So, I'm completely North American (grew up in both Canada and the States) but with an Indian background, and my boyfriend was born and brought up in India.
We've talked about marriage, and we know w're getting married. In Indian culture the parents kinda meet the other parents, take a look at the proppective bride-grrom, see if the familes are compatible, give the couple their blessing, and the families proceed to pick a wedding date.
My bf's family has already come over to my house, just for a chat. This week, we go over to the bf's house - it is established that we will be engaged by the end of that meeting. I thought I would be super excited about the engagement, but I'm not. I think its cause being brought up here, I always wanted the guy to surprise me one weekend, get down on one knee and propose. I guess I'm feeling disappointed.
I should be happy - but I really wanted a proposal. I know other Indian couples where they were engaged through the family, and then the fiancee took the girl out and proposed with a ring and all (or they proposed, and then had the families meet), but those fiancees were Indians brought up HERE, so they understood how important asking was. I'm not sure my bf understands that this is important to me, even though I've brought it up.
Sorry for the long post - I do love my boyfriend, and I very much want to marry him. I dont' want to sound like a whiny nit. I know in the end, its important that he too wants to be with me, and we're takig the steps to marriage.