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(long vent) Frustrated with FI grrr...

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in Minnesota-Minneapolis and St. Paul
Last summer I was looking into setting up a wedding website on TK and some other sites. Well, FI is a web programmer, so he insisted on me letting him build us a website. He made this really pretty front page with our picture, the wedding date, and a way for guests to add their email address to a list to get update notifications. 8 months later, that is still the only thing on there. Our wedding is 3 months away, the invites are going out soon, and people continually are asking me and our parents when the website will get updated and all sorts of things that should be on the website, like what time the ceremony will be. I've asked him about it a million times. I've even given him a list of things that should be on the site. All he has to do is add more pages and copy/paste what I have already written for him. I'm so ticked because he insisted on doing this himself. It's the only wedding planning thing he really got excited about, and he has totally dropped the ball. I don't know what to do. I'm so close to just making one on TK and being done with it. 
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  • ssminy79ssminy79
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    edited December 2011
    I feel your pain!!  My FI is hardly involved.  In fact, he hasn't even looked at our website...he has NO clue what is on it....He is composing all of the music for the ceremony, but other than that...I could wear a bag over my head and I think he would be ok with that....maybe not, but sometimes I wonder.

    Hang in there!!  Are you close with your FMIL?  Maybe she could push him a bit...HTH!!!
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  • debbieupperdebbieupper member
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    edited December 2011
    You could share how you're feeling with your FI. Maybe you've already done that. But if I was in your position, I'd say exactly what you said above to him directly. At least then the ball is in his court!
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  • hkieslinghkiesling member
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    edited December 2011
    Why don't you just set up another site (like on weebly.com) and have your FI add a link to it from your main wedding website.  Then, you can put everything you on there and your FI can add the content to the main site as he has time.
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  • kkaew816kkaew816 member
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    edited December 2011
    I like hkiesling's idea sounds like it would be a great compromise and may get his butt in gear!
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  • Steph0871Steph0871
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    edited December 2011
    Heather beat me to it!  If nothing else, then you can show him exactly what you want.  He can just copy and paste when he has the time, if he prefers it be on the site he designs.
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  • ef7310ef7310
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks guys! 
    I have told him how I feel, and he knows that he needs to get this done. He's kind of a perfectionist, but doesn't always have the right priorities. We talked about it, and he said he'd written more code for it a few weeks ago, but it was code to make the site load faster--not exactly a main concern when no one is going to the site in the first place because it has no content! 

    I like the idea of making a weebly site. I think I'll try that so he can see what needs to be done. 
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  • kassie411kassie411
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    edited December 2011
    My fiance' did the same thing to me except it was the magnets for the "save the dates" he is a graphic designer and wanted to make them for free instead of buying them.  Two months later I ended up ordering postcards and then started addressing the envelopes.  That made him totally get his butt in gear because either way I was sending them out with or without his contribution.

    (he did end up going to work on a weekend and coming back with 70 EXTRA magnets because he had no clue how many to make.. he'd forgotten)

    Good Luck.  I think weebly is good, I'm using that for my site and you can just put a link on the site he made to redirect you.

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