Earn cash as you plan. Get a $20 gift card for every 200 points with The Knot Rewards
Snarky Brides
AllAboutTheBenjamin
member
Am I being a complete snot.
Oh, hai, wall-o-text.
I know I mentioned it in another thread that I'm majorly PMSing so this may contribute to my moodiness. But whatever.
Talk me down.
My mother called this morning; apparently, some ladies from my home church (home is three hours away) want to throw me a shower. Next weekend. I know, I know, it's nice. Just let them do it. Bleh. I'm just really bothered that I've been engaged for like, seven months, and it just occurs to them now that they must throw me a shower. To clarify - I of course don't expect them to throw me a shower, in fact, I thought I was getting lucky to have dodged this shower being thrown for me (there are like 50 of these ladies and they all bought my sister a ton of really stupid crap last year). My other shower is the night before and has been planned for a month.
My mom says she tried to explain to them that I'd probably be busy and that I wouldn't feel slighted if they didn't throw me a shower, but they're relentless. So they want to throw me this damn shower next Saturday afternoon. Which blows, because my hair trial is on Saturday at 10, and we are meeting with the pastor for the last time at noon, and I know I'm just not going to be in a mood to open a bunch of crap I don't want (man, I am sounding like such an ungrateful bitch).
I know that I'll go to the shower and probably enjoy myself, I'm just annoyed that it's all being thrown together at the last minute and they're acting like it just has to happen.
Then my mom told me she wants to see everything that's going into the wedding programs, which, I guess I understand. However I already sent off the information to our chick who's doing them like, last week, and she's working on them already. My mother flipped her shiit and is insisting that I email her all the information so she can look it over to see if I missed anything, because, apparently, I'm an idiot who would purposely forget something important. I told her I'd email her the info, but that if anything is going to be added now, it's probably going to be an extra cost, since they're already being put together. I guess, it just bothers me that she doesn't trust me to include everything in the damn program. And maybe I just wanted some of it to be a surprise, but that's lame of me.
My mother. Is. Annoying.
I. Am probably. Overreacting.
And this will all be behind me in three weeks so I know I'm probably being a big, stressed out baby for nothing.
I do feel better now, though.
Thank God it's Friday today so I can get hammered tonight.
I know I mentioned it in another thread that I'm majorly PMSing so this may contribute to my moodiness. But whatever.
Talk me down.
My mother called this morning; apparently, some ladies from my home church (home is three hours away) want to throw me a shower. Next weekend. I know, I know, it's nice. Just let them do it. Bleh. I'm just really bothered that I've been engaged for like, seven months, and it just occurs to them now that they must throw me a shower. To clarify - I of course don't expect them to throw me a shower, in fact, I thought I was getting lucky to have dodged this shower being thrown for me (there are like 50 of these ladies and they all bought my sister a ton of really stupid crap last year). My other shower is the night before and has been planned for a month.
My mom says she tried to explain to them that I'd probably be busy and that I wouldn't feel slighted if they didn't throw me a shower, but they're relentless. So they want to throw me this damn shower next Saturday afternoon. Which blows, because my hair trial is on Saturday at 10, and we are meeting with the pastor for the last time at noon, and I know I'm just not going to be in a mood to open a bunch of crap I don't want (man, I am sounding like such an ungrateful bitch).
I know that I'll go to the shower and probably enjoy myself, I'm just annoyed that it's all being thrown together at the last minute and they're acting like it just has to happen.
Then my mom told me she wants to see everything that's going into the wedding programs, which, I guess I understand. However I already sent off the information to our chick who's doing them like, last week, and she's working on them already. My mother flipped her shiit and is insisting that I email her all the information so she can look it over to see if I missed anything, because, apparently, I'm an idiot who would purposely forget something important. I told her I'd email her the info, but that if anything is going to be added now, it's probably going to be an extra cost, since they're already being put together. I guess, it just bothers me that she doesn't trust me to include everything in the damn program. And maybe I just wanted some of it to be a surprise, but that's lame of me.
My mother. Is. Annoying.
I. Am probably. Overreacting.
And this will all be behind me in three weeks so I know I'm probably being a big, stressed out baby for nothing.
I do feel better now, though.
Thank God it's Friday today so I can get hammered tonight.
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Am I being a complete snot.
Our Story MAJORLY UPDATED 8/6/09
Wouldn't it be nice to live together in the kind of world where we belong?
Maybe just a bit stressed and targeting some llil old ladies that are just trying to do a super-nice thing. Your mom IS being a tad unreasonable about the program thing.
Here's what you should do: yell at me. Blame me for every single glitch and stressful thing that comes your way prior to the wedding and just try to enjoy yourself. Don't let the stress get to you. I "heart" you.
My Fat Chick Blog
As far as the shower goes, just go and get rid of the shiit you don't want ASAP. And don't send it to one of us for the SS cause we probably don't want that crap either. Am I helping any?? LOL!! Can you take some friends with you to help you enjoy yourself more? Sisters?
As far as your mom, just email her the info and let her say what she has to say. There MIGHT be something that you did forget and if she mentions something that you don't want to add, just say okay and let it go.
PMS is a BETCH!!! I am so happy that mine was last weekend and not coming so close to the wedding cause this stuff can drive you to run a fool off the road!!
Feel better hun and don't get too wasted lata!!
Have fun with it and get hammered today. I know I am.
If you get really crappy stuff, showcase it here and we'll all get a laugh out of the
"1001 Uses for Cream of Mushrooom Soup" cookbook and Bless This Mess plaque.
[QUOTE]So anna, can I yell too?? My wedding is before hers!!! ~~whining~~
Posted by MISSCOURTNEY20[/QUOTE]
Yell away! Blame me for it all. i don't mind, i can take it. ;)
My Fat Chick Blog
Letting people be nice is sometimes a little stressful. Go figure!!
OWN - I know I'm being a snot about the shower. In fact... maybe it won't even happen. But maybe it will. And I'll go, and it'll be nice. Who knows. Maybe they won't give crap gifts.
I will pray extra hard.
The program, sucks. I take it mom is paying for the wedding? This gives them a sense of control. I don't know how old you are, but I think you're pretty young and she may still be babying you. You'll grow out of it, or have to have a little chat with her about how you're a grown up now. My mom's a control freak, I understand.
Wine fixes everything. Drink it all away. And if that doesn't work, try vodka.
I'm 26
No, just kidding. I'm a raving bitch normally, anyway, so I commiserate.
[QUOTE]kcullen, yeah, Ben's and my folks are paying - which I TOTALLY understand, means they have a say and stuff. It's just been interesting planning this wedding while she is at home, and I am three hours away. <strong>I'm 26 :) So I guess fairly young?</strong> I<strong> think she acts this way because my younger sister got married last year and now my mom is apparently a professional wedding planner.</strong> I clearly have no clue what I'm doing.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
You're young, I actually thought you were even younger though from your picture - go you! It's never fun not being the first daugther to get married I've decided. My mom keeps trying to throw the same wedding for me as my sister had SEVEN years ago. She even was trying to get us to have it at the same venue, go to the same bridal shop, wear my sister's tiara etc. But I steered her away from the first one b/c it's not our style. I'll consider price shopping at the second, but it's really out of the way for me, and I tried on her tiara and it hurt my head. And all this time I though my sister was the big head in the family, huh.
Just a few more weeks of dealing with mommy dearest wedding plans, you can make it with a little help from cabernet ;)
Lol, I hired all the vendors - and she was upset I didn't hire the same DJ. The DJ my sister had is kind of a family friend - but he used to cut all of her tapes for her dance routines, so she knew him. I had never dealt with him before and I know a guy who works at the junior college I went to for my first year of college, who DJs - so I hired him. I just know him better and he gets me. She was concerned the other DJ would be offended. Whatever.
She also really wanted my old babysitter to sit at my guestbook. Blugh. I was a junior bridesmaid in my old babysitter's wedding years ago - and I guess my mom has a tit-for-tat wedding mentality; that because I was in her wedding years ago, she has to have a role at mine. Except sitting at a guestbook is horrid and I don't even want an annoying cousin to do it. My mom said "Well how are people supposed to know how to sign the guest book!?"
Yeah. Really.
In the end I bought a photo mat for people to sign instead.
The old ladies are being sweet, they are just forgetting how busy the month before a wedding can be. That's okay, too just go and you will have fun no matter what they give you (you might be surprised and get some nice stuff, and if not it is still really, really sweet!)
I don't think you are being a snot, you are just freaking out a little. It is pretty normal to freak out a little a month and less out.
rescue powered by
I would feel horrible having some one stand around like a tool telling people to sign the guestbook, it's more of a punishment than an honor lol.
And like the same BM dresses as in design, or literally the same ones, second hand?
[QUOTE] My mom said "Well how are people supposed to know how to sign the guest book!?" Yeah. Really. In the end I bought a photo mat for people to sign instead.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
Wow mom. Ha.
[QUOTE]My mom wanted my bridesmaids to wear the same bridesmaids dresses my sister used. Lol, I hired all the vendors - and she was upset I didn't hire the same DJ. The DJ my sister had is kind of a family friend - but he used to cut all of her tapes for her dance routines, so she knew him. I had never dealt with him before and I know a guy who works at the junior college I went to for my first year of college, who DJs - so I hired him. I just know him better and he gets me. She was concerned the other DJ would be offended. Whatever. She also really wanted my old babysitter to sit at my guestbook. Blugh. I was a junior bridesmaid in my old babysitter's wedding years ago - and I guess my mom has a tit-for-tat wedding mentality; that because I was in her wedding years ago, she has to have a role at mine. Except sitting at a guestbook is horrid and I don't even want an annoying cousin to do it. My mom said "Well how are people supposed to know how to sign the guest book!?" Yeah. Really. <strong>In the end I bought a photo mat for people to sign instead. </strong>
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
We did this too. Great minds....I tell ya!!
ETA - Court, great minds indeed
40/112
40/112
My married sister is the one directly to the right of me in my sig pic - I'm in pink, she's in grey. She's 23, I'm 26.
Totally not being a snot about your mom wanting to check your programs. You are an adult, she should trust you to handle it.
[QUOTE]Breathe, my dear. These sound like several perfectly understandable irrational thoughts that can be smoothed out with several hugs and a bottle of wine. That is my prescription. :)
Posted by sarah0725[/QUOTE]
Ditto.