September 2012 Weddings

don't know how to word invitations

My fiance's family is paying for the wedding. I was going to put Mr & Mrs. ________ and his dads name because his parents are divoriced instead of saying Mr & Mrs. would like you to attend the wedding of their daughter.  But my fiance don't want me to put his parents name first, he wants me to put my parents names first. Anybody have ideas?

Re: don't know how to word invitations

  • You could not do names of parents at all and say :

    The families of
    Joanna Leigh Roberts
    Andrew Rex Hargreaves
    invite you to join in the celebration of their marriage
    Saturday, September 6, 2018
    at 6 o'clock in the evening
    The Inn at Rancho Sante Fe
    5951 Linea De Cielo
    Rancho Sante Fe, California

    or something like:

    Mr. and Mrs. Brides Parents
    together with
    Mr. Groom's Father and Ms. Groom's Mother
    invite you to share in the joy of the marriage uniting their children
    Ashley Marie Kling
    Patrick Everett Langston
    on Saturday, the twelfth of April
    two thousand eighteen
    at eleven o'clock in the morning
    San Bay Yacht Club
    42 Burgundy Drive
    Los Angeles, California


  • Well, the people at the top of the invitation are really just the people that are hosting aka paying for the wedding. You can list parent's names in the ceremony program. So in this case proper wording would be:

    Mrs. and Mrs. Groom's Parents
    request the pleasure of your company
    at the marriage of their son
    Groom's name
    Bride's name
    daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents
    at blah blah blah

    although it sounds like they are divorced so you would need to list both sets of his parents.

    You could always not list parents names and do it like this:

    Together with their families
    Brides Name
    Groom's Name
    request the pleasure of your company
    as they are united in marriage
    at blah blah blah

    For my wedding, his parents AND my parents are all contributing so I am doing it like this:
    Mr. and Mrs. Brides parents
    Mr. and Mrs. Groom's parents
    request the pleasure of your company
    at the marriage of their children
    My Name
    His Name
    at blah blah blah

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  • We did the 'together with their families' wording, however we are actually paying for our own wedding with a small contribution of money from our families.
    Smartly is right though, her first wording is technically the proper wording given who is hosting.
  • Your FI may not want it that way but maybe you should speak to your FILs.  If they are the ones paying, they may feel slighted to not be first.  I feel like we have a tendency to say "oh my parents won't mind" assuming we know how they will feel about everything.  Not every time, but sometimes we are wrong.  Not worth offending when they are doing you such a favor.  If your parents are contributing at all I'd go with a "together with their families..."  Otherwise, I'd ask FIL and go from there.
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