhouse planned by the BMs, and a room for the night of the wedding so the BMs could party and stay over. That was our parents' choice because they knew the BMs were in school/right out of school and tight on money, but otherwise the BMs could have opted just to skip those things.

Summer2011Bride · December 2010

I think you should ask people to be in your WP because you want them to be and they mean a lot to you, not because they can afford to throw you parties or buy expensive dresses to wear. I do NOT think you should have a second MOH AT ALL. That would come across as very rude IMO to your sister, like she is not good enough b/c she doesn't have a ton of money.

Bridesmaids and even MOH's are not obligated to do anything as far as planning goes. Their "job" is basically to show up for the ceremony and stand up there with you. I would def. talk to her about budget as far as what she can afford to spend on a dress. if she can't afford much, it would be a nice gesture for you to pitch in, since it sounds like you have plenty of money if you are looking down on her for not being as fortunate.

Although you may not agree with how she spends her cash, it is not your business to judge. Focus on being happy you have a great sister who will stand up with you on your wedding day and don't get bogged down in the material stuff.

Style2012 · December 2010

Please forgive me for not knowing my MOH isn't obligated to throw a party of any kind and that all she needs to pay for is her dress. I am the first of all my friends to get married so I have no clue about who pays for what. So before ya'll go accusing someone of being this aweful person maybe you should first ask some quetions.

I did have a hard time chosing between my sister and a close friend for my MOH. I knew either way they would be fine with it.

My main concern was her living so far away and missing so much of everything. So is reassuring to hear that some of you ladies had the same experience and were fine with it

So thanks for that much of the opinions

You ladies are BRUTAL on here! I am the farthest from a stuck up person that ya'll made me seem like I am. Some times people have a hard time wording what they are trying to say, hence the book I wrote in the initial post.

mbcdefg · December 2010

Can you point out the post(s) where you were called an "aw[e]ful person," please?

trix1223 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_younger-poor-mh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:880bf3d3-565c-4a27-8ce5-e603ff105c73Post:de303040-21fa-48f2-8e64-bd4e482ba57a">Re: A younger & poor MH???</a>:
[QUOTE]Please forgive me for not knowing my MOH isn't obligated to throw a party of any kind and that all she needs to pay for is her dress. I am the first of all my friends to get married so I have no clue about who pays for what. So before ya'll go accusing someone of being this aweful person maybe you should first ask some quetions. I did have a hard time chosing between my sister and a close friend for my MOH. I knew either way they would be fine with it. My main concern was her living so far away and missing so much of everything. So is reassuring to hear that some of you ladies had the same experience and were fine with it =) So thanks for that much of the opinions You ladies are BRUTAL on here! I am the farthest from a stuck up person that ya'll made me seem like I am. Some times people have a hard time wording what they are trying to say, hence the book I wrote in the initial post.
Posted by Style2012[/QUOTE]

Not a single person said you were an awful person. FWIW: people can only comment on what you write. You never said that you didn't know how this "wedding stuff" works.

But as I said in my reply: you may not have meant what you wrote to come out the way it did, but if EVERY reply responded the same way, then clearly we all got the same impression from your own words.

So please don't get huffy. We're not mindreaders, and we can't possibly guess your circumstances. You asked us what we thought and we told you what we thought.

Glad to hear we've helped you out.

bablingbrooke · December 2010

Don't be overly-sensitive; it's only the internet. We're not mind-readers; had you prefaced your post with, "I'm not that familiar with wedding stuff, does a MOH have to do this stuff?" people would have addressed it accordingly. Glad you found it helpful.

Manwaithiel · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_younger-poor-mh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:880bf3d3-565c-4a27-8ce5-e603ff105c73Post:4bbc0309-db88-43b6-8d80-2b9212343a53">A younger & poor MH???</a>:
[QUOTE]HELLO =) I asked my only sister to be my MofH bceause she is my sister and I felt it was the right thing to do. I figured her expenses could be managable and that we would figure it out... If worst comes to worst I know my other bridemaids would be willing to help out. But I just went to visit her in NC (Im from MI) and she couldn't pay for anything while I was there because shes so poor. <strong>She only gets paid once a month which is her excuse but I feel like its also because she smokes and drinks more than she should, which is beyond frustrating!!! </strong>On the drive home I got to thinking... Maybe I could have 2 MH?<strong> I know its my wedding and I can do what I want</strong> but I was hoping to get some opinions. I would hate to hurt her feelings. Its also hard because she doesn't live near me so <strong>she won't be around for a lot of the planning</strong>. Please let me know what you think, or have done or are going to do. I hate making these decisions and your opinions will def help me out. Thanks so much knotties!!!! =)
Posted by Style2012[/QUOTE]

First bolded part: You're being very judgy here. I don't know how anyone is supposed to take it any other way except that you think your sister needs to spend money on things other than what she wants to spend it on. She shouldn't have to use anything as an "excuse". She doesn't answer to you about her finances because they're none of your business. Also, instead of being concerned about her health because of her habits, you make it about whether she'll have enough money or if she'll just continue to be "broke" for your wedding festivities. Is it any wonder people thought you were being shallow?

Second bolded part: If you had lurked for even 5 minutes, or if you had just been a little reasonable about this party you're having, you would have realized this phrase is ludicrous and frowned upon around here. Hell, people disparage it in their sigs. Also, I'm assuming your groom has something to do with all this, so you'd best do away with the "it's my wedding" business.

Third bolded part: What makes you think that you and your FI choosing to get married and throw a party has anything to do with how your sister should conduct the next few months of her life? And why do you feel the need to bring on another MOH to help you plan? It's called a Maid of HONOR. It's an honored position. Not free slave labor.

Your mea culpa doesn't even begin to convince me that you had anything but selfish thoughts going into this. I'm the first of my circle to get married. My little 16 year old sister (who was 15 at the time of being asked) is my MOH. I somehow (magically, apparently) knew that the sparkly ring on my finger shouldn't give me license to assume free labor from my friends/family and get involved in their financial planning.

Don't chalk up your disregard for your sister as bridal virginity. Common decency is just that, common, and you don't get to use your new piece of jewlery as an excuse to ignore it.

Manwaithiel · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_younger-poor-mh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:880bf3d3-565c-4a27-8ce5-e603ff105c73Post:de303040-21fa-48f2-8e64-bd4e482ba57a">Re: A younger & poor MH???</a>:
[QUOTE]Please forgive me for not knowing my MOH isn't obligated to throw a party of any kind and that all she needs to pay for is her dress. I am the first of all my friends to get married so I have no clue about who pays for what. So before ya'll go accusing someone of being this aweful person maybe you should first ask some quetions. I did have a hard time chosing between my sister and a close friend for my MOH. I knew either way they would be fine with it. My main concern was her living so far away and missing so much of everything. So is reassuring to hear that some of you ladies had the same experience and were fine with it =) So thanks for that much of the opinions <strong>You ladies are BRUTAL on here! I am the farthest from a stuck up person that ya'll made me seem like I am. Some times people have a hard time wording what they are trying to say, hence the book I wrote in the initial post.</strong>
Posted by Style2012[/QUOTE]

You may be a great person but you're also a human being and we're pointing out the mistakes in your line of reasoning. It doesn't make you an awful person. It makes you a person who was thinking some pretty awful things. It's not like a single person here is going to tell you they didn't make ANY mistakes with wedding planning or life in general. We <em>are </em>going to tell you when you're over the line. Wouldn't you rather read it on the internet then see the shocked looks on your friends/family's faces as they try to digest you calling them out for spending money on something they want because you feel like it should go towards your wedding? Think about that. This was brutal, I'll admit to it, but it's tough love. No one said you were a terrible human being. That would be mean.

sister2groom · December 2010

I agree it was a bit brutal but that shouldn't make think that I think you're a terrible person because I don't know you and I've only seen one of your posts.

The way I look at internet forums is that they're sort of for brutal honesty. Because people don't know you they can be a little more objective about a situation, as long as they're given the relevant facts. Don't take it personally. If you're not sure about something, an internet forum is a great place for an initial test of an idea because people aren't afraid to tell you when an idea is terrible. I give the truth straight but expect to receive it too. It's not fun to get called out on something, but if it can prevent you from doing something stupid in real life...

Like if I genuinely wanted to know if wearing a certain outfit was a bad idea and asked real life friends they might say something like "Oh....blue, I love that color." If I posted on an internet forum it would be because I actually wanted to know if the outfit made my hips look funky.

artbyallie · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_younger-poor-mh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:880bf3d3-565c-4a27-8ce5-e603ff105c73Post:59b8b0d3-9254-40fd-960b-115416cf88d1">Re: A younger & poor MH???</a>:
[QUOTE]Ask Oprah to be your second MOH. She throws expensive parties all the time, and she gives really nice gifts.
Posted by NatandIsaac[/QUOTE]

<div>This makes me giggle.</div>

kmd0501 · December 2010

can I just point out that I think it was extremely rude of you to assume that if your sister couldnt afford her dress and other expenses for the wedding, you automatically offered your BMs to pick up her extra costs? If I were your BM I'd be kind of pissed that I had to pay extra because she couldnt afford it. If it means that much to you to have her as a BM, let alone your MOH and she cant afford it, you should be the one to pay for her dress.

Style2012 · December 2010

"If I were your BM I'd be kind of pissed that I had to pay extra because she couldnt afford it."

this is the reason I am concerned with her not being able to come up with enough money. Did any of you ever think about where my financial situation lies??? Apparently not. I came here xpecting brutal honesty. Thats why I posted it. I was however expecting opinions about the situation concerning me not for you to disect what I wrote. You guys are right about me not expressing what I really came here to express and thats because I have a hard time sorting out what I am feeling and why I am feeling it. I should have taken a day to figure that out before posting but I didn't so oh-well! The main reason I posted my original post is because we are soooooo very different. we had such a rocky visit but when we went looking for gowns it was an awesome experience. which is why I was so confused. The money situation bothered me because I was unsure what she had to pay for. if all shes expected to pay for is her dress then great! No more need to worry. Maybe I should have asked if she is wanting to throw a party for me, which she is, and can't afford it how do I got about this? I think the majority of you girls have entirely wayyyy to much time to really care this much about what I wrote. I get that its a place to voice your honest opinion but some of you...seriously. I don't even have words for you. If I could imagine who you would be like in real life....it would be one of those snobby girls that think their better than everyone else. That your opinions are always right and your never wrong! I think your fiances have probably said that to you before...just sayin! and don't go getting all pissy because this is supossed to be brutal honesty here right?!!

bablingbrooke · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_younger-poor-mh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:880bf3d3-565c-4a27-8ce5-e603ff105c73Post:a90e3780-888c-4bb2-99de-15acd4f7861b">Re: A younger & poor MH???</a>:
[QUOTE]"If I were your BM I'd be kind of pissed that I had to pay extra because she couldnt afford it." this is the reason I am concerned with her not being able to come up with enough money. Did any of you ever think about where my financial situation lies??? Apparently not. I came here xpecting brutal honesty. Thats why I posted it. I was however expecting opinions about the situation concerning me not for you to disect what I wrote. You guys are right about me not expressing what I really came here to express and thats because I have a hard time sorting out what I am feeling and why I am feeling it. I should have taken a day to figure that out before posting but I didn't so oh-well! The main reason I posted my original post is because we are soooooo very different. we had such a rocky visit but when we went looking for gowns it was an awesome experience. which is why I was so confused. The money situation bothered me because I was unsure what she had to pay for. if all shes expected to pay for is her dress then great! No more need to worry. Maybe I should have asked if she is wanting to throw a party for me, which she is, and can't afford it how do I got about this? I think the majority of you girls have entirely wayyyy to much time to really care this much about what I wrote. I get that its a place to voice your honest opinion but some of you...seriously. I don't even have words for you. If I could imagine who you would be like in real life....it would be one of those snobby girls that think their better than everyone else. That your opinions are always right and your never wrong! I think your fiances have probably said that to you before...just sayin! and don't go getting all pissy because this is supossed to be brutal honesty here right?!!
Posted by Style2012[/QUOTE]
Settle down. This is only the internet--no need to get so defensive. If you failed to clarify what you wanted, that's not something you can pin on the people who took the time to respond. Insulting everyone who gave you advice is just immature. You don't have to like the advice, and you don't have to follow it, but you also don't have to post a big "screw you guys I'm going home" speech--it just comes across as, "Wah! You didn't tell me I was right and I'm not happy about that!"<div>
</div><div>Also, every third new poster who doesn't like what she hears says she feels sorry for our DHs/FIs, that we have no lives, and that we're just bitter. I sometimes wonder if there's a newsletter of "clever retorts" that circulates.</div>

Style2012 · December 2010

I am not pissed at all actually, Im laughing at how silly this is. I could care less if you all think im immature or stupid because im secure enough with myself to know what type of person I am. I can post a screw you post if I darn well feel like it. All of you didnt hesitate to post what you were thinking so neither did I

I wasn't looking to be told I was right, I was looking for opinions from people who have felt the same way about a similar situation. I know damn well some of you have at one point thought about a similar situation. So say you think Im wrong and your right all you want, just like I said you would!

oh! and btw. if the is a newsletter of "clever retorts" I would like to be editor and chief. plz and thx

bablingbrooke · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_younger-poor-mh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:880bf3d3-565c-4a27-8ce5-e603ff105c73Post:b70cb6bd-ad60-4c19-ba6e-d680e33a591a">Re: A younger & poor MH???</a>:
[QUOTE]I am not pissed at all actually, Im laughing at how silly this is. I could care less if you all think im immature or stupid because im secure enough with myself to know what type of person I am. <strong>I can post a screw you post if I darn well feel like it. </strong>All of you didnt hesitate to post what you were thinking so neither did I =) I wasn't looking to be told I was right, I was looking for opinions from people who have felt the same way about a similar situation. <strong>I know damn well some of you have at one point thought about a similar situation.</strong> So say you think Im wrong and your right all you want, just like I said you would! oh! and btw. if the is a newsletter of "clever retorts" I would like to be editor and chief. plz and thx =)
Posted by Style2012[/QUOTE]
Actually, you can't post a screw-you post, it violates TK's terms of service. If our mod, who just had a baby, were here, she'd tell you the same. There are ways to disagree with people that are mature and reasonable, and there are ways to disagree with people that are immature and devolve into insults. What a shame that you chose the latter.<div>
</div><div>And no, it never once crossed my mind to pick my MOH based on how much she had in her bank account. My MOH was my ne'er-do-well little sister who barely showed up, let alone threw a party, and I would ask her again in a heartbeat. Not every bride-to-be is or was focused on the parties or gifts her WP would buy for her. Some of us just wanted to get married.</div>

Style2012 · December 2010

did I EVER say I want gifts? NO! I said I was concerned that she couldnt pay for things that I now know she doesn't have to pay for. So thats really not an issue I promise. And I also NEVER said I chose my MOH based on her bank account. I chose her to be my MOH and asked her with 20 minutes of becoming engaged. It was a no brainer that I wanted my sister beside me.

I feel like your comment about your mod not being here was a threat which I just may pursue. That was not even close to a "screw you" post!!! If I wanted to tell you to screw off, trust me, youd know for sure! All I did was state my opions just like all of you did.

Sounds like you want to be a moderator some day... STOP TRYING SO HARD!!!

bablingbrooke · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_younger-poor-mh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:880bf3d3-565c-4a27-8ce5-e603ff105c73Post:2d0cf4ba-4527-4e03-925c-1ae8dd0c604e">Re: A younger & poor MH???</a>:
[QUOTE]did I EVER say I want gifts? NO! I said I was concerned that she couldnt pay for things that I now know she doesn't have to pay for. So thats really not an issue I promise. And I also NEVER said I chose my MOH based on her bank account. I chose her to be my MOH and asked her with 20 minutes of becoming engaged. It was a no brainer that I wanted my sister beside me. I feel like your comment about your mod not being here was a threat which I just may pursue. That was not even close to a "screw you" post!!! If I wanted to tell you to screw off, trust me, youd know for sure! All I did was state my opions just like all of you did. Sounds like you want to be a moderator some day... STOP TRYING SO HARD!!!
Posted by Style2012[/QUOTE]
How on earth are you interpreting that to be a threat of any kind? Read through old posts: if someone is out of line, banana posts and says, "This is a violation of the terms of service, so be mindful of what you're writing" or something to that effect. In other words, she would be telling you what I just told you. But go ahead and complain to the knot gods if you don't like the responses you got if it'll make you feel better; you won't be the first or the last person to complain that people were too mean to her. And no, I'm not gunning for mod while banana's off with her little Chiquita. <div>
</div><div>For someone who is "laughing" at the situation, you do seem angry. Go take a walk and grab a peppermint hot chocolate. Go to <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.27bslash6.com">www.27bslash6.com</a> and have a laugh over "Missing Missy." You'll feel better. This is so not worth you getting so bent out of shape over. Truly. Take a breath. </div>

Style2012 · December 2010

You clearly have the hardest head ever. I DON'T CARE!!! Im just seeing how much more time of your life you will waste arguing with me

Also: Im not going to spend my day readin through old posts. I have better things to do. I'll leave that for you, which you clearly already have under control

bablingbrooke · December 2010

Alright, well you just carry on "not caring" like you have been. Hope it makes you feel better. I still think you're due for a little walk and chocolate to make you settle down, but to each his own.

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