Overlap of shower guests

Cole&Kailee · July 2012

Hi all,

I am having two bridal showers. One will be friends only with a couple of family members (who are also young friends ie: cousins, step sisters etc) and the other party is for family only hosted by my aunt. The only problem is that the cousins, step sisters etc are invited to both because I felt they should be included in the friend one because the adult ones can be so boring (hehe). I absolutly don't expect a gift from them for both parties, but I was wondering if it was proper etiquette to invite them to partake in both.

Summer2011Bride · July 2012

Generally the only people invited to more than one shower are the BMs and the mom/MIL. I probably wouldn't invite anybody else to both showers. Could you just invite them to the friends one, or will their parents be going to the family one and you find that awkward?

I guess I could see if you are really close friends with them just explaining that you wanted them at the friends one because it might be more fun, but since they are family they are invited to both. I would just stress to them that they don't have to attend both and can choose which they'd prefer.

aragx6 · July 2012

If they're friends and family I would just ask them which they'd prefer to be invited to.

jessicabessica · July 2012

Generally only immediate family and WP should be invited to multiple showers. In your case, though, I would invite them to both, since they seem to be both family and close friends, but I would call them and say something like, "I know that Susie invited you to one shower and Aunt Jane invited you to a second one, so I just wanted to let you know that Susie's will be a younger crowd, and I would love to see you at either or both, but please don't feel pressured about the gifts."

Cole&Kailee · July 2012

Yes, they are all family and friends and fall into both categories. Their parents are also invited to the family ones because they are the mothers of the cousins etc. Thanks for the advice. Invites already went out for both parties, so I'd just assume they chose which one they want to go to. They can definetly come to each party, but no I absolutely don't expect a gift at both parties. Especially for a young cousin (16) whose mother will be at the family bridal shower.

jessicabessica · July 2012

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ootmother2 · July 2012

The moms & bridal party are invited to any and all showers as a courtesy. They may attend any or non. Only one shower gift should be expected no matter how many showers you have

sadieboud10 · July 2012

I also had two showers and I invited just my bridal party to both and my DH mom's and grandparents and my mom. But I did let them know ahead of time that they were not expected to bring a gift both times or once at all.

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