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Why is this about everyone but us?
I am SO FED UP WITH EVERYONE!!! This wedding has turned out to be about everyone but my fiance and I. well, not everyone, but you get the picture. First off, my uncle has been complaining about the wedding date (9/4) since we announced the date last May. If he can't complain about something, he is unhappy. First it was him asking my parents "are you really going to let her marry him?" really? now its "im not coming, im having a get together that weekend at my cabin. Im not coming." THEN DONT COME!!!! Just STOP BRINGING ME DOWN!!! Then it was my cousin/moh. "Its my birthday weekend I cant believe you would choose to have your wedding on MY birthday weekend." What are we, 8? Are you kidding me?? So I confronted her last week and asked her if she really even wanted to be in the wedding and she said she does, but is taking care of her grandma a few hours away and cant be here for me. Well we need to get the orders for the dresses in, like, NOW and she cant make it down here, and still hasnt found a place to get measured up where she is. >:( Oh theres more. None of the ushers/groomsmen have gotten measured for their tuxes yet. I know we have time, but why wait til the last minute? And one of the ushers said " i have never worn a tux as an usher, why do I have to?" BECAUSE I WANT YOU TO!!!!!! I have been so easy going about everything and literally have let everyone walk all over me, and I am DONE. This is suppose to be MY DAY. I ask for ONE day out of the entire year, and this is what I get. I am so fed up. If I could cancel everything right now and get all my money back, I would. I regret deciding to have a ceremony. I wish I just would have gone to the court house. I am just beyond fed up.......
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Re: Why is this about everyone but us?
1. Tell your uncle to have a wonderful weekend at his cabin and be done with him. If anyone wants to talk to you about him, raise your hand and say "Not going there."
2. As far as your cousin, let her know that you will have a happy birthday balloon tied to the back of her chair at the reception. Make some time to go to where she is, and go with her to get measured. It does not look like she is going to do it on her own.
3. For the ushers/groomsmen, call the tux place, make an appt. and tell them to meet the groom there ON THAT DAY and of they can't they must find time THE WEEK BEFORE so that by the time the group goes, everyone will be done. If they can't find the time, let them know that there is a chance they will be replaced because people cant just drag their feet because they can. This is not about them and if it was something that they WANTED to do, they would find the time.
4. Everyone taking away from you feeling good and positive about your wedding, SCREW THEM!!! Stop talking to people who don't have your happiness FIRST!!!! I had to do this this past week and I feel sooooo good and free. I am not dealing with any negativity AT ALL from ANYONE. Our wedding day is about US!! OUR happiness. OUR wants. If there is anyone who isnt smiling on OUR wedding day, they don't need to be there in the first place. You only get ONE day to be the center of attention, usually, in your LIFE. Here on out it will be about the couple and then kids. And after kids, the word "ME" will rarely come out of your mouth. Tell the negativity to beat it!! Finish planning your wedding and I will be thinking about you on that day especially cause that's the day of my shower!!! Let US plan to have a BALL!!!!
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[QUOTE]I am SO FED UP WITH EVERYONE!!! This wedding has turned out to be about everyone but my fiance and I. well, not everyone, but you get the picture. First off, my uncle has been complaining about the wedding date (9/4) since we announced the date last May. If he can't complain about something, he is unhappy. First it was him asking my parents "are you really going to let her marry him?" really? now its "im not coming, im having a get together that weekend at my cabin. Im not coming." THEN DONT COME!!!! Just STOP BRINGING ME DOWN!!! Then it was my cousin/moh. "Its my birthday weekend I cant believe you would choose to have your wedding on MY birthday weekend." What are we, 8? Are you kidding me?? So I confronted her last week and asked her if she really even wanted to be in the wedding and she said she does, but is taking care of her grandma a few hours away and cant be here for me. Well we need to get the orders for the dresses in, like, NOW and she cant make it down here, and still hasnt found a place to get measured up where she is. />:( Oh theres more. None of the ushers/groomsmen have gotten measured for their tuxes yet. I know we have time, but why wait til the last minute? And one of the ushers said " i have never worn a tux as an usher, why do I have to?" BECAUSE I WANT YOU TO!!!!!! I have been so easy going about everything and literally have let everyone walk all over me, and I am DONE. This is suppose to be MY DAY. I ask for ONE day out of the entire year, and this is what I get. I am so fed up. If I could cancel everything right now and get all my money back, I would. I regret deciding to have a ceremony. I wish I just would have gone to the court house. I am just beyond fed up.......
Posted by jennrose_03@yahoo.com[/QUOTE]
1. First off, the title says <em>us</em>, but this whole post is a b*tch fit that screams "IT'S ALL ABOUT ME!!!" Well, frankly, it isn't. You have a fiance, and it's his wedding too. Where is he in all this? And, like it or not, you have families who have feelings and opinions.
2. As pp said, tell your uncle you hope he has a nice weekend, and forget about it. He doesn't sound like he wants to be there, so why would you want him there?
3. True, it might be bad taste for your MOH to whine about her birthday, but it's still her birthday and the universe doesn't revolve around you just because you're getting married. If she wants to be in your wedding, she will be. Make sure you acknowledge her birthday, and let her know you care.
4. Your best response to the tux question is "BECAUSE I WANT YOU TO!" Seriously?! If you didn't want ushers to wear their own suits, did you ask them if they could afford to rent something else? If they said they couldn't or you bother to ask, then I don't see why this guy is in the wrong. Just because attendants are expected to wear what the bride or groom asks them to doesn't mean you get to railroad them.
5. You're going to cancel your wedding because you can't have things the way you want? What are your priorities here? Getting your "perfect" day? Or marrying the man you promised to?
Its 1 of very few long weekends and people go away with their families. As long as you knew that upfront (and their is nothing wrong with having your wedding on a holiday weeked) you should have expected some opinions about the date that you would not have gotten if you chose another weeked.
The rest of your post sounds like this:
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If you didn't want to deal with people declining the invite, people having birthdays, people not having the means to do things "your" way (Which, FYI, ushers do not have to wear tuxes and "because I want you to" is hardly a valid reason), then you should have never included anybody else.
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DX: PCOS/Recurrent losses/MTHFR mutation (compound hetero)
5 hysteroscopies/2 surgical
3 Inject IUIs = 2 m/c's and 1 BFN
IVF #1= BFP. m/c at 7w6d. Needed 2 D&C's and scar tissue removal. Mild OHSS
IVF #2 = BFP. Severe OHSS. 4 Drainings. TWINS!
Good luck and have fun with it, it will be here before you know it!
Calm down. Not everyone is going to be able to devote every waking moment to your wedding. These people are your guests, not your dolls to play dress up with.
I knwo it's frustrating but seriously breeeathe.
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Focus on what matters, put your head down and keep planning!!
I know it's hard to put your frustrations aside, but just try your best. I'm sure your day will work out no matter who shows up, dressed in what, with whatever attitude!
Make it the best day for YOU! :-)