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stephl3055 · July 2010

I don't know why someone would post about their vows and ask for someone else's opinion. They are YOUR vows to YOUR fiance. We aren't going to know whether or not he is going to love them. We also don't know the tone of your wedding or what your guests are like. Those two factors can make a big difference in your vows as well.

That's fine if you want someone to proofread them, but I think asking people to critique them is too much. The OP usually just ends up defending everything that is criticized and doesn't change anything anyway.

sparklingdiamond · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-19?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:d35369a3-a1d5-4134-8c3e-d133bb534400Post:4e395263-bf5e-410e-b10d-eb9da88cac41">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]Hey, that's ok! It's when someone starts off a thread like this and it has absolutely nothing to do with the subject. Responding to someone's post is not bad! :)
Posted by Mariah&Steven[/QUOTE]

Haha thanks! :-)

tnickel06 · July 2010

I agree about the mega churches, DH used to go to one and I went a couple of times with him and his family and I didn't get much from it. Apparently at this church, the service started at 8 with singing, but nobody really showed up until 9(including us and his family). That did not make any sense to me. But I guess some people like that...

sparklingdiamond · July 2010

Also...I am super frustrated with some of the people I work with. I am basically the office manager for a counseling company that has 6 therapists. So my job the past couple of weeks has been trying to add people to the insurance contracts so they can see more clients. They complain about not having enough clients, but when I ask for the information I need to do the contracts (which will help them get more clients!!!) they won't get it to me!!! So frustrating!

Tiffany618 · July 2010

I had tears in my eyes watching a re-run of Jim and Pam's "The Office" wedding ... at 24 hour fitness...last night.

I use "..." and smiley faces way too much for my own good.

I disowned my half brother and sisters for not coming to my wedding. Seriously, forever. Not kidding, whatsoever. One of them decided ( 2 months later) to try to apologize through Facebook yesterday.... yeah, I deleted it. Too little too late folks.

tnickel06 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-19?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:d35369a3-a1d5-4134-8c3e-d133bb534400Post:164a1c76-9df6-426b-ba9e-f6486cd6a5a6">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I disowned my half brother and sisters for not coming to my wedding. Seriously, forever. Not kidding, whatsoever. One of them decided ( 2 months later) to try to apologize through Facebook yesterday.... yeah, I deleted it. Too little too late folks.
Posted by Tiffany618[/QUOTE]

I sort of did the same for a few of my high school friends. We were so close then and we had our little group. Well I went off the college and they all stayed home. I invited them to the bridal shower and none of them showed up. Then I was texting them the day of and it seemed like they were going to be there. I guess they were playing games because none of them showed up and I payed for them. I'm still kind of bitter about it.

tnickel06 · July 2010

I don't like our bedroom furniture that much. DH and I have totally different views on decorating. Because we had to dip into savings for his surgery, he got his way on the bedroom stuff because it was cheaper. I think it is way too big for the space that we have. Hopefully in the next couple years or so, we will have a guest room and can move that in there and I can get what I want in the master.

balfour00 · July 2010

wow Tiffany. I'm so amazed at how much facebook and just the internet in general has changed the social norms. It what messed up world is it ok to apologize to a family member for not showing up at their wedding? You can't pick up a phone and at least have a conversation? Honestly?!

To me it just says "hey, I kind of feel guilty about what I did, but I don't care enough to actually call and have a conversation about it. I'll just let you know while I'm online updating my status letting everyone know that I like koala bears"

sparklingdiamond · July 2010

I am actually in quite a bit of debt right now. I was partially irresponsible in the amount of student loans I took out (even though I did attend an expensive school). The bad thing about debt is that it is hard to get out of when you don't have much expendable income.

NMac2010 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-19?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:d35369a3-a1d5-4134-8c3e-d133bb534400Post:4c8c96d5-89f0-4fe7-80ed-ae952c22180a">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't know why someone would post about their vows and ask for someone else's opinion. They are YOUR vows to YOUR fiance. We aren't going to know whether or not he is going to love them. We also don't know the tone of your wedding or what your guests are like. Those two factors can make a big difference in your vows as well. That's fine if you want someone to proofread them, but I think asking people to critique them is too much. The OP usually just ends up defending everything that is criticized and doesn't change anything anyway.
Posted by steph13055[/QUOTE]

Not sure if you're referring to me, but I actually took everyone's criticisms great yesterday, and appreciated it all. I posted b/c my friends and family would just say "oh yeah, those are great" as to not hurt my feelings. I wanted honest opinions from people who don't care to not hurt my feelings.

Also, if you look at my post, I did change several things, and shortened it a lot.

fallbride1109 · July 2010

I really don't think changing my name is nearly as important as Ben does. Frankly, I'm tired of hearing about it.

NMac2010 · July 2010

Also....if I hadn't asked y'alls opinion, I would have gone to my ceremony reading a book, and probably would have lost our guests about 2 minutes in. I also got to see a few lines that people took a different way than I intentionally meant them to be taken, and realized if they took them that way, someone else may too, so it would be better if I get rid of them or change them.

So, I really got a lot of value from the feedback I got, and don't regret posting my vows at all.

Mariah&Steven · July 2010

NMac, no I wasn't talking your post at all!

fallbride1109 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-19?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:d35369a3-a1d5-4134-8c3e-d133bb534400Post:35d82dcf-69e7-4bc6-a582-0d942c8e07a3">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]wow Tiffany. I'm so amazed at how much facebook and just the internet in general has changed the social norms. It what messed up world is it ok to apologize to a family member for not showing up at their wedding? You can't pick up a phone and at least have a conversation? Honestly?! To me it just says "hey, I kind of feel guilty about what I did, but I don't care enough to actually call and have a conversation about it. I'll just let you know while I'm online updating my status letting everyone know that I like koala bears"
Posted by balfour00[/QUOTE]
I nearly spit out my Coke on this one!

My BFF from HS who didn't attend my shower or even bother to RSVP for my wedding sent me a FB message wanting to get together. I let her know in no uncertain terms what I thought of that.

I could spend an entire FFF on what I hate about Facebook.

NMac2010 · July 2010

Mariah, no I know you weren't. I think Steph was.

Tiffany618 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-19?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:d35369a3-a1d5-4134-8c3e-d133bb534400Post:35d82dcf-69e7-4bc6-a582-0d942c8e07a3">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]. I'll just let you know while I'm online updating my status letting everyone know that I like koala bears"
Posted by balfour00[/QUOTE]

I want to let you know that I'm not exaggerating in the LEAST that I burst into laughter in my office when I read this. In fact, I'm still laughing.

Seriously though, it's unacceptable. What's worse is that they aren't younger than me... in fact the youngest one is 32... and all of them are married with kids.

Mariah&Steven · July 2010

I flipping hate FB and even new smartphones. You know, I haven't seen or really talked to my mom in a month. She got in town last week and we got together Saturday to go shopping. Want to know what she did the WHOLE way to Denton? Messed with her phone. For the first 20 minutes of the car ride she was talking to my Aunt...so my husband and I (trying to not be rude and too loud) drove in silence. Eventually, Steve didn't care, and turned the radio up so that we'd at least have something to listen to instead of her conversation. Then she spent the next 20 minutes messing with ringtones and sending text messages. Thanks a lot mom.

It also annoys me when I get on an elevator and the person just doesn't even look up from their phone. They just type away...and then when the doors open they move slow as a glacier to get off of it and walk in the middle of the hallway so that I can't get around them. It's like, "Get off your da** phone!"

I also think people rely too much on text messages. Whatever happened to having conversations with people? I think when this generation of kids gets older they're going to have MAJOR issues with communicating to people.

fallbride1109 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-19?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:d35369a3-a1d5-4134-8c3e-d133bb534400Post:692d6dd8-e8f6-46dc-989e-02415c18cf82">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE] I also think people rely too much on text messages. Whatever happened to having conversations with people? I think when this generation of kids gets older they're going to have MAJOR issues with communicating to people.
Posted by Mariah&Steven[/QUOTE]

This. I already see it with my daughter and her friends.

BanannaP · July 2010

I take way too many pictures of my cat.

I hate when people say preggo or preggers.

ezzyv · July 2010

I like FB apps.

But I don't ask people to play. Some people are persistant in making them play their FB games. And they are too spammy.

Tiffany618 · July 2010

Anna- ditto on Prego and Preggers. Grosses me out.

Moist does too... like moist cake. I'm sorry but moist pops a mental picture of warm bacteria growing inside my cake.

stephl3055 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-19?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:d35369a3-a1d5-4134-8c3e-d133bb534400Post:1de9e61e-8d31-4810-9db9-ca065ef2e94e">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]Mariah, no I know you weren't. I think Steph was.
Posted by NMac2010[/QUOTE]

I was sort of talking about yours. When I first saw you post it, I was thinking to myself what I wrote in FFF. However, I have honestly never seen anyone take the advice they were given about their vows, except you. So that part I don't flame.

Most people get all offended when people give them honest feedback on their vows (or anything), which is what makes me mad.

angieandjames · July 2010

A client just called and yelled at me for not having his tax return completed yet (it's been extended). It made me cry, and I do not get paid enough for some guy to be mean to me and make me cry.

sparklingdiamond · July 2010

I seriously get pissed off at people who just yell at other people. Is it that hard to express yourself respectfully? I can't tell you how many times I have been yelled at when I worked as a cashier at Whole Foods. It was all about stuff that wasn't even my fault!

The worst complaint on me while I worked there though....someone complained that my back fat was showing....really people? Get a life!

SoonToBeMrsHoz · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-19?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:d35369a3-a1d5-4134-8c3e-d133bb534400Post:aa72f1c3-03de-493d-94bb-afe465d32e4e">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]We used to have some really heated FFFs back in the day. I'm not sure why it's changed really because there are still quite a few people around now that were here a few years ago. I wonder if it's because we're afraid to offend all the new people? Posted by steph13055[/QUOTE]

I don't understand why there is a need to offend or flame other knotties anyway??
I will admit there are a couple people who make me cringe when I read their posts and what they have to say, but this is a public and free forum, where anyone should be able to say what they feel without being attacked.

If I don't like something I read, I just skip the post and don't feel the need to attack the person because this board is generally full of very nice ladies all with the common goal of planning a nice wedding and sure , questions will be repeated 1000 times and if you have been around to see it that many times, then you can skip that post. And if someone says something that you think is "flame-worthy", again skip it.

I don't understand why there is a need to attack or "flame" other knot members.

Disclaimer: this is not an attack or a flame. Just a why can't we all just get along post.

balfour00 · July 2010

Totally flaming the words - moist and loaf
I don't think there could be two more unappealing words.

I'm taking a half day today to get some things done before the folks and sis arrive for the weekend. I'm heading to Sam Moon to look at jewelry for the bridemaids. If I"m not back on here Monday, send help. I'll most likely be weeping in the corner mubbling something about rhinestones or pearls? chandeliers or studs, chokers or chains.

Have a good rest of the day and FLAME ON!

PS. I really do like koala bears. Didn't mean to call them out in my rant. They never hurt anybody

Mariah&Steven · July 2010

Why we can't all just get along: Because in real life, not everyone gets along. And sometimes it's nice to be able to say what you think without having to feel like you're going to hurt someone's feelings. Sometimes you just need to say what's on your mind.

This is the other part of the knot that drives me bonkers. I'm not trying to be mean, I'm trying to make a point and yes, I COULD just skip a post (and sometimes I do because I know I'm not going to like it and a lot of times lately I haven't even posted in a thread because I couldn't find a nice way to say what I was thinking). And no one is attacking anyone. I'm definitely not attacking anyone, just stating some points.

Tiffany618 · July 2010

I posted my own "why can't everyone just get along" post when I was new here. I really felt that way too at one time...

You come to realize though that FFF isn't about flaming other knotties... it is about letting everything out that is on your mind. Since this is a wedding forum, sometimes its about knotties, about wedding trends in general, things/people in our lives, etc.

If you don't like it though, you don't have to read it. That's what you just told us to do when we don't like something.

fallbride1109 · July 2010

I think Sam Moon is a waste of time. Everything I've ever gotten there has turned my skin green. I got broaches to pin on my BMs wraps and they barely held, were flimsy, hard to pin, etc. There's a reason why the stuff is so cheap.

Mariah&Steven · July 2010

I went to Sam Moon once. I wasn't all that impressed. Maybe I need to go again and see if I'll find something I like this time. I'm sure the reason why I wasn't impressed when I went was because I was still in college and had zero money to spend.

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