How can I figure out if my BF is looking for an engagement ring?

slowdancin2rock · May 2010

How about that this is a website designed for a happy event, for women to come together on one common topic, and all everyone wants to do is just to rain all over everyone else's parade and declare themselves superior.

slowdancin2rock · May 2010

Oh, Mutley. By doing that, you just proved my point. Thanks! And if my name is so stupid, what the hell kind of name is MUTLEY?

Narwhal · June 2010

Narwhals narwhals swimming through the ocean
causing a commotion cause they are so awesome

...i am superior because i have a song about how incredible i am.

**Mutley** · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_can-figure-out-bf-looking-engagement-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:aba32746-548a-4915-865f-e4cff0af4d01Post:579bfe14-12a6-4723-88f7-523755eb569d">Re: How can I figure out if my BF is looking for an engagement ring?</a>:
[QUOTE]How about that this is a website designed for a happy event, for women to come together on one common topic, and all everyone wants to do is just to rain all over everyone else's parade and declare themselves superior.
Posted by slowdancin2rock[/QUOTE]

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In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_can-figure-out-bf-looking-engagement-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:aba32746-548a-4915-865f-e4cff0af4d01Post:713c8546-9526-4c21-b34d-8b4cd532b246">Re: How can I figure out if my BF is looking for an engagement ring?</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh, Mutley. By doing that, you just proved my point. Thanks! And if my name is so stupid, what the hell kind of name is MUTLEY?
Posted by slowdancin2rock[/QUOTE]

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KD+BC · June 2010

As I stated in another thread: I can agree with what everyone says about everything but that would make for a boring, BSC board.

Plus, there are far more threads that are happy and constructive than the ones where we are catty. Face it, you will lose this argument. Either save face now or keep fighting. It's up to you.

KD+BC · June 2010

Wait Mutley, I'm going to say it before she thinks to:

I feel bad for your husband and you must be terrible in bed.

slowdancin2rock · June 2010

I don't want to fuel any fires, but I just don't understand why people feel the need to be intentionally catty and negative. Here's looking at you, Mutley (and I don't feel bad for your husband...I don't even know you. That's just stupid.)

jeanacorina · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_can-figure-out-bf-looking-engagement-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:aba32746-548a-4915-865f-e4cff0af4d01Post:56c7eafd-c76a-4999-bd6e-74a174f2599c">Re: How can I figure out if my BF is looking for an engagement ring?</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't want to fuel any fires
Posted by slowdancin2rock[/QUOTE]

Okay, so stop there. Just right there. Because I can tell you that although I don't always agree with the WAY some of these ladies say things, they have some great points.

And if you re-read your own posts, you do sound a little immature. You can't control what other people do or say, but you CAN control what YOU say.

Just because someone else is judging you doesn't mean you need to do the same to them. I have a good quote up my sleeve, too: "An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind."

That's Gandhi.

Narwhal · June 2010

"If you wanna make the world a better place take a look at yourself and then make a change."

That's Michael Jackson.

tafft1 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_can-figure-out-bf-looking-engagement-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:aba32746-548a-4915-865f-e4cff0af4d01Post:5c14b764-5a75-47a3-bbc3-acb2642fd7aa">Re: How can I figure out if my BF is looking for an engagement ring?</a>:
[QUOTE]Tafft: Yes I did read you have been together 4 years but also that means you started dating when you were a teenager. This isn't meant to offend anyone but I just think maybe you both need to grow some more before you even think of getting engaged. Stop thinking about it now and save yourself alot of stress. [/quote]. She also said my post reeked of wanting something "super sparkly to show off," but she ironically has a pretty sparkly ring.
Posted by slowdancin2rock[/QUOTE]

It intrigues me how I am the one being dragged into this. First of all I spoke my opinion and everyone has one , feel free to disagree , that is your right after all however. I do not see anything wrong with wanting a nice ring , that's your prerogative as well , however when anyone mentions about getting their "dream ring" , it can come off as a very materialistic attitude. Basically my issue is that your BF can't afford said dream ring yet , so you are waiting until he can to be engaged. ( That is how I interpret it as).

So if that's the case why do you care what anyone else thinks ? You care because you want people to and want the attention from it. So you are now trying to tell me I sure as hell can't have a sparkly ring because that is what FI and I picked out together , good to know. I'll be sure to scrub it with dirt so it dosen't from now on. From your post it was more about you and the ring than anything else and that just shows how "mature" you are. Next please.

jeanacorina · June 2010

Opinions are like buttholes- everyone has one.

Narwhal · June 2010

you forgot the part where "but everyone thinks everyone else's stinks."

Silly jeana.

slowdancin2rock · June 2010

I don't want to get married until after we both graduate anyway, so me waiting for my "dream ring" isn't that big of a deal. If I'm not getting married for at least three and a half years, then I should get the ring that I want. If that makes me materialistic, then so be it. We picked it out together, and my BF wants to buy it for me - but he can't buy it right now. That's why I said I'm waiting for my "dream ring."

tafft1 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_can-figure-out-bf-looking-engagement-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:aba32746-548a-4915-865f-e4cff0af4d01Post:93771b1b-b6a2-488a-92b3-6c0570c6bc2d">Re: How can I figure out if my BF is looking for an engagement ring?</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't want to get married until after we both graduate anyway, so me waiting for my "dream ring" isn't that big of a deal. <strong>If I'm not getting married for at least three and a half years, then I should get the ring that I want</strong>. If that makes me materialistic, then so be it. We picked it out together, and my BF wants to buy it for me - but he can't buy it right now. That's why I said I'm waiting for my "dream ring."
Posted by slowdancin2rock[/QUOTE]

There's alot of "me" in that sentence..just saying. Also things can change , don't pigeonhole yourself into anything , especially jewelry. Seriously if you aren't getting married for that long , and presumable engaged about a year or so before that..why even look for something now ? Just seems silly to me but to each their own I guess.

So now my question goes back to your title of your post..if you have already picked it out together..then what is there to figure out..?

slowdancin2rock · June 2010

This wasn't even my post, that's the sad part. It may sound like there's a lot of "me me me," but my boyfriend wanted to do this for me - it was his idea to start looking at rings in the first place. Unfortunately, the ring we both liked is out of our price range at the moment. But it's good that we're a little young yet - more time to grow and save

Jenni.Adams · June 2010

Wow slowdancin you kind of make all of us young brides sound bad in this thread, you haven't come across as the most mature.

Age has a lot to do with it but so does your personality and your individual relationship. My parents got married when my mother was 19 and my father was 21. they have been married 26 years come June, but it has been a hellish 26 years at lot of it has to do with the fact that they married young and they grew but most of it had to do with the fact that they didn't discuss the major issues in a marriage before they went and had a wedding. They didn't have any idea how the other handled money, how they handled job stress or family stress or even how they handled themselves when it came to living as an individual. My Fi's parents got married pretty young as well FMIL was i believe 23 and FFIL was 22 and have been married for 25+ years as well and it has been difficult at times, as most marriages are but not hellish because they took the time to discuss with each other the main issues before marriage.

I think if you both are on the same page when it comes to finances, jobs and dreams and whether you are willing to sacrifice yours for your FH, children and how to raise, etc then being married young is fine. You can live and grow together.

FWIW i think that older women who say that your to young because if I knew at that age what i knew now or i'm so different now then I was at that age I think ah duh hello you live you grow its what life is all about. In another 10 years your going to look back at the way you handled something last week or last month or even in the next month or two and think well if only i'd known then. It's a part of life that you get wiser with age, or usually get wiser anyway, if that was supposed to stop someone from getting married then no one would get married. It is also a part of life that you change and grow personality wise. You personality doesn't stay the same from 20-30, 30-40, or 40-50 etc so the logic of I was a different person at 20 then I am now at 30 so you should wait until your a bit older doesn't fly either because you won't be same person you are at 30 as you will be in 10 years. I know that you do a lot of maturing mentally in your 20's, studies have shown that the front lobe of the brain which is used to process consequences of actions and logically think through things doesn't fully develop until late teens (18 or 19) to mid twenties but every one is different just as every relationship is different.

IMO the best you can do is make sure you've covered the important stuff about marriage because the pretty princess day wedding is all in celebration of the marriage of two people and their lives starting together and live and grow together.

A lot of girls get caught up in the sparkly ring, pretty fuffy dress, flowers and reception part of the wedding that they forget that it's really all about the marriage and a life altering decision about who you want to spend the rest of your life with, which is why i think a lot of girls on her respond the way they do when they see something about waiting for the 'dream ring'. More and more people, men and women are thinking short term when it comes to weddings and more importantly the marriage and not discussing major issues which IMO is why divorce is becoming more frequent.

slowdancin2rock · June 2010

Jeez, I didn't know something like a "dream ring" would set off so many people. I won't apologize for wanting that ring, but I'm not so dense as to think that's the only thing that matters. Obviously, the person you choose to spend your life with and what it means to be married are the most important thing. Everything else is just an added bonus.This board can call me immature all it wants, but I know what I am, and it's not immature.

juddyy · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_can-figure-out-bf-looking-engagement-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:aba32746-548a-4915-865f-e4cff0af4d01Post:cf01cf8f-2347-4c85-b2b0-eddc2a1331b8">Re: How can I figure out if my BF is looking for an engagement ring?</a>:
[QUOTE]Jeez, I didn't know something like a "dream ring" would set off so many people. I won't apologize for wanting that ring, but I'm not so dense as to think that's the only thing that matters. Obviously, the person you choose to spend your life with and what it means to be married are the most important thing. Everything else is just an added bonus.This board can call me immature all it wants, but I know what I am, and it's not immature.
Posted by slowdancin2rock[/QUOTE]
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sapphirebaby926 · July 2010

WHY ARE YOU DRAGGING UP MONTH OLD DEAD THREADS???

(yes I'm yelling)

oceana919 · July 2010

QUIT DRAGGING UP MONTH-OLD THREADS.

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