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malibustacy01
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What is the etiquette about late gifts?
So everywhere I look up has all sorts of etiquette regarding late thank yous, but what about when the bride and groom recieve late gifts? My husband and I have been married two months now, and we just received a card and cash from his aunt and uncle who were unable to attend. I'm going to write them a thank you, but is there any etiquette around this subject? Is it tacky to give a couple a gift x amount of time after the wedding? Is the bride and groom suppose to still write thank you's as the gifts come, regardless of when? Any advice would be appreciated!
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Re: What is the etiquette about late gifts?
IMO, it's proper etiquette to send a thank you note whenever you receive a gift; regardless of when you receive it.
And you always send a thank you.
[QUOTE]People can give a gift for up to 1 year after your wedding. And you always send a thank you.
Posted by golden1215[/QUOTE]
this.
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No, no and no! This is a very common myth.
Gifts should be given to the couple in advance of the wedding, at the wedding, or as soon after the wedding as is possible.
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[QUOTE]People can give a gift for up to 1 year after your wedding. No, no and no! This is a very common myth. Gifts should be given to the couple in advance of the wedding, at the wedding, or as soon after the wedding as is possible.
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]
so should she not give a thank you?
and maybe 2 months after was as soon as they had the cash gift to give...
[QUOTE]People can give a gift for up to 1 year after your wedding. No, no and no! This is a very common myth. Gifts should be given to the couple in advance of the wedding, at the wedding, or as soon after the wedding as is possible.
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]
I'm not saying that you should wait one year, but it isn't really "late" if it is a gift. Yes, most people give gifts before the wedding, but many people do know and believe in this rule so it isn't wrong. My view is that a gift is never really late, as it never had to be given in the first place.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What is the etiquette about late gifts? : I'm not saying that you should wait one year, but it isn't really "late" if it is a gift. Yes, most people give gifts before the wedding, but many people do know and believe in this rule so it isn't wrong.<strong> My view is that a gift is never really late, as it never had to be given in the first place.
</strong>Posted by redheadfsu[/QUOTE]
Yup. If you get a gift, you write a thank-you. Period. Regardless of when the gift comes or what it's for.
and just because a majority of folks believe in somehting, doesnt make it true.
Q. How soon should I send a gift?
A. Preferably, send the gift to the bride before the wedding or to the couple soon thereafter. In some regions gifts are brought to the reception and placed on a special table. Contrary to a current rumor that you have a year to send a gift, it really should be sent right away or within three months of the wedding.
[QUOTE]from emily post: Q. How soon should I send a gift? A. Preferably, send the gift to the bride before the wedding or to the couple soon thereafter. In some regions gifts are brought to the reception and placed on a special table. Contrary to a current rumor that you have a year to send a gift, it really should be sent right away or within three months of the wedding.
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]
But Emily Post also believes that gifts are required when you receive an invitation, and other etiquette authorities such as Miss Manners disagree. If you believe a gift is not mandatory, then it can't really be late. Regardless, the bride and groom should graciously accept all gifts regardless of when they arrive.
Really, OP, what do you want to do? Send the gift back because it wasn't received on your schedule? Of course you should send a thank you note as soon as possible - that's always the rule.
[QUOTE]So everywhere I look up has all sorts of etiquette regarding late thank yous, but what about when the bride and groom recieve late gifts? My husband and I have been married two months now, and we just received a card and cash from his aunt and uncle who were unable to attend. I'm going to write them a thank you, but is there any etiquette around this subject? I<strong>s it tacky to give a couple a gift x amount of time after the wedding? Is the bride and groom suppose to still write thank you's as the gifts come, regardless of when?</strong> Any advice would be appreciated!
Posted by malibustacy01[/QUOTE]
Why would it be tacky for someone to be generous regardless of the time it was given? And why would you NOT thank the giver again, regardless of the time received? I'm sorry I just think this is an absurd question.
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Seriously, it's just nice that they even gave a gift. Personally, for friends who have registered for china and such, sometimes I like to wait until they're settled in a bit and then finish off the odds and ends on their registry - a plate here, a cup there, etc. Just because it's 30 days after the wedding doesn't make my gift "rude." It's a GIFT.
And, thank you notes are always required.
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[QUOTE]from emily post: Q. How soon should I send a gift? A. Preferably, send the gift to the bride before the wedding or to the couple soon thereafter. In some regions gifts are brought to the reception and placed on a special table. Contrary to a current rumor that you have a year to send a gift, it really should be sent right away or within three months of the wedding.
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]
This is Emily Post's position, however many others disagree and believe the one year rule. Using your logic, just because Emily Post says it doesn't make it true. See how that works?
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