Hi Ladies! Just want to introduce mself before I get into my post-My name is Jen, my wedding is this august. I have posted here before in the past but probably a year + ago (I’ve been engaged for almost 2 years) and typically post on my club boards but needed some help on this.
My fiancé parents originally said they would pay for our rehearsal dinner. Last night fiance’s mom texted him and said that her sister and brother in law (fiancés aunt and uncle )offered to pay for the dinner.
I am unsure if they are giving the money to his parents as a gift or loan- or if they want to be considered the “hosts” of the rehearsal.
Originally, these people were NOT even on the guest list. The only people on it were bridal party and spouses, parents of fiancé and I, his grandparents, and his cousin who is a reader and my godfather and wife who is a reader.
Now that they are paying for it, we are obviously going to include them, plus fiancés other aunt and uncles who are coming in from out of town (they are coming in from across the country) because we feel like we can’t include the aunt and uncle that are paying and not the others.
Firstly, I don’t know HOW to ask if they are simply paying for it or hosting it. Not sure if they want to be included on the invite or simply silent partner.
I don’t know How to tell fiancés mom that originally these people weren’t included and that we have to extend our guest list to include them- and to ask who else we need to include.
I also feel totally awkward that they are paying for it, but I guess that’s fine, since they had NO involvement, and I am just thinking that like people are going to go up and thanks fiancés parents for hosting it and stuff and they didn’t.
Also- originally fiancés parents were paying AND handling all the details. Now that his aunt and uncle are paying his mom told us that we need to plan the details. Its not the hugest deal- but Its kind of thrown on my plate now- since I know fiancé knows nothing about getting centerpieces, place cards, desserts, etc.
Finally Fiances aunt and uncle who offered to pay are LDS and do not believe in drinking. But I don’t want a dry rehearsal and my parents said its rude to have a cash bar. My dad said he’d put some money at the bar and if people want it they can go up and then when it hits the limit it can be cash from that point on. He was going to put like $500 on a tab. I just don’t want his aunt and uncle to think they are paying for peoples booze and get offended. Do we tell them my dad is doing that?
EDIT i assume they offered to help pay because fiances parents are complaning aout expensese and his aunt and uncle are pretty well off
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