My best friend was the MOH in my wedding and she worked together with my mom and threw a bachelorette party for me. I had a good time, but was a little disappointed because my mom had to take the initiative to get it done in time because my MOH kept putting it off.. It was really not a huge deal, we never argued about it, but we both knew that when we got married, the other would host the bachelorette party. She never planned a bridal shower at all, again, not a big deal, but it would've definitely been appreciated..
NOW, she is getting married and I am her MOH.. I'm so excited for them and even though they aren't getting married in May, I've already started to plan both the bachelorette party and the bridal shower. Since they are getting married during prom season, I want to make reservations in advance if possible. I am very excited to do this for her, but am having some problems...
1. I have talked with the bride and set a date for the bachelorette party, and she also said that she wants it to be a costume party. Once I did that I emailed the (6) bridesmaids with that information and asked them for suggestions / their input. I only heard back from one.
2. I asked the bride about a possible date and number of people for the bridal shower and although she did give me a guest list, she didn't give me a date. She DID tell me what time of day, What kind of food, what kind of gifts and favors, etc.
She said, 'well, it would be cheaper to rent a place and bring in our own food. I want to buy shampoo gift sets for prizes, and that will be fine.
I guess the main problem I am having is that I want her to have something nice. I don't want her to plan it because that should be my job as the hostess, right? I can afford to give her a nice shower and bachelorette party, but how do I ask her to back off and let me do it? Am I being unreasonable?? We have been best friends for years so I know that she trusts my judgement and I wouldn't do anything that she wouldn't like, but I think she is worried about the cost, and that is not an issue!
She even said, "well, I don't like lia sophia jewelry, but one of the bridesmaids sells it, so she thought we could do that at the bridal shower." Maybe it's just me, but if my name is going on an invitation as a hostess, I don't want to do something as tacky as inviting guests to a bridal shower and then expect them to spend their money on jewelry or anything else! I just don't understand that?
I'm a little frustrated with the other bridesmaids for not wanting to have any input, and with the bride for wanting to plan it all herself... Am I being unreasonable? Any suggestions or solutions to this mess??