Who to be seating at the head table?

musicjailbird7 · April 2011

I'm just wondering who would I seat at the head table? I have a big wedding party and lots of brothers and sisters, and so does my fiance, so I don't want to leave people out, but I don't think it's reasonable to seat all of them at one table (I'd need probably 18 or more seats). Any suggestions?

slis2cute · April 2011

We are having a more informal wedding so it may be different, but we are not having a "head table"

With our wedding party and family and dates it would be way to large, so we are having a sweetheart table for the two of us and letting everyone else sit where they want. Our planner suggested this as it is easier for people to come and talk to us or for us to get up and walk around and visit.

jessicabessica · April 2011

If you don't want to at a minimum have the wedding party and their dates at the head table, I wouldn't have a head table. It's pretty inconsiderate to seat the wedding party dates separately at the reception.

Magdala9 · April 2011

We skipped the big head table and sat everyone at round tables. Our wedding party their families, our parents and sibllings and their families would have necessitated a table of 37. We just sat people in big round tables ourselves included and mingled.

trix1223 · April 2011

Sweetheart Table for you and your new DH. And then your WP sits at tables with their friends and/or family. Easy and considerate of your WP. GL

SuMmErKuTiE · April 2011

We also had a sweetheart table and skipped the outdated head table. This way our wedding party got to sit with their dates, family, and friends.

GoodLuckBear14 · April 2011

Stage gave you the answer but please don't do a head table. They are not fun for anyone in the wedding party - you get to sit there watching everyone watching you while your date is out there somewhere (in the crowd or at the other end of the head table) bored out of his/her skull also.

aegrish · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_seating-head-table?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:e4f6d015-3f3f-422f-b843-07847c04b3bfPost:ebd039d9-e1be-4382-a1c4-b60eadabb424">Re: Who to be seating at the head table?</a>:
[QUOTE]If you insist on having a head table, it should be you, FI, all of the WP members, and all of their dates. If need be, seat both sides of the table in the style of a Captain's table or Harvest table. I've never seen parents or siblings not in the WP seated at a 'traditional' head table. However,<strong> I have seen the Bride and Groom seated with their parents</strong> or seated with just the MOH and BM and their dates in lieu of a head table or a sweetheart table (which is just B&G alone). Then, WP members either sit with their dates a designated table (or two) nearby, or are seated with their dates in among the regular guests.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

this is what I am doing. I don't want a head table, I've never been a fan of them.

MyNameIsNot · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_seating-head-table?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:e4f6d015-3f3f-422f-b843-07847c04b3bfPost:6167f76e-243b-460c-a61b-038c640ee510">Re: Who to be seating at the head table?</a>:
[QUOTE]We did just the wedding party - bm, gm, and ushers. Their dates sat at tables with everyone else and it was no big deal. I don't think you need the dates up there. If DH was in a wedding I would feel weird eating at the head table when I wasn't actually part of the wedding. They are just there for dinner anyways and then most people move around.
Posted by LindsaymR[/QUOTE]

<div>Just because you personally wouldn't be bothered by it doesn't make it not rude.</div><div>
</div><div>And don't presume to speak for your WP. They may not have voiced their annoyance to you, but most people are annoyed to eat on display and not be seated with their spouse at an event. Sitting at the head table is one of the most common things people cite with they say being in a WP can be a pain. </div>

lyndausvi · April 2011

We just had us and the younger WP members. It was not a head table with a long table and everyone facing out. It was a square table that we sat around.

Our siblings (WP or not) sat with our respected parents. Friends in the WP sat with other friends.

aegrish · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_seating-head-table?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:e4f6d015-3f3f-422f-b843-07847c04b3bfPost:14ae1dab-b226-483a-858f-7bf8a62a590a">Re: Who to be seating at the head table?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Who to be seating at the head table? : Just because you personally wouldn't be bothered by it doesn't make it not rude. And don't presume to speak for your WP. They may not have voiced their annoyance to you, but most people are annoyed to eat on display and not be seated with their spouse at an event. Sitting at the head table is one of the most common things people cite with they say being in a WP can be a pain.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

ugh yes I hate sitting "alone" when FI is in a wedding and I don't like eating on display with my FI sitting alone either! it is annoying!

MMRoberts11 · April 2011

I would recommend a sweetheart table or sit with your parents. This way your WP can still enjoy themselves, sit with others they know, and knot feel like the center of attention the entire time they are at the table.

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